Thursday, July 31, 2025

b126 (7.31-1.2025): i am your dream [wo-man]

i am your dream (wo-man)
by a. friend
 
i am your dream (wo-man)
and i shall not pre-tend
the only thing i’d like (for us) is you & i (as friends)
____________________
martino, j. (7.31-1.2025). i am your dream. book 126: dreaming the deam. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

* life is but a...

...attraction.

life is but attraction
you & i just might
just have a chain-reaction, now, that puts this bird in flight

just have a co-contraction that results in more than me
you and i just might
create a little wIe


(let's see)

____________________ 

  • wIe are y/our destin-y 

Wednesday, July 30, 2025

b126 (7.30-1.2025): they called me dream-machine

they called me dream machine
by a. dreaming machine
 
they called me dream-machine... (a dream not really mine)
they called me dream-machine
they told me it was fine
 
they told me where to go, what role to play and how to be
they made my life insane (again),
they called me dream-machine


___________________
 
·       do not chase fame.  once in the web, escape is mission i’m-possible.
____________________
martino, j. (7.30-1.2025). they called me dream-machine. book 126: dreaming the dream. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us 

* gentlemen...

1. do not yearn for the 9s & 10s.  if you ever date one, you will hate the process.

2. beware of the 5s & 6s that think of themselves as 8s & 9s.  think: what does she (really... besides just being female) bring to the table?

3. would you chase a male friend if (a) you had to always pay his way, (b) you had to listen to his emotional negativity, (c) you had to spend time watching him scroll on his cellphone, and/or (d) he didn't want you to have any other friends?  think about that.

4. cultivate hobbies, interests.  get fit.  enjoy clean-eating.  join groups of like-minded souls.

* meet the woman of your eye-candy dreams by having fun with people who like the things that you like. become a better man, and your dream woman will find you! :)

b126 (7.30-1.2025): anxiety

anxiety
by a. n. xious
 
chronic dis-position
lost society
doom is in the social room, uh,
FOOM!
anxiety
____________________
 
·       it’s as if people have this cloud of doom, hanging over their lives… resulting in depression and/or the type of living-for-the-moment that negates future wellness.

·       it’s like a cancer that won’t reel itself-in; a hunger… with no sense of control over a future imposed by the most powerful.
 
although i try to return to gratitude, my mind drifts (often) to (1) ASI, (2) thermonuclear war, (3) climate change, (4) pandemics, (5) societal dissolution into madness, etc.
 
with NowHere else to go, we might as well stay.  maybe my mission is to facilitate a few smiles, along the way.

--------------------------------------------

last week, a student (who has been chronically late, unprepared, etc.) put it all together:
·       uniform, extra sharp
·       greeting (well-planned)
·       warm-ups
·       cardio & strength segments (well-planned)
·       cool-down & relaxation
·       feedback session (just the way we train it)
 
a few months ago, this student’s mother was complaining about me (to our dean)… but last thursday, i verbally congratulated him on his best day, his best performance… in our program.

i only wish his mother could have seen it.
😊
instead of anxiety, we all experienced a peak moment: a memory (and a real, good one at that).
____________________
martino, j. (7.30-1.2025). anxiety. book 126: dreaming the dream. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us 

* committed-relationship thoughts

when a male commits to a female, he relinquishes optionality, 
which reduces her competition-anxiety -- and results in her respecting him less!

the ultimate commitment, of course, is marriage.  society would have us believe that (within this construct) a man's new purpose in life is to constantly attempt (and fail) at keeping his 'wife' from being unhappy.

he (from this point forward) has to 'ask for permission' 
...prior to doing things that a single man... 
just does

a man learns (very quickly) that a woman with the upper-hand will punish (in a variety of ways), so he had better behave in a way that (momentarily) makes her less unhappy. 

lesson 1: commitment makes his life worse.

lesson 2: cohabitation makes life even more worse, and makes it harder to get rid of her.

lesson 3: marriage drives the nails into his self-made coffin... with bleak hope for future peace & love.

lesson 4: children link him with this dream-crusher... until death.

the reason why a man willingly travels down this highwbay-to-in-hell is his (perceived) addiction to her you-know-what, which he will experience less and less and less and less of (over the course of this very bad dream).  

