b116 (12.27-3.2023): baggage claim

baggage claim [i]
by n. o. baggage

alternative title: don’t

i sensed that she had baggage
she said “what’s in a name?”
i knew we’d meet down-under in a place called baggage-claim
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·       if she has kids, or a rat-dog, or an ex-ex-con, she has baggage.
·       if she has daddy issues or mommy issues or past-sex issues, she has issues.  she has baggage.
·       she’ll try to make it seem as though she is a great catch, and that her p---y is made of gold, and that all you need to do… is to beg.  hint: don’t.
 
-don’t raise someone else’s kids.
-don’t pick-up someone else’s dog’s sh-t.
-don’t cower to her sh-t tests (and yes, she is sh-t testing from day 1!).
 

don’t!

 

when an old friend of mine was asked (in his old age) for his advice on marriage, his one-word answer was not welcomed with glee.  his one-word answer was, however, true:
 

doooooooooooon’t.

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[i] martino, j. (12.27-3.2023). baggage claim. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.27-2.2023): pH

pH [i]
by p. aitch
 
pH (scent of a woman)
pH (a scent of man)
pH (the dance of scent-ses when supply is in demand)
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·       pH: it has a lot to do with pools, hot tubs and body chemistry.
 
·       pH: it has a lot to do with scent, and (as it were) s[c]en[t]ses.
 
·       pH: it is affecting your sexual, pheromonal signals (right now…) sub-consciously.
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[i] martino, j. (12.27-2.2023). pH. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.27-1.2023): flying solo

flying solo (christmas) [i]
by h. solo
 
flying solo (christmas)
flying solo (why)
flying solo (christmas) is the only way to fly
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• flying solo is the best way to meet people and to practice being an elite, excellent man. 

• not only does it force you to get out and about, but it gives you the freedom to go (and come) where you want, when you want… without needing someone’s agreement or approval. 

• it’s easy to observe miserable people, dragging-around a kid or displeased with a spouse. 

• if you are a man, and if you haven’t found an hb10 (in terms of how she supports you), go solo.

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[i] martino, j. (12.27-1.2023). flying solo (christmas). book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.16-1.2023): she'll never love you like...

she’ll never love you like… [i]
by al p. hadog
 
she’ll never love you, like…
she’ll never love you so
she’ll never love you, mike
she’ll never love you, joe
she’ll never love you like you love her lips (and front, and back)
she’ll never love you like she loves her dog (and that’s a fact)
____________________________________
 
she will never love you as much as she loves her dog.

• a woman will love her man opportunistically, without even being aware of it.  opportunistic love is as hard-wired into her software – like a man staring at cleavage.

• she wants two things:
  
• an alpha male (leader, protector, stud) and
• a beta male (provider, child-rearing-assistant, plow-horse).
• note: the chances of you being both, throughout the course of a lifetime, are nil.
• she is hard-wired to alpha-bet-a-tize* you.

• her love-need is predicated upon hypergamy, her game of determining who is the best choice for her seeds and needs.

• her love style, of course, will be drastically affected by her SMV (sexual marketplace value) ...which can only decrease with age.
  

since she doesn’t depend on her dog for seed or provisions, she can love scruffy in the way that her man wants to be loved: like a companion.
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[i] martino, j. (12.16-1.2023). she’ll never love you like… book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino.
 
* alpha-bet-a-tization: the process of your LTR-LC (long term relationship/legal commitment) testing (and punishing) your alpha by continually making beta requests and alpha-crushing comments.  don’t blame her, as it is wired-into her psyche (like reciting the alphabet -- or like you, staring at a hot-ass babe).  blame yourself for caving-in, and for-getting to chase your own excellence.

b116 (12.13-1.2023): relationships 101

relationships 101 [i]
by francine acts
  
let’s do this together
sure (it will be fun)
maybe we can tether
 
relationships 101
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·       when relationship “experts” talk about relationships, they often assume erroneously.  one major error is to assume that the ultimate relationship-goal is marriage.

·       when i talk about relationships, i assume that the man or woman wants to be happy.

