set expectations low

a ticket to the show
by a. t. icket
 

alternative title: keep their expectations low

 
it’s a play, a dance (romance!) a ticket to the show
if you’d like (good night):

keep their expectations low
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·       as of this writing, florida state university fans are ecstatic at 9-3, whereas ohio state fans are miserable, at 10-1.  

why is this???

 
·       don’t get me wrong, fsu fans would have run the coach out of town at 9-3, in the 1990s.
 
when expectations are high, they (s/he) can get (“justifiably”) mad at you for not meeting his/her/their exceedingly high expectations.
 
when expectations are low, they are happy to know, that y/our effort flows.
 

the key to life

fork spoon or knife…

is set it up for no

 

don’t show your full house of cards

keep expectations

low

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martino, j. (11.27-1.2022). keep expectations low. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.
 
* usa (today) marriages set the floor, the minimum, the basement… at “happily ever after”.  it’s insane!  if we can make a tiny (mental) shift; if we can see the glass as already broken; if we can agree to set the relationship bar low… we will set ourselves-up …for success.   

the secret to life

care
by t. h. esecret
 
kenny wrote about it: there’s a secret to this life
old man says “don’t blink” as he looks up from his ol’ pipe
 
but maybe there’s a deeper layer, sitting/standing there
maybe life is simple
maybe we might
care
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·       while caring about others will take us far on this journey, and while it will result in positive outcomes…

·       caring about ourselves is innate.

·       while the ego is/must care about itself (first), some for-get to re-member that this is just the Is, Is-ing.
 
we can care about others while (simultaneously) caring about ourselves.  we can experience Spirit (simultaneously) while Be-ing physical.  we can (simultaneously) connect with the Spiritual realm… even as we live out our physical lives.
 

even if the Spirit One-ly resides in the mind

One day, when we Hear it, maybe we can search and find

 

there’s a Whole, New moment (we can’t not afford to share)

ego can create it

wIe, One day, might

care

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martino, j. (11.26-1.2022). care. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.   

b111 (11.26-1.2022): care

care
by t. h. esecret
 
kenny wrote about it: there’s a secret to this life
old man says “don’t blink” as he looks up from his ol’ pipe
 
but maybe there’s a deeper layer, sitting/standing there
maybe life is simple
maybe we might
care
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·       while caring about others will take us far on this journey, and while it will result in positive outcomes…

·       caring about ourselves is innate.

·       while the ego is/must care about itself (first), some for-get to re-member that this is just the Is, Is-ing.
 
we can care about others while (simultaneously) caring about ourselves.  we can experience Spirit (simultaneously) while Be-ing physical.  we can (simultaneously) connect with the Spiritual realm… even as we live out our physical lives.
 

even if the Spirit One-ly resides in the mind

One day, when we Hear it, maybe we can search and find

 

there’s a Whole, New moment (we can’t not afford to share)

ego can create it

wIe, One day, might

 

care

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martino, j. (11.26-1.2022). care. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.   

a promise of today

a promise of today
by giva p. romise
 
a promise of today
is something i can give
we all want something (more) but that is just the way we live
 
the in/secure (they wouldn’t have it any, other way)
all that my soul can give:
a promise of today
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·        be-cause, egos that we all are… want a promise of tomorrow.
·        we (then) manipulate others, so that they can make that promise, so we can hold them accountable for that which is simply our own survival/thrival mechanism.
 
anyone who “promises” you any-thing about tomorrow is (a) either a lying piece of sh--, or (b) a hopeless romantic.  
 
although i wish for option “b” …i’m still just me.  those who promise you tomorrows aren't bad people.  they are simply hopeful.
 
all i can give you is Now.
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martino, j. (11.17-1.2022). a promise of today. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.  

b111 (11.15-1.2022): this cannot go on

this cannot go on 
by ima dunn
 
this cannot go on
this fantasy of love
this nightmare-game of pain
aside, below, above

this cannot go on (this dance of dusk and night and dawn)
this nightmare (yet again)
this cannot go on
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martino, j. (11.14-1.2022. that relationship didn’t work. book 111: love is. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.
  

b111 (11.10-1.2022): pro-gnosis

pro-gnosis
by a. pro gnostic
 
we come to a prognosis
we come (and stake a claim)
we come (with some psychosis)
pro-gnosis is our name
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·       be-cause prognosticating assumes that we actually know something about what we are prognosticating about.
·       the truth is… we are (most likely) just bullsh--ting.
 
humans, being… seem to favor (uh) thinking that we are right.  this is probably an outcropping of natural selection (since, after all, the person who was right about the tiger in the bushes was probably more likely to survive the tiger in the bushes).
 
the “gnostic” gospels are simply a product of human bullsh--ters who (for a number of reasons) would like you to believe that they …are right.
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martino, j. (11.10-1.2022. pro-gnosis. book 111: love is. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

pro-gnosis

pro-gnosis
by a. pro gnostic
 
we come to a prognosis
we come (and stake a claim)
we come (with some psychosis)
pro-gnosis is our name
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·       be-cause prognosticating assumes that we actually know something about what we are prognosticating about.