------------------------------------------------------------

just imagine if sexy the used-car dealer said this:

sir!  this car is you!  stop test-driving and commit now... because time is running out.  sure, she's got excessive a few miles on her and her best years are behind her... but her exterior is buffed-up and ready to go!  heck, throw a party for her (and do not skimp on the ring accessories)! 

small print: massive down-payment, breaks-down regularly, extremely high maintenance, warms-up slowly and goes icy-cold in an instant. will depreciate quickly and forever. can't be depended-upon to get you where you want to go, and this will only get worse with time. has been involved in several 'accidents'. has the kind of legal baggage (e.g. in-laws, kids, pets) that you'll end up paying for, indefinitely. your money and time and freedom are now under her control. she's finnicky. she stalls when bored (which is often). she won't initiate fun start-ups, but will continuously initiate mind-tests & challenges that are designed to repress your manhood further and further... until you are a shell of a driver (hiding in your overstuffed garage). 

forget peace. 
love? haahahhaahahaha!

note: she won't know that $he is doing any of the above (in fact, $he will believe that everything $he does is for you).

oh, and you can never, ever purchase, or rent, or drive, or even look at any other car (ever) again. of course, if you pour enough of your resources into her, she won't even allow you to even think of any other cars. no car porn.

oh, one final thing: on a whim, she is free to allow others to ride-the-hell out of her, and will blame you for her 'indiscretions' because her "needs weren't being met."

sign here: ________________________________  date___/___/_____

* the seller is not responsible for any other undocumented, undisclosed, unanticipated legal, social, emotional isses, or any other past baggage or future breakdowns.


Tuesday, July 29, 2025

b126 (7.29-2.2025): everybody's hiding something

everybody’s hiding something
by one o. fus
 
everybody’s hiding something (pure self-loathing hides)
egos (so afraid) to be the One who opens i-s
____________________
 
·       so what is an ego to do-Be-do?
 
re-cognize that the dark night of the soul is just a dream.  wallow in it.  learn from it.
____________________
martino, j. (7.29-2.2025). everybody’s hiding something. book 126: dreaming the dream. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

Monday, July 28, 2025

b126 (7.29-1.2025): simps

simps
by notta simp
 
simps present the best of us, not hard, not soft, not limp
simps do the best they can (to help fellow wo-man), they’re
simps
___________________
 
·       simple, yes.
·       good, yes. 
·       do as their told, yes. 
·       hopeful, yes.
·       alone, lonely, yes.
·       left, abandoned, yes.
·       maybe we should address…
 
simps.  they make the mistake of saving the other, first… which leaves the self, last.  this results in the simp’s death/loss/wimpiness… which means that his best intentions -- result in pain.
 
don’t be a simp.
____________________
martino, j. (7.29-1.2025). simps. book 126: dreaming the dream. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

b126 (7.28-1.2025): billie augered-in

billie augered-in
by a. dre amer
 
billie augered-in
pilot error, strikes
maybe it’s a sin, although he did it how he likes

now we do the visitation, cry with next of kin
billie was my friend my friends, and
billie augered-in
____________________
 
·       to “auger-it-in” (in aviation) suggests a nosedive: the propellar acts as an auger, digging-into the ground.
 
·       it’s a pilot’s way of saying (but not saying) that a fellow pilot didn’t have “the right stuff” to survive the maneuver.  it’s a nice way of hinting that “he screwed-up.”
 
in life, it’s similar: your closest friends (after you’ve augered-it-in) will distance themselves from a behavior of yours that contributed.*  they might even distance themselves from you.
 
maybe it’s a grief-mechanism, but maybe it’s an ego’s way of one-upping.
____________________
martino, j. (7.28-1.2025). billie augered-in. book 126: dreaming the dream. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

* if you auger-it-in nowadays, there will be many adversaries that are all-too-willing to point out how you screwed-up.  some of them might be your closest acquaintances.  