·       in a survival-thrival world, here’s what that means:
   o   her happiness adds to her story (herstory) when she is more secure.  her security, however, can be bipolar:
          1.     part of her wants the best Alpha seed (usually a bad-boy Alpha who can get his share of women), and (simultaneously)…
          2.     part of her wants the best provider (usually a well-behaved beta).
          3.     if she gets #1, she tries to turn him into a #2.  when she gets #2, she still wants to mate with #1.

   o   his happiness (his-story) is that he wants to spread his seed, far and wide, with the best and hottest babes (hb). 
          1.     he gets tricked-into “settling” for his “one” (by the bait of easier, more available mating/sex), but then realizes that (with her competition anxiety gone) she isn’t into the passionate type of sex that she courted him with.  (note that courted should probably be spelled caught-ed. 😊)
          2.     he ends-up miserable, as society’s laws promote and protect the bait-and-switch, and there is nothing he can do about it (without increased short-term and long-term misery).
          3.     worse yet (if he’s been tricked-into kid responsibilities), he is done. 
 
one of the best possible courses of action (for her) is a bipolar marriage arrangement, with a beta provider and an Alpha mate (or two). 
 
marriage (commitment, cohabitation), of course, is the worst possible option for his-story, unless he were to somehow marry-up… with the option of multiple hot girlfriends on the side.
 
while neither of the above courses of action are (overtly) accepted in society, hers is accepted universally (aka: “my needs weren’t getting met by my beta”).  society’s story is that he, if he is anything less than the loyal, providing, plow-horse dad… he fails.
 
men: don’t commit to a life of misery.  

ladies: use what you’ve got (ahem) to get him to commit to a life of misery.
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[i] martino, j. (12.13-1.2023). relationships 101. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

* when they want to take you down...

 when they want to take you down [i]
by joal
 
·       when they want to take you down, it won’t matter how many good things you’ve said or done.

·       your plus-side won’t matter.

·       your past awards, altrusa, cooperation, coordination, care… none of it will matter.

·       when they want to take you down, they will focus on a word or a phrase that you uttered (even if it was in a time of stress), and they will beat the drum of hate until it sounds as if you have always been the anti-Christ.
 
…and then, like the president of harvard, you will apologize.
 
…and then, in all likelihood, you will resign.
 
score another round for the re-publicans.

b116 (12.12-1.2023): doom is in the room

doom is in the room [i]
by paul d. oom
 
some (here at the party) sensed that something. coming. soon.
we could sense it (feel it)
doom is in the room
_______________________________________ 

·        we weren’t sure exactly if (or when) he would snap, or strike. 

·        we weren’t sure exactly who (which one) he was, only that he had the potential (in an instant) to become infinitely smarter, infinitely more persuasive, and infinitely more lethal.

·        of course, most of the people at the party were happily unaware that mr. p. doom was even in the room, while a few were egging-him-on and buying him shots.

·        the s--- might hit the fan if/when we (belatedly) try to shut him down.

there will be nowhere to run, and nowhere to hide.
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[i] martino, j. (12.12-1.2023). doom is in the room. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.11-1.2023): Christmas spirit

Christmas spirit [i]
by a. Spirit
 
i’m in the Christmas spirit
but what does that all mean?
the Spirit that is Christmas is the All-and-in-between
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·        to be “in spirit” is to be “in” (hence connected with) the All that IS.

·        to be conscious of different-i-all-i-ty (hence, relative), one must be (apparently) separate from the ALL, thereby different from the ALL, thereby a small i (instead of the Big I AM), thereby having senses.

·        Christ Consciousness is Oneness Consciousness.

·        hu-man-s rarely get a glimpse of this kind of Connectedness.  It is sometimes experienced between mother & child, (or watching a sunrise, or during mutual orgasm, or other Uni-fy-ing moments) and is a kind of Love that has no condition… hence: Unconditional.   

·        as relative, living human be-ings, we act as a spiritual-neuro-network, reporting back to the ALL from the (apparent) ego.

·        when/if we can experience Oneness, or Union, or Love, or Connection, or ALLness, we feel as though we are “no-thing” and/or “Everything” – which is not a thing.  