·       the truth is… we are (most likely) just bullshitting.
 
humans, being… seem to favor (uh) thinking that we are right.  this is probably an outcropping of natural selection (since, after all, the person who was right about the tiger in the bushes was probably more likely to survive the tiger in the bushes).  

the ones who were wrong about the tiger in the bushes were less likely to re-produce.  

thank goodness.

 
the “gnostic” gospels are simply a product of human bullshitters who (for a number of reasons) would like you to believe that they …are right.

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martino, j. (11.10-1.2022. pro-gnosis. book 111: love is. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.

no bitch in the bed

no bitch in the bed
by a. noid
 
no bitch in the bed
no dog or petty fights
no bitch in the bed… to keep me up all night

i’ll just hug my pillow, and sleep soundly instead

no dog or petty bitching
no bitch in the bed
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·       it appears as if you have forgotten your “no expectations” mantra... and are allowing yourself to become frustrated by my not meeting them.

·       when you mind-game me, i go through three phases:

   1.     you get my attention (albeit, not in the most desirable fashion)...

      a. if continued...

   2.     i get frustrated (which, admittedly, can result in momentary anger).

      a. if continued relentlessly...

   3.     i simply stop caring.
 
please be direct.  you might not like my take on things, but at least we’ll communicate wants, needs, desires and boundaries.
 
cold-shouldered bitching will not be tolerated (for long).
 

i do have one expectation: 

i expect that those people who i allow into my life... will

 contribute to my well-being.

·       sleep is a must: you can contribute to my sleep-well-being with authentic, enthusiastic sex, followed by massage and/or a hot tub relaxation session.  note: i can do all three of these things without you... so you might figure out how to get me to want to do them with you.

·        fun/positivity is desired: it must (at least) outweigh any debbie-downer-ness.
 
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martino, j. (11.8-2.2022. no bitch in the bed. book 111: love is. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b111 (11.8-1.2022): don't engage deranged

don’t engage deranged
by a. void
 
don’t engage, when people (cryptic tone and acting strange)
don’t fuel/flame bad energy
don’t engage deranged
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·       when someone goes off of their meds (or is otherwise not thinking straight), do not try to communicate rationally.  it may only make things worse.
·       be patient.  s/he is attempting to get you to engage, so that s/he can (eventually) communicate a message.
·       if s/he doesn’t write it down clearly, and if s/he leaves a lot to your imagination, s/he might attempt to lure you into an emotional discussion.
·       stay rational. 
·       be empathetic, but do not get lured-into a discussion in which you will eventually get frustrated and then be labeled “the angry guy.”
·       Once anger happens, you will be the one apologizing for (what is essentially) her insanity.
 
let it go.  she will hopefully/eventually come to her senses and re-read everything that she wrote… or not.
 
while temporary-insanity is understandable in certain instances, repeated/consistent insanity is a bouquet of red flags.
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martino, j. (11.8-1.2022. don’t engage deranged. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.
 
this is where I commented on the bouquet of red flags, on FB.  Go back and delete it. https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=3769239976432848&set=a.697388676951342 

don't engage deranged

don’t engage deranged
by a. void
 
don’t engage, when people (cryptic tone and acting strange)
don’t fuel/flame bad energy
don’t engage deranged
______________________
 
·       when someone goes off-of-their-meds (or is otherwise not thinking straight), do not try to communicate rationally.  it may only make things worse.

·       be patient.  s/he is attempting to get you to engage, so that s/he can (eventually) communicate a message.

·       if s/he doesn’t write it down clearly, and if s/he leaves a lot to your imagination, s/he might attempt to lure you into an emotional discussion.

·       stay rational. 

·       be empathetic, but do not get lured-into a discussion in which you will eventually get frustrated and then be labeled “the angry guy.”

·       once anger happens, you will be the one apologizing for (what is essentially) her insanity.
 
let it go.  she will hopefully/eventually come to her senses and re-read everything that she wrote… or not.
 
while temporary-insanity is understandable in certain instances, repeated/consistent insanity is a bouquet of red flags.
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martino, j. (11.8-1.2022. don’t engage deranged. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b111 (11.8-1.2022): don't engage deranged

don’t engage deranged
by a. void
 
don’t engage, when people (cryptic tone and acting strange)
don’t fuel/flame bad energy
don’t engage deranged
______________________
 
·       when someone goes off of their meds (or is otherwise not thinking straight), do not try to communicate rationally.  it may only make things worse.
·       be patient.  s/he is attempting to get you to engage, so that s/he can (eventually) communicate a message.
·       if s/he doesn’t write it down clearly, and if s/he leaves a lot to your imagination, s/he might attempt to lure you into an emotional discussion.
·       stay rational. 
·       be empathetic, but do not get lured-into a discussion in which you will eventually get frustrated and then be labeled “the angry guy.”
·       once anger happens, you will be the one apologizing for (what is essentially) her insanity.
 
let it go.  she will hopefully/eventually come to her senses and re-read everything that she wrote… or not.
 
while temporary-insanity is understandable in certain instances, repeated/consistent insanity is a bouquet of red flags.
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martino, j. (11.8-1.2022. don’t engage deranged. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.
 
this is where i commented on the bouquet of red flags, on FB.  go back and delete it. https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=3769239976432848&set=a.697388676951342 

sooooooooo apotheotic

sooooooooo apotheotic
by god dam a. man
 
sooooooooo apotheotic
a god becomes a man
a man becomes a god
a fish-story (again)
 
a god has sex with human-being (it seems a little odd)
a god becomes a man
a man becomes a god
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·       apotheosis means "the act of a human, being made into a god” [i].
 
it appears as if, throughout his-story, men have become gods and gods have become men -- and the line is sometimes blurred and arbitrary and capricious and downright laughable.

translation: it’s bulls--t.

