* hypergamy = thrival

the term 'hypergamy' has been garnering a lot of attention in the manosphere, but it is nothing new.

in short, hypergamy is the tendency for a female to choose her best mate.  literally, she is simply doing the best that she can do to make her life better (which is thrival).  

she seeks:

1. the most fit male to co-produce the best offspring, and
2. the most stable male to best protect the offspring. 

the challenge (for the committed male) is that rarely does one man satisfy both needs.  

b118 (6.28-1.2024): why do we believe?

why do we believe? [i]
by ima believer

why blind faith in something that we surely can’t conceive?
 
why do we grasp at shadows?
why do we believe?
__________________________
 
·       because… ego wants to survive.  the idea (that we can survive after death) is incredibly compelling.
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[i] martino, j. (6.28-1.2024). why do we believe?  book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.  

* why even televise a mass-debate?

since neither participant is a master-debater, 
it certainly appears to have been a failed attempt at mass-debation. 

:)  

b118 (6.27-1.2024): itsa notta hard

love is flying around! [i]
by itsa notta difficult

itsa notta hard
to recognize the good
to let each other know that we appreciate (we could!)
to let each other know how we contribute to our day
 
itsa notta hard
we can find a way…
 
to say…
 
thank you!
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tonight, our townhome association board (without prompting) voted to raise our manager’s rates by $100 per month.
 
·       the company hadn’t raised their rates in several years, and the new manager has been nothing short of sensational!
·       to be honest, if she had asked for a raise, we (probably) would have said “yes” to much more.
·       instead, we were proactive, which sends the following messages:
   o   we appreciate you!
   o   thank you!
 
truth be told, we probably earned a lot (tonight), in terms of relationship building. 
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[i] martino, j. (6.27-1.2024). love is flying around!  book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.  

b118 (6.26-2.2024): ima praying mantis

ima praying mantis [i]
by ima praying mantis

alternative title: “…and then she bit my head off!”

ima praying mantis, just praying for some sex...
 
then i got a little (and i prayed for what was next!)
then my little sweetie wanted after-play (and head) 
ima praying mantis, so i prayed [ii] (and now i’m dead)
 
(pray-tell!) [iv]
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*be careful what you pray for… as there’s a 50% chance that you might  actually get it!
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[i] martino, j. (6.26-2.2024). clickbait. book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 
 
[ii] endnote: mr. ima mantis, upon arrival to the pearly gates, was informed (by saint peter dragonfly) that he was the one who prayed for head, but his dyslexia kicked-in while he was on his knees.  now mr. mantis will just have to identify as “dead.” 
 
[iii] https://www.mentalfloss.com/article/82506/why-lady-mantises-eat-their-mates
 
[iv] https://thewordcounter.com/meaning-of-pray-tell/

* j. martino's 11-point plan

My One Party (non-Party) 11-point plan:
because why are they partying with our hard-earned tax $$$, anyway?
 
Disclaimer: the chance of you agreeing to all of my 11-point Plan are nil.
Focus on what you like, and simply ignore the rest.
 

1.     No more junk mail: not in your mailbox, not via email, and not on your phone.  That's right: no telemarketers during dinner, no spammers in text. In fact, you’ll be able to easily sue (and easily win $$$) from anyone who sends you anything unsolicited.

2.     No noise pollution: noise ordinances will be enforced.  Excessively loud cars, incessantly barking dogs, etc. will cease, and give way to peace & quiet (especially during Siesta).

3.     An age limit and IQ limit on those running for public office.  The age will be however old I am… upon election, so that I won’t be able to run for a second term.

4.     No stupid signs! Yes, those obnoxious, little political signs (and other advertisements) that are stuck in the ground, sometimes with the same ad, 20-times in a row. Those who advertise that way will pay huge fines to help us clean-up our neighborhoods of litter and advertisement-pollution.

5.     No more lobbying: All “bills” will be free of “riders.” Every bill will be 1-page maximum, and a line-item spreadsheet will show who voted for what (e.g. bridges to nowhere).  Lobbyists will need to find real careers.

6.     No more “voting yourself a raise.”  Citizens (via phone numbers and cellphones), will vote on whether congressmen & senators get raises.  In fact, lawmakers will not even be eligible for a raise unless they do their job (e.g. balance the budget!).   If hard-working citizens (like us) are penalized for not balancing our checkbooks and credit accounts, then congressmen & senators need to do it, too!  Note: this decree will be retroactive, and pensions will be taken away from any congressman or senator who failed to do his/her job at least 50% of the time while in office.  If you didn’t balance the budget, no more free health care for you.  No more pension.  No more free rides.

7.     No more free rides: This means that, in order to receive government support, any individual needs to do something (even if it is cleaning-up litter in the community).  No free money for doing nothing.   Sorry, but this also includes unemployment payments.  If you want $$$, you’ve got to do something for it.  Note: this does not include Social Security, which you have already earned... by working (and paying into the system).

8.     No more gossip-news: If a newsmaker doesn’t know someone personally, and if that person is not in the same room as them (face-to-face, mano-y-mano), then the newsmaker cannot say anything negative about that person.  Stop talking behind the backs of people who you don’t even know!  Yes, this means that all of the gossip mags and most fake-news… will cease.

