b100 (4.29-1.2021): why do commitments end friendships?

why do “commitments” end friendships? [1]
by ima committed

why do “commitments” end friendhips?
 
when two humans like each other, they want the best for each other.  we want our friends to have:
·       the best life.
·       great times, great friends, great sex, great experiences.
 
we want their dreams to come true.  we want them to enjoy whatever it is that they enjoy!
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·       so then why, once we commit to that person (and once they commit to us) do we restrict their behavior in any way?
·       why don’t we still want their dreams to come true?
 
is it because (now that we are committed) we expect their happiness to coincide with that which will make us happy?  are we not (now) exerting our control over them, and their behavior, based upon our own wants, needs and desires?
 
do commitments actually end friendships?
 

think about it:

 
now that we’re committed, here is the list of things i’d no longer like you to do/be/think:
 

(does this strike anyone else as strange?)

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[1] martino, j. (4.29-1.2021). why do commitments end friendships? book 100. 2021. © 2021 by wellnesseducation.us.