b100 (4.29-1.2021): why do commitments end friendships?

why do “commitments” end friendships? [1]
by ima committed

why do “commitments” end friendhips?
 
when two humans like each other, they want the best for each other.  we want our friends to have:
·       the best life.
·       great times, great friends, great sex, great experiences.
 
we want their dreams to come true.  we want them to enjoy whatever it is that they enjoy!
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·       so then why, once we commit to that person (and once they commit to us) do we restrict their behavior in any way?
·       why don’t we still want their dreams to come true?
 
is it because (now that we are committed) we expect their happiness to coincide with that which will make us happy?  are we not (now) exerting our control over them, and their behavior, based upon our own wants, needs and desires?
 
do commitments actually end friendships?
 

think about it:

 
now that we’re committed, here is the list of things i’d no longer like you to do/be/think:
 

(does this strike anyone else as strange?)

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[1] martino, j. (4.29-1.2021). why do commitments end friendships? book 100. 2021. © 2021 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b100 (4.26-1.2021): translations

translations [1]
by alwa y. satran slation

the billboard sign says: “an offer on your home, today, guaranteed!”
…but you already know what that means:
 

“i guarantee that i will low-ball you on your home,

with an offer sooooooo squeaky-cheap that it would even embarrass me my dog!”

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more translations:

 

“will you marry me?”

translation: “will you be committed to me (and only me) forever?”

 

on dating sites: “i’m curvy.”

(also):

“a few extra pounds”

“full figured”

…and on and on…

translation: “i’m fat.”

advertisemement: "happy cows"

translation: "captive, angry, diseased, genetically modified, 

pumped with steroids, and shot-up-with-antibiotics cows." 

 
and a few more... out of potential millions:
 
doctor: “how many times per week do you drink alcohol?”
patient: “uh, well… about three times per week.”
translation: “every night, and some mornings!”
 
doctor: “have you ever had more than six drinks in one sitting?”
patient: “heck no!”
translation: “many, many, many times.”
 
girl: “he’s made a few mistakes, but he's a good person (and he offered me some cocaine).”
translation: “he’s going to become my supplier, and i’ve already had sex with him.”

same girl: "i love you!"

translation: "i'm going to get what i want out of you, or else i'll dump you without a thought."

her: "we need to talk"

translation: "i need to talk to you."

friend: "oh, your child is sooooooo cute!"

translation: "he's a spoiled brat."

love interest: "i've been really busy..."

translation: "i've got better things to do."

unanswered text?

translation: "i've got better things to do."

forecast: “millions and millions of citizens in several states will be threatened by (potential) golf-ball-sized hail, tornados, and extreme/severe weather!!”
translation: “rain, in the forecast.”
translation#2: “...but we haven’t got a clue, really.”
translation #3: “…so go out and buy bread and milk, so our sponsors will be happy, since we will say anything to get you to tune in.” “can we show you the worst possible videos?”

statement: "if there's anything that i can do... don't hesitate to ask."

translation: "don't ask."

statement: "no. i do not want another piece of chocolate cake."

translation:  "pleeeeease?" (can i take the whole thing home with me?)

advertisement: "act now!"

translation: "we would be in a much better financial situation if you would act now."

...and on... and on... and on...
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[1] martino, j. (4.26-1.2021). translations. book 100. 2021. © 2021 by joal martino. 

b100 (4.21-1.2021): i'll be there yesterday

i’ll be there yesterday [1] 

by t. hen
 
you tell me that you need me (but i’m just not around)
and i’ve been hearing rumors of a new captain in town
my ship (eclipse) at speed of light (you’re up on the display)
i’ll navigate (and set things right) i’ll be there yesterday
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·        if the captain’s space-ship can travel faster than light & sound, could it not outrun any (current) message… arriving before the message was even sent?

could he not arrive before she falls in love with her new captain?
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[1] martino, j. (4.21-1.2021). i’ll be there yesterday. book 100. 2021. © 2021 by joal martino. 

b100 (4.20-2.2021) un-comfortably numb

un(comfortably) numb [1]
by ima numb

420 today (an IPA) and texter’s thumb
while the globe is warming, we’re uncomfortably numb

medicated, sex? (frustrated) ask and they may come
ASI (a poli-sci?):

un(comfortably) numb
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• as we numb ourselves with tele-vision and soda and alcohol needs and drama and uppers and downers… all in the name of ‘comfort.’ 

