by a. fish
she was a master (baiter)
completely in control
she’d pique my anger (easily), why would i even date her?
[i] martino, j. (7.14-1.2024). she was a master (baiter). book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.
[i] martino, j. (7.14-1.2024). she was a master (baiter). book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.
today (at a rally), another young u.s.a. male in possession of a semi-automatic weapon opened-fire on the presidential frontrunner (and the crowd at a rally)... hitting the presidential candidate in the ear (wounding him) while killing at least one of those in the crowd and wounding others. the situation is presently unfolding.
people (especially those of the democratic persuasion) have been known to ask: "where were you when kennedy was shot?" -- recalling the sadness of the tragedy. what they neglect to recall is that kennedy (although beloved by many) was also hated by many.
u.s.a. "us vs. them" politics has a way of creating love/hate scenarios... dividing humanoids into "black vs. white" groups -- all the while both groups want (mostly) the same things: freedom, safety/security, food/water/clothing, family betterment, etc.
before bashing... just read a couple of lines (this is only a theory):
affairs (in married relationships) are healthy
his-story:
strive to be in 80-90th percentile fish: confident, able, still big (just not the biggest).
why?
the #1 fish always has a few other Alphas... just waiting to become the biggest. if you can be a friend of the biggest fish while not getting involved in the politics of territorial control, you can enjoy plenty of leftovers.
it is important to note that those 'leftovers' might actually taste better (and treat you better) than the biggest fish gets treated!
1. he is the Alpha-Alpha (with all of the responsibilities that come with that). repeating/remaining as the #1 is difficult.
2. Alpha-Alpha has to continually watch his back-fins... which takes additional time & energy (creating dis-stress). he also has to try to keep his harem 'happy' (a daunting task, indeed): try keeping one of them happy. :(
3. his harem (the best-looking female fishes) have waaaaaay too many options, while also swimming angry -- since the Alpha-Alpha can be (ahem) 'distant' at times.
4. it can get lonely, at the highest levels of the food-chain. there are far-fewer peers to chum-around with.
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however...
the second tier (75th-85th percentile of female fishes) won't be swimming with Alpha-Alpha, which will give you more access, more opportunities, more options and more smiles.
today began as another morning with no alarm clock, no pain, no sickness, no kids, no debt, no break-up proceedings, and none of the stuff that the average 65+ year-old guy tends to experience as his mind wanders -- thinking of how things could be even better.
i actually googled "where can a 50+ year-old man go to get propositioned by a woman on the beach?"
throughout my adult life, i've 'dated' multiple women (simultaneously) and, when one of them 'clicked' with me, i entered a monogamous relationship -- shutting down the top-10 poll.
when my ego isn't in a one-on-one relationship, it seems to desire one. when it is in a relationship, it (eventually) doesn't want one.
i remember times, in the past, being propositioned (jogging, walking the beach, on the job, etc.) by women. it felt gooooood!
it doesn't happen much, anymore, but when it does, i will be ready to make her day... and maybe even her week, or months, etc.
in the meantime, i am grateful for the autonomy, the contemplation time, the freedom, the coffee, the hummingbirds, the fountains, the weather, and (most of all) the possibilities.
as a veteran (and a patriot), i recoil at the idea of "bombs, bursting in air."
by its nature, a bomb kills indiscriminately. it's not mano-y-mano. it's not face-to-face. it's not even a well-placed sniper bullet at a known enemy.
bombs kill innocent people. women, children, babies and unborn babies.
i simply don't get-off on all of the fireworks.
the top 11 (or so) thoems:
1. "___": https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2023/04/b4-41-12002.html
2. cohabitation trainwreck: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2024/06/b91-613-12020-cohabitation-trainwreck.html
3. why are we called "beings"? https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2008/06/b63-66-42008-why-are-we-called-beings.html
4. GURU: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2009/06/b67-614-12009-guru.html
5. dead sparrow: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2013/01/b77-dead-sparrow.html
6. a sad affair: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2024/05/b118-59-12024-sad-affair.html
7. what if you were miraculously beautiful? https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2018/01/what-if-you-were-miraculously-beautiful.html
8. jesus in the clouds: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2015/03/b75-320-22015-jesus-in-clouds.html
9. doom is in the room: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2023/12/b116-1212-12023-doom-is-in-room.html
10. my Vision (by lenny): https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2007/08/b54-814-32007-my-vision.html
11. 11 & 11 = One: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2011/11/11-11-one_11.html
honorable mentions:
* "you've got to make it work": https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2023/02/youve-got-to-make-it-work.html
* "no two snowflakes": https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2009/01/b65-no-two-snowflakes.html
* president martino's 11-point plan: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2024/06/president j-martinos-11-point-plan.html
* fish stories: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2024/07/b118-75-12024-fish-stories.html
* ima praying mantis: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2024/06/b118-626-22024-ima-praying-mantis.html
* fake flowers by your grave: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2024/04/fake-flowers-at-your-grave-1-by-fay-k.html
* evoL: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2003/06/b19-615-42003-evol.html
* pink evolves to pinker: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2020/03/b88-35-12020-pink-evolves-to-pinker.html
* it's all foreplay: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2009/06/b6-611-12009-its-all-foreplay.html
* santa isn't real: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2024/03/b118-212-12024-santa-isnt-real.html
* trophy husband: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2024/01/b116-121-22024-trophy-husband.html
* a secret to life: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2024/03/secret-to-life.html
* why i am single: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2023/02/b68-22-12010-why-i-am-single.html
* we are (already) robots: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2023/02/b83-22-12019-we-are-already-robots.html
* true story: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2023/04/b114-45-12023-i-woke-up.html
* an ode to mr. bluff: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2025/06/b124-622-32025-ode-to-mr-bluff.html
* pet peeves are my pet peeve: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2022/01/b107-210-12022-pet-peeves-are-my-pet.html
* getting well, and soon! https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2025/10/b128-1018-12025-getting-well-and-soon.html
* the hero rhymes within: https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2003/07/b20-75-32003-hero-rhymes-within.html
* "he lived like it mattered" https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2026/01/b130-1112026-he-lived-like-it-mattered.html
once a male commits to a relationship, his freedom decreases while his responsibilities increase. in addition, his girlfriend/wife experiences decreased sexual attraction (to him) as her competition anxiety decreases.
in other words, as he's been alpha-beta-tized (as Alpha-Bob becomes beta-bob), his relationship privileges decrease while his responsibilities increase.
it is in a female's best interests to secure a stable commitment, while it is in a male's best interests to avoid the stable path.
conventional relationship progression is a lose-lose proposition, for most men.
in short, hypergamy is the tendency for a female to choose her best mate. literally, she is simply doing the best that she can do to make her life better (which is thrival).
she seeks:
the challenge (for the committed male) is that rarely does one man satisfy both needs.