Sunday, July 27, 2025

* BRAVO! letter

xxxxxx xxxxxxxx
July 27, 2025
 
Dear Mrs. xxxxxxxx,
 
Just a few months ago, you came to campus for a discussion about xxxxxx’s participation in xxxxxxxxxxxxxx, specifically, my Group Exercise Instruction Course. 
 
It is my pleasure to report that, since then, xxxxxx has shown excellence in punctuality and attendance.  In fact, he was the only student to attend a Fitness Program Development lab recently, when there was some confusion over class.  xxxxxx has shown maturity, knowledge, and dedication.
 
Last Thursday was (based upon my observations) his best day as a xxxxxxxxxxxx Student.  While playing the role of student trainer, and with two observers watching:
·       His uniform was extra sharp, as he opted for the polo shirt instead of the t-shirt.
·       His greeting was well-planned, as he pre-viewed and re-viewed his client’s workouts.
·       His warm-up plan was crisp, timely.
·       The cardio & strength segments were well-planned.
·       The cool-down & relaxation segments were effective.
·       He conducted the feedback session -- just the way we train it.
·       He managed time well, and his performance showed others the way to conduct a personal training session from start to finish.
 
All I can say… is BRAVO xxxxxx!
 
I kept thinking, during the session: “I wish his mom could see this.  xxxxxx is on!”  
 
xxxxxx, I’d like to thank you for supporting xxxxxx on this journey.  His growth (through our Coaching Course, our Group Exercise Program, and now, Personal Training) has been extremely satisfying to be a part of.
 
Sincerely,
 
 
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Faculty, xxxxxxxxxxxx xx
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
xxx-xxx-xxxx 

Saturday, July 26, 2025

b126 (7.27-1.2025): get comfortable with the unknown

get comfortable with the unknown
by a. dre amer
 
the dreamer in the Dream
that crazy word: atone
get comfortable with chaos
a world of the unknown
____________________
 
·       dreams are believable in the moment of the Dream, but give-way to Reality.

·       a bad trip (e.g. LSD) would give-way to its Ending.

·       a good trip (this life) can give-way (in the moment) to ego-ic thoughts:
  o   will this journey end?
  o   will i lose all i have?
  o   will freedoms be taken away?
  o   will there be war, famine, chaos, change?
 
is it possible be become less attached to survival/thrival, and to accept the past, present and future?
____________________
martino, j. (7.27-1.2025). get comfortable with chaos. book 126: dreaming the dream. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us 

Friday, July 25, 2025

b126 (7.26-1.2025): thank you, jo & al


thank you, al & jo
by a. dre amer
 
thank you, al & jo for the invitation/Play
thank you, jo & al for the roller-coaster way
 
thank you for the contrast
thank you for the sun
thank you for the times i thought i was the only One
thank you for the fam
thank you for i/we
thank you for the chance to think and dance and taste and Sea
____________________
 
·       thank you.
____________________
martino, j. (7.26-1.2025). thank you, jo & al. book 126: dreaming the dream. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us 

b126 (7.25-1.1015): thank you, hummingbird

thank you, hummingbird
by a. dream
 
thank you, hummingbird
for sipping here, with me
you like the watered-sugar while my drug of choice: coffee
 
as spinners spin, tree-branches sway amid the gentle breeze
as workers go to work
i’m living in a dream 
____________________
 
·       thank you, hummingbird, for taking me away from my own thoughts about what others may or may not think of me… and for helping me blend back into Uni-Verse-all connection… if only for a moment.
____________________
martino, j. (7.25-1.2025). thank you, hummingbird. book 126: dreaming the dream. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us 

Thursday, July 24, 2025

b126 (7.24-1.2025): take me away (tomorrow)

alternative titles: 
God, take me away 
thank you


take me away (tomorrow)
by a. way
 
take me away (tomorrow)
take take take me away
God, take me home tomorrow
for i have lived (today)
____________________
 
·       if i were to die tomorrow, i’d be grateful – for today.
____________________
martino, j. (7.24-1.2025). take me away (tomorrow). book 126: dreaming-dreams. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us. 