• …is there anything else we can do for our owners?

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[1] martino, j. (4.20-2.2021). un(comfortably) numb. book 100. 2021. © 2021 by joal martino.  

b100 (4.19-1.2021): Dream Home

Dream Home [1] 
by danielle rhonda eamer
 
and now we’ve found our Dream Home
at least we think that’s true
but it’s a work-in-progress
with so much more to do
 
we want to make it perfect for the perfect time of year
and Now we live in Dream Home
as It was All-ways Here
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[1] martino, j. (4.19-1.2021). Dream Home. book 100. 2021. © 2021 by joal martino. 

b100 (4.6-1.2021): runaway m[y]tosis

runaway m[y]tosis [1] 
by rep l. i. cation

alternative title: cancer 

runaway mitosis
terror-tori-All
replicate & thrive/survive (the answer to the call)

it might look like love (or a return-to-home psychosis)
just (divide & multiply):
 
runaway mitosis

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• a victim of her own, psychotic runaway mitosis, cancer commits suicide as she kills her own host/body.  
• murder/suicide is psychotic... but is it natural?
• doesn't every living thing (unopposed) replicate incessantly?
• does humanity?

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[1] martino, j. (4.6-1.2021). runaway mitosis. book 100. 2021. © 2021 by wellnesseducation.us.

b100 (4.5-3.2021): no one cares

no one cares [1] 
by c. aring 

alternative titles:

no one ----ing cares

no one cares (like you do)

 
no one cares (like you do)
about your size of home
about you price of diamond, ring
about your cell (of phone)
about your kitchen (cabinets) or sofa, china, sink
 
no one cares (like you do)
about the things you think
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·       what they (most likely) care about is…
 

…drum roll…

(you already know this, intuitively)

 

they care about how much you care… about them!

 
·       the possible lesson?  do whatever you do… and like… for you! 
·       live your own life… for you!
 

love others… for them.

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[1] martino, j. (4.5-3.2021). no one cares. book 100. 2021. © 2021 by joal martino. 

b100 (4.4-1.2021): he is risen!

he is risen! [1] 
by e. aster
 
he is risen: now all of your sins have been forgiven
he is risen (now let’s come together):
he is risen!
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[1] martino, j. (4.4-1.2021). he is risen! book 100. 2021. © 2021 by joal martino. 

b100 (4.3-1.2021): breakfast stout

breakfast stout [1] 
by wake n. b. ake
 
there’s not an easy way to tell you what it’s all about
to wake up in the daytime, and to pour a breakfast stout
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[1] martino, j. (4.3-1.2021). breakfast stout. book 100. 2021. © 2021 by joal martino. 

b100 (4.2-1.2021): if Love could Forgive sin

if Love could Forgive sin [1] 
by f. our giving
 
if Love could Forgive sin
if Love would find a way
if Love might let us in
if Love will seize the day
if Love should happen to appear in-person, here, today
if Love could Forgive sin

then Love would find a way

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[1] martino, j. (4.2-1.2021). if Love could Forgive sin. book 100. 2021. © 2021 by wellnesseducation.us.

b100 (3.26-1.2021): technological disease

technological disease [1]

by tech n. o. logical

i’ve got the texter’s thumb
i’ve got the screen-shot eyes
i’ve got the wifi hum (it’s just the news that i despise)
i’ve got the spotify tuned-in (“the memory of trees”)
i’ve got a little problem: technological disease
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[1] martino, j. (3.26-1.2021). technological disease. book 100. 2021. © 2021 by joal martino.

