relationships 101 [i]
by francine acts
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relationships 101
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· when relationship “experts” talk
about relationships, they often assume erroneously. one major error is to assume that the ultimate
relationship-goal is marriage.
· when i talk about
relationships, i assume that the man or woman wants to be happy.
· in a survival-thrival
world, here’s what that means:
o her happiness adds to her
story (herstory) when she is more secure.
her security, however, can be bipolar:
1. part of her wants the best Alpha seed (usually a bad-boy Alpha
who can get his share of women), and (simultaneously)…
2. part of her wants the best provider (usually a well-behaved
beta).
3. if she gets #1, she tries
to turn him into a #2. when she gets #2,
she still wants to mate with #1.
o his happiness (his-story)
is that he wants to spread his seed, far and wide, with the best and hottest
babes (hb).
1. he gets tricked-into
“settling” for his “one” (by the bait of easier, more available mating/sex),
but then realizes that (with her competition anxiety gone) she isn’t into the
passionate type of sex that she courted
him with. (note that courted should
probably be spelled caught-ed. 😊)
2. he ends-up miserable, as
society’s laws promote and protect the bait-and-switch, and there is nothing
he can do about it (without increased short-term and long-term misery).
3. worse yet (if he’s been
tricked-into kid responsibilities), he is
done.
one of the best possible
courses of action (for her) is a bipolar marriage arrangement, with a beta
provider and an Alpha mate (or two).
marriage (commitment,
cohabitation), of course, is the worst possible option for his-story,
unless he were to somehow marry-up… with the option of multiple hot girlfriends
on the side.
while neither of the
above courses of action are (overtly) accepted in society, hers is
accepted universally (aka: “my needs
weren’t getting met by my beta”).
society’s story is that he, if
he is anything less than the loyal, providing, plow-horse dad… he
fails.
men: don’t commit to a life of misery.
ladies:
use what you’ve got (ahem) to get him to commit to a life of misery.
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[i] martino, j. (12.13-1.2023). relationships 101. book
116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino.
