b123 (3.27-1.2025): happy wife, happy life (misnomer)

happy wife, happy life (misnomer) [i]
by unhap p. y. wife    
 
happy wife, happy life (misnomer)
once you are a husband or a dad
you realize you should have stayed a loner
all you do is hope that she’s less sad
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·       she’s not ever going to be happy (for long), and your life revolves around trying to make her less sad, constantly.
 

the problem is that you can’t ‘make’ anyone more anything.

 
·       you fell into the trap of believing that your life would be happy… if you could make her happy.  you can’t.  in fact, the more that you try, the less that she’ll respect you.
 
·       you would have been sooooooooo much better off (and happier) – if you’d stayed single and child-less, living your life as you please.  now that’s a happy life:
  o   no teens, no arguments, no (constant) testing, no diapers, no soccer practice, no spousal criticism, no resentful children, no saving for college, no silent treatments, no threat of divorce, no cheating, no fear of kids getting into trouble (or getting hurt), etc., etc., etc.

need i go on?  you could add to this list indefinitely.  

“happy wife, happy life” is a misnomer.  

don’t fall for it.  

if you already fell for it once, don’t ever, ever fall for it again.

shall i list a few positives that come with not getting married, and living alone (with no kids)?

• how about freedom, autonomy, financial ease, easier decision-making, variety in dating, infinite possibilities, more of a reason to stay in shape, doing more of what you want to do, having male friends that aren't married to her 'friends', contemplation, time, etc., etc., etc. 

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[i] martino, j. (3.27-1.2025). happy wife, happy life (misnomer). book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.