*spinoff of "industrial disease" by dire straits.

b100 (3.20-1.2021): no one matters more

no one matters more [1]
by susan anity & michael ime

no one matters more
in any space or time
anyplace can be a case for sanity and mime
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·       in an ego-maniacal, apparently physical reality (e.g. life on planet earth), differentiality and separation are not only necessary, but both are sought (in the never-ending pursuit of survival and thrival).

• it is other-worldly …to tap into the essence that no one is better than anyone, and that no one matters more… than you.

• you matter.  your thoughts/ideas matter.  the happy/sad is why you signed-up for this.

·       be… second to n/One.

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[1] martino, j. (3.20-1.2021). no one matters more. book 100.2021. © 2021 by joal martino.  

b100 (3.14-2.2021): two buck chuck

two buck chuck [1]
by a. w. hiner

40 times the pleasure?
sometimes cheap is fine
taste is hard to measure when the average joe don’t wine
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• good... trade?

“you tell me why someone’s bottle is worth $80 and mine’s worth $2,”

he told a reporter in 2009. “do you get 40 times the pleasure from it?”

-fred franzia [2]

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[1] martino, j. (3.14-2.2021). two buck chuck. book 100.2021. © 2021 by joal martino.

[2] how two buck chuck revolutionized the wine industry (thehustle.co)  

b100 (3.4-1.2021): we.eds

 we.eds [1]
by we r. weeds

seed and root and grow (produce) and replicate: a need 
ants and bees and rats and tress (and so are we): just we.eds

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•        why do all living things have a survival/thrival instinct?  

who says that they do?  maybe some don’t, making it likely that they didn’t. 

humans: a species without a check & balance system.

 we.eds

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[1] martino, j. (3.4-1.2021). we.eds. book 100:2021. © 2021 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b99 (2.22-1.2021): grocery store bartender

grocery store bartender [1] 
by avalue d. s. hopper
 
shopping cart in park
coffee isle (on bender)
deli section (dark)
grocery store bartender
 
seafood, meat, candy-treats,
donuts, soup and spam
grocery store bartender
time to take a stand

...and be the man
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[1] martino, j. (2.22-1.2021). grocery store bartender. book 99: the february chill. © 2021 by joal martino. 

b99 (2.18-1.2022): every bit: a his-story

every bit: a his-story [1] 
by a. h. istorian

alternative titles:

every bit a my-story

every bit a kid’s story

 
every single moment, of every single day
every single instant, in every single way
every single me-mory, or thought of future (worry)
every single bit of this, a hint of y/our his-story
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·         be-cause it’s all you’ve got: thoughts.
 
·         brain-waves of memories.  worries of future hell and hopes/beliefs of potential heaven. 
·         maybe… you control those thoughts… or (just maybe) free will is a man-made concept that makes men feel better… and you have absolutely no control… over anything!
 
absent sitting on a cloud and listening to harp-music for the next eternity (no food, no alcohol, no drugs, no sex, no illness or pain, no loss and no gain) …if you’ve ever really contemplated heaven, billy joel’s “Only the Good Die Young!”…sounds about right.
 
…but (absent heaven), all we have is the thoughts and memories that we can tap into…
 
Now.
 
…and all of it… the chills and the spills and the thrills… and the agony of defeat: it.is.all. y/ours …forever.
 
the middle.
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[1] martino, j. (2.18-1.2021). every bit: a his-story. book 99: the february chill. © 2021 by joal martino.

b99 (2.9-1.2021): crybaby vs. bully

crybaby vs. bully [1]
by di s. gusted 

crybaby vs. bully

it’s painful to see

just a bunch of d--k-waving is all it is (to me)

 

we sit (after school) and pay attention to it (fully)

a foregone conclusion:

crybaby vs. bully

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·       the working (wo-woooo)man understands that the bully is going to get off... again.