·        that experience, is the in-between.  it’s when wIe (as ego) touch the ALL.

in essence, ego constantly seeks to experience connection or All-ness, but re-cognizes that True Fusion with the All would be the end of the one: the apparently separate ego.  when the red becomes blue, and when blue is all there is, red is no more.  

this is the dance of ego & Spirit.
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[i] martino, j. (12.11-1.2023). Christmas spirit. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.8-1.2023): weeding-out the robots

weeding-out the robots  [i]
by i. robot
 
weeding out the robots
weeding out the lies
weeding out the robots (i’m a robot in disguise)
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·        am i (really) any better than a robot?
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[i] martino, j. (12.8-1.2023). weeding-out the robots book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.6-1.2023): disillusionment

disillusionment [i]
by dis i. l. lusioned
 
there’s a current theme
there’s no way to prevent
there’s a way (it seems)
 
disillusionment
_________________________________
 
·        the current theme rings loud and clear: money talks, power wins… and then those guys get to re-write the illusory his-story.

·        a feeling of emptiness arises when one re-cognizes the Truth: there is nothing that you can do about it.

·        my way of dealing with disillusionment will be (1) to write about it, (2) to allow it to re-mind me to tap back into gratitude [e.g. it has been a wonderful ride], and (3) to provide those who i love with moments that are real:
   o   to listen,
   o   to touch,
   o   to understand, and
   o   to appreciate.

this Christ-mas, i intend to give the gift of time.
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[i] martino, j. (12.6-1.2023). disillusionment. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.5-3.2023): when you lose what you love

when you lose what you love [i]
by dis i. l. lusioned
 
when you lose what you love
(the disconcerting stare)
when now you doubt the notion it was ever, really there
when house of cards (turned sideways) leaves but every-thing exposed
 
when you lose what you love
just what do you suppose?
_________________________________
 
·        during a time when many men are learning that their true love (college football) is nothing more than a ruse... it begs the question:
 

“have i been led to believe other things that might not be true?”

 

“can i trust anything?”

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[i] martino, j. (12.5-3.2023). when you lose what you love. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.5-2.2023): festival of lights

festival of lights [i]
by ima festive
 
festival of lights
festival of gloom
festival tonight, a
festival of doom

when your darkest fear is you’re the one nobody likes
festival of gloom
festival of lights
_________________________________
 
·        for many, the Christ-mas holidays are not filled with laughter and love and cheer.
·        for many, the holidays are a reminder of how alone they feel, on this little blue ball in the sky.
·        for many, it feels fake.
·        for many, it is too commercialized.
·        for many, they just want to feel Loved.
·        for many, the Christ-mas holidays are a re-mind-errrrr… of how empty life can be.
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[i] martino, j. (12.5-2.2023). festival of lights. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.5-1.2023): narratives

narratives [i]
by a. story tella
 
let me tell you a story
as if the verses (true)
what matters (if my-story has desired-effect on you)
_________________________________
 
·        a narrative… is a tale (or a story) that can easily become his-story -- if told with enough fervor, if told enough times, and if told by enough people.
·        it is important to note that evidence (or reason) are not necessary (and often lacking) in some of his-stories biggest-fish stories.
 
examples:
1.      the southeastern conference is stronger than the atlantic coast conference.
 
2.      a white-bearded man, up there, in the sky (who “knows if you’ve been bad or good”) flies around the world on a sleigh (pulled by flying reindeer)!  he (of course) brings toys to good boys (and [get this...]) on god’s birthday.
 
3.      “god” (of course) was born on december 25^th...sometime after "god" (who was never “born” [per se] but happens to be god’s father) -- somehow immaculately-impregnated an under-age virgin girl (named mary) who was (somehow) able to give consent to being impregnated by a god, with a god.
 
narratives.  they just might make your head spin.
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[i] martino, j. (12.5-1.2023). narratives. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.3-2.2023): if you can't beat 'em, join

if you can’t beat ‘em, join [i]
by a. joined
 
if you can’t beat ‘em (lose)
if you can’t (flip a coin)
if you can’t beat ‘em (choose)
if you can’t beat ‘em (join)
_________________________________
 
·        since $$$ & power rule the day (and the narrative), it is important to be aware of options.

