* hypergamy is real

while the manosphere poo-poos female hypergamy, males also select mates based upon the "best option."  the difference is this:

• a man wants his best option right now, and (eventually, when he runs out of options) for the long-term,  
• a woman wants her best option for right now, and she wants her best option for the long term, now.
• in other words, she wants both (or all) options.

while most men would sleep with most women... because most men can't, 

most women would not sleep with most men, because most women can.

the high-testosterone male has a constant urge-to-merge, 
while the female of the human species has more of an urge when she is ovulating 

(or competing), or on vacation (away from her current best option).

hypergamy exists within both males and females, and there is nothing wrong with a person who test-drives a few different cars before settling-down with one.  

in 2025, women also have the option of sex with other women, so the whole smorgasbord is on her plate.  a heterosexual male needs to be in the top 10% if he intends to have optionality in the sexual marketplace.

most (the lower 90-percent) will:

• settle
• acquiesce 
• relinquish frame
• follow society's unwritten rules
• live lives of misery

gentlemen, the only way to play this (current version of the) game is to work on yourself.  become the upper-tier male.  

dudes: do what you can to become a better version of yourself, and do this for yourself.  repeat.