Tuesday, July 22, 2025

b126 (7.23-2.2025): lemmings quote their script-u-res

lemmings quote their gospel
by a. lemming 
 
lemmings quote their gospel and we never question why
the verses, contradictions, savage-diction make them high
 
the editing/translations
the power-driven text
the men who tell you what to think (don’t even blink):
 
what’s next?
____________________
 
·       because lemmings can’t question (how) the bibles were created, (who) actually wrote the words, (when) they were actually written, (what) was determined to be non-biblical or heretical, or (where) the original man-u-scripts are, now.

·       lemmings are afraid to ask (they are prohibited from asking) the tough questions.
____________________
martino, j. (7.23-1.2025). lemmings quote their gospel. book 126: dreaming-dreams. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us. 

Monday, July 21, 2025

b126 (7.22-1.2025): bridge pose

bridge pose
by a. b. ridge 
 
unite one side (with other)
invite (not over-dose)
not right or wrong (un-cover)
don’t fight (Unite!):
bridge pose
 
instead of distance: close
____________________
 
·       one of my missions is to bridge the gap between warring lefts & rights, religious’ & spiritual-but-not, gators & ‘noles, and (seemingly) oppositical poles.
____________________
martino, j. (7.22-1.2025). bridge pose. book 126: dreaming-dreams. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us.
 
* it’s not a pose, really, so-much as a flow. 

* "my needs weren't being met"

 imagine this role-reversal:

imagine if husbands were guaranteed a 'win' in divorce court (you know, the house, the car, the dog and his desired visitation for the kids).  imagine if he would receive alimony & child support (in other words, he'd be better-off financially due to the divorce).

imagine if his community of friends gathered around him in support, and imagine if (now single), he had many, many, many, many sexual opportunities.  imagine if women (of all ages) were now hitting on him

imagine if he could brush-off any indiscretions (and even justify the reason for the divorce) due to his needs, not being met.

imagine that...

then... think of a married man who you know, and ask yourself: 

"would he stay married?"  

Sunday, July 20, 2025

b126 (7.21-1.2025): the birds & the bugs

the birds & the bugs
by a. bee ing 
 
if backyard birds & bugs could talk, well what might birds/bugs say?
 
“thank you for the nectar”
“come along and play”
“what might you be doing on this warm & lonely day?”
 
“who’s that giant human?”
“get away!  let’s fight!”
“what might you be doing on this cold and lonely night?”
😊
____________________
 
·       it’s a high probability that their conversation would re-evolve around survival: food, water, shelter, territory and (maybe... just may--bee) sex.
 
maybe bugs are h-you-man, and versa-vice.
____________________
martino, j. (7.21-1.2025). the birds & the bugs. book 126: dreaming-dreams. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

b126 (7.20-2.2025): cracker-jack-box diamond

cracker-jack-box diamond
by alltha t. matters & ishi s. pain  
 
alternative titles:
cracker-jack-box wedding ring, 
or
“how much did it cost?”

 
cracker-jack-box diamond
“it’s your lucky day!”
what then is its value?
how much did he pay?”
____________________
 
·       imagine if a man got lucky, and the prize in the cracker-jack-box was a million-dollar engagement ring that fit his future bride’s finger perfectly!
 
·       the ring’s perceived value would be nil… since the ‘true’ value of her ring is the amount that he is willing to pay for it.
 
·       engagement rings are status symbols.  nothing more.
____________________
martino, j. (7.20-1.2025). cracker-jack-box diamond. book 126: dreaming-dreams. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us
 
* yes, this thoem will fly over the heads of most… but men understand (intuitively) that her joy/his status is determined by how much he was willing to pay… even if it (his willingness/her need) place them both in a ridiculous amount of debt at the beginning of one of the most challenging journeys on planet earth: marriage. 