·        if fighting (and losing) lead you & yours into lives of misery, and if joining a power-team creates a life of Bliss… choose this.
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[i] martino, j. (12.3-2.2023). if you can’t beat ‘em, join. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.3-1.2023): power-talking heads

power-talking heads [i]
by a. head & b. hind
 
power-talking heads
power-talking lies
power-talking (money walking) reality in disguise
_________________________________
 
·        there come times when it becomes obvious: money and power create narratives that win, thereby creating his-story.
·        is his-story real?
·        reality tv, virtual girlfriends and college football playoff committees reinforce that which we already know: his-story is a sham.
·        sadly, “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” makes even more sense than ever.
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[i] martino, j. (12.3-1.2023). power-talking heads. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (11.30-1.2023): settling

settling [i]
by a. settler
 
settle down!  mature!
settle for your best
settle-up and join the club (so we can get some rest)
settle for the one who makes you run and dance and sing
settle for the one (what fun!) when you are
settle-ing
_________________________________
 
·        in romantic relationships, men & women settle for the best that they think that they can get, at the time.
·        a man is led to believe that this “agreement” means a lifelong supply of pussy and bjs.  how wrong he is.  dude has been misled.  it’s the ultimate bait & switch.
·        a woman will also settle… for her best alpha, or beta+, or beta, or whatever she thinks is her best shot.  she might even build-up her choice-of-a-man to her family & friends… so that they might think that the loser (him) will somehow become a family ass-et.
…but…
·        once the ink is dry on the contract, and once the honey-moon is over, she will have complete control over the (extremely rare and rarely extreme) bjs, the half-hearted pussy, and don’t even think about the a--.
·        the dumbass man, on the other hand, now gets to beg and plead and cower and “do” whatever she wants (not in exchange for pussy, mind you… not in exchange for an occasional bj, mind you… but…) in exchange for her not being angry or upset or concerned or unhappy (about something).  
·        at this point, he’s just trying to get a tiny-bit of quiet-time… hoping that he won’t unleash the wrath of the box of pandora.  dude is done!
·        ultimately, it is his own fault.  he bought-into the lie, and he tied a legal/financial knot.  he was lured-in.  he never questioned.  he never, ever thought ahead.  he never planned.
·        and now, in a legally-binding, financially-binding hell, he is still led to believe that she is the best that he could ever, ever do.
·        truth is, the only thing that he should do is to work on himself.  become a better man.  drink more water.  exercise.  get strong.  learn more.  question.  gain skills (including romantic ones).  since she has shut romance down, she has (in effect) breached her contract.  the true alpha will get it elsewhere.  she (the one who is withholding) will label him the “cheater.”  go figure.
·        the beta-male will spend his time cowering, taking care of her children, supporting her causes, and hanging-out with her low-level friends & family.
·        his best move is to bail, cut bait, suffer the financial losses, and work on himself. there are gals out there who can actually love men.  his job is to become the man that they can-not live without.
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[i] martino, j. (11.30-1.2023). settling. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

* what men should write (on dating sites)

 when asked "What kind of relationship are you trying to build, here?"  from photographs of hot women claiming to be 20 years younger...

men should answer:

"My dream relationship would be to wire lots and lots of $$$ to a hot, virtual girlfriend -- in exchange occasional AI-generated compliments."

b116 (11.27-1.2023): pray (when you want things)

      pray (when you want things) [i]
by ask s. anta
 
there’s a man (“up there”) who brings you toys (if you just sing)
call someone who cares
pray (when you want things)
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·       i figured i’d begin the christ-mas season with a quick santa clause.
 
·        send your letter to santa (if you want to), but if you want something real-istic-ally, take matters into your own hands.
 
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[i] martino, j. (11.27-1.2023). pray (when you want things). book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino.

b116 (11.19-1.2023): gladiator man

gladiator man [i]
by ima fan
 
gladiator man
gladiator (boy)
gladiator fight
gladiator toy
gladiator battle
gladiator cry
gladiator (pawn)
gladiator die
 
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·       jordan travis’ injury (during last night’s fsu vs. northern alabama game) shows (once again) that the young men who entertain us as football players are akin to gladiators in the pit.
 
·       we cheer, and some of them are glorified.  most of them suffer.
 
·       i need to take a serious look at my relationship with u.s.a. football.
 
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[i] martino, j. (11.19-1.2023). gladiator (boy). book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (11.16-1.2023): d-man is a d

d-man is a d [i]
by ima tender bar
 
d-man is a d
cut-down humor, quick
insecure (pest-y)
d-man is a d---
___________________________________
 
·      just the other night, he (1) tried to coerce a free beer for m-man, (2) tried to get me to “give” him a guiness glass, (3) cleared-his-throat (“ahem, ahem”) when he wanted a beer, and was his usual d-self while (4) “teaching” me how to pour a guiness and then (5) how to enter a phone number in the register so that he didn’t have to walk 15 feet from his bar stool.
 