9.     No fake news: You will get sued immediately and harshly for lying to USA citizens via news channels and outlets.  If you can’t prove it, you can’t ‘report’ it.  We want the truth, so newsmakers must stop the BS-blabbering.

10. 10% flat tax. Everybody pays 10% of their earnings.  NO exemptions.  No more "writing-off" mega-yatchs as "business expenses."  Yes, this would spell the end of that thing we call the IRS.  

    One, simple form.  1/4 of a page.  

Note: In the future, there may be provisions for (up-to) 5 exemptions that must adhere to the following rules:

   a. the exemptions must benefit the individual and the community (including the planet).  example: the installation/use of solar energy. 

   b. same rule as all "bills": limited to 1-page, 1-inch margins (minimum), size 12 font, etc.

11.   No more “tail, wagging the dog.”  This means that, if you happen to “identify” as a “victim” (or a victimized group), you are going to have to prove it.  You can’t just ‘say’ something or ‘feel’ something and expect the rest of the Universe to stop in Its tracks for you.  Suck-it-up, buttercup!

 
😊
-God bless 

b118 (6.25-1.2024): ben got clicked & baited

ben got clicked & baited [i]
by a. papa rat & zi

alternative title: clickbait

ben got clicked & baited
seems the world can’t wait
for someone else’s news
for those who choose (clickbait)
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·       even though you know it’s just bait… sometimes, you just click.
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[i] martino, j. (6.25-1.2024). clickbait. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.  

b118 (6.24-1.2024): terri tory

my name is terri tory [i]
by a. humming  & a. byrd 

my name is terri tory
you ask “what’s in a name?”
mick knows that terri tory is the nature of my game

i stand, i fight (we dance) i might just Love (for guts & glory)
you’re here (my ex) for food (and sex)
my name is terri tory
___________________________________
 
·       a hummingbird’s world revolves around nutrition… and mating.
 
·       she fights for each… via territory… a (seemingly) never-ending battle for resources.
 
·       is she human?  do we (hu-mans) have bird-brains?
 
the dance/fight (for territory) allows a species to exercise, practice maneuvering skills, and to practice saying “no!”
 
·       the act of saying “no!” might well play-into the decision to say “yes!”
 

let’s be honest: you want some of my terri tory.

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[i] martino, j. (6.24-1.2024). terri tory. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

* t-shirt ideas

• seeking female robot to turn on
• seeking woman who (occasionally) identifies as my hot, bisexual girlfriend
• seeking older, slightly overweight, addicted single-mom (with multiple children from different baby-daddies... oh, and several stray cats) to spend my money while complaining constantly. -god bless
• seeking: female robot who identifies as my hot girlfriend
• seeking: hot wingwoman

to be continued...  

* dog days (and nights) of summer

if a loud, incessantly-barking dog is let-out into the yard at 6:32 am, or if the incessantly-barking mutt is left outside after dark, the noise is a disturbance of the peace.  this is especially true if homes (or townhomes, condominiums, apartments) are in close proximity.   duh.

neighbors (of course) hate the barking, but most don't actually hate the dog.  we do, however, hate the owner who refuses to train the dog.

is the owner too ignorant to realize that his barking dog is a nuisance?

maybe.

is it possible that the owner simply doesn't care about his neighbors?  is he just an a--hole? 

assuredly.

is it possible to be ignorant and assholic, simultaneously?

b118 (6.23-1.2024): ego-centric mirror

ego-centric mirror  [i]

by anna ego 

ego-centric mirror
staring back at me
showing all the things i think i think i think i see
staring at the separation from the things i’m not
 
ego-centric mirror
it’s all that we’ve got
___________________________________
 
·        the hu-man ego is a projection: a perspective of separation from the Whole (the One, the IS, God, G∞d, etc.).
 
·        of Course, without said illusion of separation: absent perspective, absent relativity, absent any sense of different-i-all-ity, Oneness could never get to Know He/r-Self! 

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[i] martino, j. (6.23-1.2024). ego-centric mirror. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.

* image by j. martino.

b118 (6.21-1.2024): oportunidad

oportunidad [i]
by aman w. options 

in a world where options shouldn’t (really) be that hard
in a word (concoctions):
oportunidad
___________________________________
 
·       the secret to life (to mine, anyway) is to cultivate opportunities.
·       for myself… and for others.
·       thrival… and thrival+.
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[i] martino, j. (6.22-1.2024). oportunidad. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b118 (6.21-1.2024): self-ish, selfish genes

self-ish, selfish genes [i]
by gene g. e. nepool

why does ego love himself completely in his dreams?
why does ego re-produce?
selfish, self-ish genes
___________________________________
 
genes… and all living things, having a sense of self, seek to survive and thrive by all means necessary.
 
to a slightly lesser degree, living things tend toward expression, or a passing-on of self (e.g. survival of the species).  naturally, self will prioritize self (and its own kind).
 
one need only to observe mother/nature to determine that all living things are selfishly motivated.  human-type-beings value air, water, food, shelter, re-production, and the territory to best accomplish the survival/thrival process.
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[i] martino, j. (6.21-1.2024). self-ish, selfish genes. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.