Saturday, July 19, 2025

* hypergamy is real

while the manosphere poo-poos female hypergamy, males also select mates based upon the "best option."  the difference is this:

  • a man wants his best option right now, and (eventually, when he runs out of options) for the long-term,  
  • a woman wants her best option for right now, and she wants her best option for the long term, now.
    • in other words, she wants both (or all) options.
while most men would sleep with most women... because most men can't, 
most women would not sleep with most men, because most women can.

the high-testosterone male has a constant urge-to-merge, 
while the female of the human species has more of an urge when she is ovulating 
(or competing), or on vacation (away from her current best option).

hypergamy exists within both males and females, and there is nothing wrong with a person who test-drives a few different cars before settling-down with one.  

in 2025, women also have the option of sex with other women, so the whole smorgasbord is on her plate.  a heterosexual male needs to be in the top 10% if he intends to have optionality in the sexual marketplace.

most (the lower 90-percent) will:

  • settle
  • acquiesce 
  • relinquish frame
  • follow society's unwritten rules
  • live lives of misery
gentlemen, the only way to play this (current version of the) game is to work on yourself.  become the upper-tier male.  

dudes: do what you can to become a better version of yourself, and do this for yourself.  repeat.    

b126 (7.19-1.2025): fly lands on fly-swatter

fly lands on fly-swatter
by i. usedto fly 
 
fly lands on fly-swatter (the nerve! the f—king gall!)
fly lands on fly-swatter
at least he had the balls… 
____________________
 
·       like a soldier who jumps-up on an enemy tank, it’s a ballsy move.

·       ill-advised, however, as a practice.  better to seek survival/thrival faaaaaaaaaaaaaar away from the Super-Intelligent/SuperPower-full.
____________________
martino, j. (7.19-1.2025). fly lands on fly-watter. book 126: dreaming the dream. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us 

Friday, July 18, 2025

* shaming is...

shaming is... when someone/anyone refers to a behavior of yours in a negative way.  

"for shame!"  

note: it might be subtle, and it might be delivered with a smile.

he/she might do it for a number of reasons that say waaaaaaay more about him/her than about you... but (let there be no doubt), he/she is shaming you -- into a different behavior that he/she would feel more comfortable with.  s/he attempts to make it about you, but it's (really) about he/r. 

otherwise, he/she would be complimenting and thanking.

do not lie to yourself.  s/he is shaming.

if anything, continue the behavior as if s/he hadn't uttered an important sound.  ignore.  move on.

:) 

 

b126 (7.18-2.2025): what if life was 80-seconds short?

what if life was 80-seconds short?
by m. oments 
 
what if life was 80-seconds short?
would we not want those seconds to be long?
what if every second: ‘micro-moments’?
would we not want those moments to be strong?
_______________________
 
·       if life was akin to a may-fly’s life, would we not want to experience every, little bit of it, a little-bit longer?
 
·       instead of boring salads, would we not want emotions to be stronger?
 
·       would we not want the seconds to be days?
 
·       would we attempt to just extend the play?
 
i submit to you, that, no matter what we are experiencing… there’s a symbiosis: a high that craves a low, a peak that seeks a valley, and a good that can only be known via ‘bad’.  we live – for the contrast.*
____________________
martino, j. (7.18-2.2025). what if life was 80-seconds short? book 126: dreaming the dream. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us
 
* book 127 needs to be titled ‘contrast’. 

b126 (7.18-1.2025): one, short day


one short day
by a. short & term moment
 
alternative title: if you only had one, short day
 
if you only have one, short day
if you only had such short time
if you only have (come what may)
if you only had one, short rhyme
 
if you only had one short instant (can i ask you if i may)
if you only have one short wish (for bliss)
if you only had one, short day 
____________________
 
·       what would you wish for?
 
not job nor cash nor spouse nor goat, not plane nor train nor meal nor boat, not mountain stream, coffee ice cream: if one short day, what would you dream?
 
my bet… is that you’d dream about a person.
____________________
martino, j. (7.18-1.2025). one, short day. book 126: dreaming the dream. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us
 
*inspired by “one, short day in the emerald city” in the musical (and move-ie), “wicked”. 