·       a true d-night.  his d-like behavior has caught-on with other patrons (like marc, and mike, and even ed!) forming a haphazard team of cronies to “f-with joal.”
 
·       we are going to put the kabash on that b.s., and soon.
 
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[i] martino, j. (11.165-1.2023). d-man is a d. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (11.8-12023): a rat (by any other name)

a rat (by any other name) [i]
by ima blind
 
it’s just a little rat
not bird, nor plane, nor frog
it isn’t even that
 
nice habit-tat:
your dog
___________________________________
 
·       the obvious is that your little habit/addiction… the one that you love more than life itself… the thing that you allow to p-ss and sh-t on others’ lawns… the rat that barks, incessantly… the animal that you forgive for ‘nipping’ at friendly visitors…
 
·       is 100% yours.  you have raised it to be exactly what it is… as you overlook what everybody else on planet earth can plainly see.
 
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[i] martino, j. (11.8-1.2023). a rat (by any other name). book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

* f--- flowers

...because you don't care about the flowers, and because she doesn't (really) care about the flowers, and (unless you are already in the LTR/marriage), you will end-up in a worse position than you were before the silly, obvious, fake-gift that can be only be described as "flowers." 

b117 #6: Love's a game...

...wanna play?

Taylor gets it right (a-lot) and she is often dead-on-balls accurate: 

• it's a Big Game, gentlemen, and women will try to convince you that you're an a--hole for being a player.

• meanwhile... women are the best of players, and "players" are who they want most!

• dude: go ahead and be Mr. Nice Guy and Mr. Honest and Mr. LTR-at-first-sight.  It (her Game) is all a sh-t test, and you will lose -- if you play the Game by her rules. 

Don't lose.

Invest in yourself and your own Game.  Become more fit.  Enjoy your own existence.  If she is not chasing you... then you are doing something wrong.  Never be needy.  Have a life.  Nurture hobbies and interests.  Flirt, without caring.  You do not (ever!) need to cower to a psycho.

Live. Your. Life. 

b117 #5: She WILL cheat on your dumb ass

You don't want to hear this, but she is out to get the best that she can get.  

You... might not be that guy (anymore).

Important: She also has two different "gets":

1. the Alpha - stud, fun, happy, fit, free, boy-toy, autonomous man, and...

2. the Beta - provider, yes-man, plow-horse, honey-doo (formerly Alpha), soon-to-be-sexless former-man.   

while she would like a fusion of them both... she will soon realize that that man doesn't exist... and she will seek out multiple men to supply her need for "the best."

b117 #4: All behavior stems from insecurity

Living things seek (1) to survive, and (2) to thrive.  Think about it.

#2 is just an extension of #1, really.   

Survival is simple: Air, water, nutrition, and propagation of the species (in its own image).  That's it. 

One could argue that it's all about propagation, or one could argue that it's all about the territory that allows for water/nutrition/reproduction, etc.

Truth is this: every-thing that you do... is for your own survival/thrival. 

Every atom, molecule, cell, tissue, organ, being/ego is (by nature) self-centered. 

Self-centered-ness... is ego-life.

b117 #3 Nobody (except you) cares about your kids.

People don't care if she is a "kindergarten graduate," or honor roll, or the next Einstein.  We acquiesce, of course, when you whip out the phone and show us pictures of your extension-of-self. 

#3 also applies to your grand-kids, car, boat, parakeet (and so on)...

b117 #1: Nobody likes your dog.

While others might smile at your dog and say cute things to your sweet, furry little life-companion (heck, they might even pet the animal): they don't like it when your dog barks, when it pees & sh-ts on their lawn, and when you fail to train it properly.

The truth is, they don't like you: the hu-man who failed to train the domesticated animal.

b117 (Title): It's True, and...

 ...you don't want to hear it.

Everyone (including you and I), has "blind spots" in our lives... in which we are simply not willing or able to allow ourselves to see through our own biases -- and to the truth.

This book will be comprised of hard Truths that apply far more often than not.

Most will be able to be expressed/described in less than a minute (and some, far less).

Let's play.