[ii] thrival... is merely an extension of survival.  think of it as “surviving better.”

*inspired, in part, by “the selfish gene” by richard dawkins. 

b118 (6.20-1.2024): why do people hate?

why do people hate? [i]
by a. l. over

why do people hate?
why do people cry?
why do people wait?
why do people die?
 
why do people ponder, flow, embrace, emasculate?
why do people live?
why do people hate?
___________________________________
 
from a survival/thrival perspective, people fear anything that could result in:
·       less of a chance of survival, and/or
·       less of a chance of thrival.
 
we hate… out of fear.
 
…but what to do, basil? 
 
like people.  they will respond to your like with like, and they will be less likely to hate you.
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[i] martino, j. (6.20-1.2024). why do people hate? book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.  

b118 (6.20-1.2024): why do people hate?

why do people hate? [i]
by a. l. over

why do people hate?
why do people die?
why do people wait?
why do people cry?
 
why do people ponder, flow, embrace, emasculate?
why do people live?
why do people hate?
___________________________________
 
from a survival/thrival perspective, people fear anything that could result in:
·       less of a chance of survival, and/or
·       less of a chance of thrival.
 
we hate… out of fear.
 
…but what to do, basil? 
 
like people.  they will respond to your like with like, and they will be less likely to hate you.
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[i] martino, j. (6.20-1.2024). why do people hate? book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b91 (6.19-1.2020): simpler times

 https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2020/06/b91-619-12020.html

b81 (6.18-1.2018): true infidelity

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2018/06/b81-618-12018-true-infidelity.html 

b91 (6.17-2.2020): proud parents

 https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2020/06/b91-617-22020-proud-parents.html

b53 (6.16-1.2007): celebrity news

 https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2007/06/b53-616-12007-celebrity-news.html

b19 (6.15-4.2003): evoL

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2003/06/b19-615-42003-evol.html 

b67 (6.14-1.2009): GURU

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2009/06/b67-614-12009-guru.html 

b91 (6.13-1.2020): cohabitation trainwreck

 https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2020/06/b91-613-12020-cohabitation-trainwreck.html

b118 (6.12-2.2024): intentional attention

intentional attention [i]
by a. t. tentive 

intentional attention
a tendency of mind
a path of in-tervention
a life that we design
 
intentional attention
a way that we can Be
a subtle shift (perception)
a co/unique j-our-ney
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[i] martino, j. (6.12-2.2024). intentional attention. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b118 (6.12-1.2024): intentional attention

intentional attention [i]
by a. t. tentive 

the Game (really) is one of attention.
 
the personal, human experience unfolds… based upon where we place our attention.  the drama (thank G∞d for drama) comes from our frown-face-base experience (fear) re-volve-ing into a smiley-face experience (toward love).
 

example: a fish gets chased by a bigger fish ☹ – 

escapes 😊 – then eats a fly 😊.

 
event-u-ally, events re-veal that we can (intentionally) pay attention to whichever experience we’d like!*
 
i tend to go for (and like):
·       visual stimulation (e.g. home-made art, hummingbirds, sunrises/sunsets)
·       nature (rivers, beaches, mountains)
·       female essence (in all of her shapes, flavors and colors)
·       laughter and fun
·       sense-uality (e.g. massage)
·       physical activity
·       expression (living things cannot not)
·       relationships (everything is “in relationship”)
 
*by paying attention to it, we live it… whether it’s a political party or a beach party.  we co-create our world/experience.
 
the byproduct of this (of course) is that we are completely response-able (and therefore, responsible) for our own, unique world.  you are the star… in your own, dazzling (or not) Play.
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[i] martino, j. (6.12-1.2024). intentional attention. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.
 
[ii] note: it is probably a good idea to look around at our life-experience (people, surroundings, feelings, health) and determine what we’ve done to facilitate it.  then (if desired) we can begin to shift focus/attention, intentionally.  -the beginning? 😊 

b67 (6.11-1.2009): it's All for[e]Play

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2009/06/b6-611-12009-its-all-foreplay.html 

b91 (6.10-1.2020): dreams

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2020/06/b91-610-12020-dreams.html 

b63 (6.6-4.2008): why are we called "beings"?

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2008/06/b63-66-42008-why-are-we-called-beings.html 

b118 (6.3-1.2024): welcome to my nightmare

welcome to my nightmare [i]
by a. dreamer 

welcome to my nightmare
welcome to my dream
welcome to a ride that’s so much better than it seems
welcome to a motion/picture, sound-effects and trials
welcome to a new sensation, conversation, smiles :)
___________________________________
 
·       upon further review, it’s a pretty cool nightmare.
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[i] martino, j. (6.3-1.2024). welcome to my nightmare. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b53 (6.1-2.2007): hat

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2007/06/b53-61-22007-hat.html 

b42 (6.1-1.2005): echoes in the sand

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2005/06/b42-61-12005-echoes-in-sand.html