...or how to let go of an attachment:
1. re-cognize that it is not meeting the needs that you thought it was meeting. re-cognize that it doesn't deliver. example: alcohol consumption does not:
a. make be cooler, or a better dancer, or more confident, or more attractive, or more fun, or more enjoyable, or more of a conversationalist, or more creative, or more calm, or more settled, or a better friend/sibling. instead:
b. i smell worse, i taste worse, i react more slowly, i'm less clear, i'm less focused, i'm less aware of my surroundings, i care less, i'm less self-aware, i'm more vulnerable, i'm more dangerous as a driver, etc.
2. dig deeper, and re-cognize the real benefits you were getting out of the addiction:
a. avoidance? procrastination?
b. depression reduction?
c. problem suppression? memory suppression?
3. get to a place in which you know that the addiction is giving you next-to-nothing while stealing away that which you really want in life. to do this, of course, you've got to contemplate. "what do i really, really, really want?"
4. find a substitute-attachment that results in more positive wellness outcomes.
5. evolve out of the negative addiction/attachment. something else has got to become more important to you than the old addiction/attachment.
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