Thursday, July 17, 2025

* a contemplative moment

sitting here, contemplating.

i've helped a lot of people (with laughter, contemplation, learning, growth...).  i've gotten awards for it.  there have also been times when my separate-sense-of-self-ego got in the way of love.  i bet that you can relate.

i've never intended to hurt anyone, with my words, writings, or behaviors.  well, maybe a couple of times (in self-defense: e.g. fist-fights).  thank god those were few-and-far-between.

my words and writings and jokes are meant as a release (for me) and, if you so desire (for you), contemplation.

my romantic behaviors have resulted in both love and hurt.  i am still friends with many of my past girlfriends and acquaintances, but have also learned that some energy needs to be avoided and even blocked, at times.

amid love & romance, however, i've grown.  i used to be inept (at communication).  i was the perfect storm of (1) needing love, (2) equivalating sex with love, and (3) fear of rejection -- which resulted in distancing from love the moment that it was received.  this happened in one-night situations and longer-term girlfriend-situations. 

the love-'em-&-leave-'em roller-coaster.

i imagine that it seemed like i was only out for one thing, and once i got it, i was gone.  instead (truth be told), once i got it, i was afraid of being rejected... or responsible... or involved... or trapped... or a myriad of things that had everything to do with my fears and nothing to do with my attraction/love for you. 

if our romance resulted in hurt, please know that that was never, ever my intention.  if it ever resulted in happiness or growth, feel free to let me know.

know this: we ever kissed... i was doing my best to love you.  

b126 (7.17-2.2025): two thoems in one!

paint a pretty picture
by a. pretty & pi c. ture
 
alternative title: pretty picture
alternative thoem: be nice now

paint a pretty picture
they know not what they do
they paint a pretty picture, now, a picture (how) of you
_______________________ 
  • those with power have all-ways been able to rewrite his-story, while those of less power have had his-story written for them. 
  • in 2025, the power shifts back & forth… as the powerless can write, create, and modify narratives.  in the same way, those in power can lash back, using artificial means to create 'truth.'  before long (now?), it will be impossible to determine who (really) did what, when and how.  nothing will be evidence-based, as evidence itself will be subject-i-fied. 
  • so… what’s a man to do-be-do?  i think that the only course of action is to be nice now, while you can.  be grateful for the gifts bestowed upon you.  smile.  love.  now.
 
…and… in one-on-one encounters, let your partner know the truth: that (1) you’ve done the best that you could, and (2) you love him/her… now.
 
be nice now
by a. pretty & pi c. ture
 
pretty as a picture
who what when where how
what’s a man to do-be-do?
 
do/Be: be nice now
____________________
martino, j. (7.17-2.2025). paint a pretty picture. book 126: dreaming the dream. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us 

Wednesday, July 16, 2025

b126 (7.17-1.2026): is living-hell a turn-on?

is 'living-hell' a turn-on?
by turned on 
alternative title: contrast

is 'living-hell' a turn-on?
we turn on the news
we pay for the horror-movie, love to sing the blues
we propose the marriage (live the life we know so well)
 
is 'living-hell' a turn-on (we turn-on a living hell
____________________
 
·       what if the real addiction (and its sub-sequent turn-on) is contrast

·       contrast: the up/down, good/bad, left/right that allows the Godforce to experience this physical plane of existence.
 
we would not, could not watch the play that had no actors, no plot, no sound, no props, and no lighting.  even God can’t watch what doesn’t exist.
____________________
martino, j. (7.16-1.2025). when youtube is me-tube. book 126: dreaming the dream. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us
 
* the Play, of Course, doesn’t (yet) exist… until it is in process.  the yearning… is for the contrast.