·       the crybaby is going to (sort-of) get his way and get his say… but the bully has the power (today).

·       another perfect, faux-news-worthy display of the worst of the u.s.a.

·       no wonder most of us plebes believe that nobody (with an agenda) is even remotely capable of telling the truth.

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[1] martino, j. (2.9-1.2021). crybaby vs. bully. book 99: the february chill. © 2021 by wellnesseducation.us.  

b99 (2.5-2.2021): he's a lonely king

he’s a lonely king [1] by charlie hess

he’s a lonely king

up there on his throne

now that all the knights and bishops (even castles) gone

now he watches as his pawn becomes another queen

now he cries (he says goodbye) as queen mates other king

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·        in chess, the queen of one side can often be intimately involved in the mate of the opponent’s king.

·        how, in any universe, can that be thought of as a win?

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[1] martino, j. (2.5-2.2021). he’s a lonely king. book 99: the february chill. © 2021 by joal martino. 

b99 (2.4-1.2021): open/shut: acquit

open/shut (acquit) [1] 
by repu b. licaticiuos

open/shut (acquit)

guilty (let him go)

it’s okay to lie (deny what everybody knows)

just in case you’re wondering: the senate loves a twit

seeing red (it’s in your head), it's

open/shut: acquit

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without tapping into a nanosecond of impeachment news, any 3^rd grader could predict the defense, as we’ve seen it all play out over a 5-year span.  here’s what he will say (sometimes through l[ie]awyers):

·        i didn’t do it/say it!

·        okay, okay,  i  did it/said it... but i didn’t mean it that way (e.g. you misinterpreted my words/actions).

·       what i did/said wasn’t wrong.  it wasn’t against the law.

·        so what if it is against the law?  i’ll do it again, anyway, and you (liberals) can’t stop me!

((in fact, nobody will stop me.))

the interesting thing about this defense is that, like any good playlist, you can select “repeat & shuffle” followed by turning the sound waaaaaay up… and the law-makers won’t miss even the tiniest wink of sleep tonight.

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[1] martino, j. (2.4-1.2021). open/shut (acquit). book 99: the february chill. © 2021 by joal martino. 

*fun-fact: joal martino is a registered republican who has voted democrat and progressive and independent.  who would have guessed?

b99 (2.1-2.2021): the big chill

the big chill [1]
by connie hill

some call it ‘expansion’

others drift away

some predict that we’ll no longer see the stars (someday)

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·        the big chill is the expansion of the universe to the point of an absolute zero temperature state.  long before that, it will appear that the stars have disappeared.

·        a big chill (in the urban dictionary) is a person who “clears the room” upon entering, due to his detested personality traits.

·        in both cases, separation.

 

when Union separates to its Ultimate End, it might be difficult to find One-self, even for the Is.

 

question: does separation cause coldness, or does an absolute zero cause separation?

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[1] martino, j. (2.1-2.2021). the big chill. book 99: the february chill. © 2021 by joal martino.

[2] the universe expansion - Bing images 

b68 (1/28/2021): ECP

ECP (extreme collective paranoia) - ekhart tolle

argument: when two people dis-agree with each other.

ECP: when large groups of people bond together against each other. ..this is seductive, because the "bonding together" often feels good (for the moment), in a unifying kind of way. ..un-fortunately, unification against is simply the ego, demonstrating the urge to attack/defend -- further propagating the illusion of separation.

here's how it expresses:

* "let's vote them all out!"
* "send in the marines!"
* "we need to use the bomb, and turn that place into a parking lot!"
* "we're number one!"
* "our way (or city, or country, or church, or team, or God) is better than yours."

...surely, you can think of other ways that ECP expresses, even on a small scale. 

(can we say "gossip"?)

tolle notes how people can defend an opinion as if it were life itself, and how arguments can turn into collective pathologies, like crowd violence, prejudice, and war.

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*written during book 68: wonder-full.