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martino, j. (11.3-2.2022). sooooo apotheotic.  book 111: love is. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us 

[i] ehrman, b. d. how jesus became god. amazon.com. 

sun? "it's global warming!"

sun?  “it’s global warming”
by a. s. keptic
 
sun?  “it’s global warming!”
now the crowd chimes-in
lemonade turns-into bitter lemon (once again) 
 
sun: it’s global warming
apocalypse, begun
son, it’s global warming
it’s global warming, son
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·       at the end of yoga class, i let the students know that (although i’d planned to facilitate outside yoga today), i was saving the walking meditation for next monday, when the forecast is 77 degrees on november 7^th! 😊

·       immediately, my debbie-downer (self-imposed "elder") student said “global warming,” and the class (of course) began to chime-in about the horrors of present-day life-scenarios... including how we are all doomed because of the decisions that “they” make.
 
it was another example of how one sour apple can turn a blessing (sunny day) into a nightmare.
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martino, j. (11.3-1.2022 sun? “it’s global warming!” book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

fishermen and his-story

fishermen and his-story
by a. storyteller
 
charismatic fisherman holds court on his vacation
tells a fishy-campfire story (he’s the new sensation!)
parents tell their children to believe the new vocation
leaders use his-stories for their personal inflation
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·       just because someone believes in santa claus… doesn’t make his-story true.

·       a “knowing” occurs when the believer grows-up, only to re-cognize that the very people who loved he/r, cared for he/r, and made the rules… had absolutely no problem lying straight to he/r face.
 
it’s no wonder that s/he doesn’t believe the government.

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martino, j. (11.2-3.2022 fishermen and his-story. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

*those in power get to write (and preach) "his-story".

pundits don't care, either

pundits don’t care, either
by joal
 
pundits don’t care, either
casters make the news
laughing-all-the-way, today, for those channels we choose
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·       while it may appear that certain newscasters want to expose politician-criminals -- while others want to protect politician-criminals -- lawyers drag the drama out.

o   lawyers win, because they make $$$.

o   newscasters and their owners win, because we tune-in (which means that they make $$$).

o   the concerned citizen loses… thinking that justice might (somehow) be served, and that the truth will come out, soon.*  

 
any third-grader can attest to the fact that “soon” is a notion that often leads to limbo.**

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martino, j. (11.2-2.2022). pundits don't care, either. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.

*the concerned citizen also gets to pay money, via taxes… so that those who make $$$ …make even more $$$$$$$.
 **the greatest example of this, being the term: “he is coming… and soon.”   

to what i can't control

to what i can’t control
by joal
 
i try not to worry about politicians, trolls
i try not to listen... to what i can’t control
______________________
 
·       from a wellness perspective, things like the news and elections and inflation are out of my control.

·       if i pay attention to negativity out of necessity, that’s one thing… but if i pay attention to negativity that i have no control over… that’s on me. 
 
that’s why i detach from television, news-that-isn’t-new, and most human behaviors.
 
my time is much better self-served by paying attention to the positives, and determining ways to experience more positivity.
 
the true secret is to dip into negativity just long enough to re-cognize what i don’t want… in order to determine what i do want… and then to focus my awareness and intention on that.
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martino, j. (11.2-1.2022). to what i can’t control. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.  

this world isn't good

this world isn’t good
by a. little thing
 
this world isn’t bad (just because you say it’s so)
this world isn’t sad (it’s the way you make it, though)
this world isn’t good (in and of itself, it’s fine)
this world isn’t anything (outside the frame of mine-d)
______________________
 

·       just because you didn’t get your cherry-lime tasty-freeze at the family reunion in 1962 doesn’t mean that the dark spirits rule the heavens.

·       there is another explanation for hunger, greed, volcanos, hurricanes and politicians.
 

if we can momentarily step-away from the ego-ic notion that “this world was made for me,” we can view it simply as energy, energy-ing.  people aren’t “bad,” just as rattlesnakes and earthquakes aren’t “bad.”

e-go, or energy-on-the-go, tends to view the world subjectively… while this tiny, blue ball that hu-mens call “earth” spins on a man-made-up axis, somewhere in the backwaters of a very, very milky way.   
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martino, j. (11.1-1.2022). this world isn’t good. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.  
* inspired by a senior-citizen student of mine who can’t open his mouth without spewing his viewpoint on the evils of man and the will of god. this ignites all kinds of conversations about evil, god, and what we-you-mans should be doing here (as if Be-ing Here wasn’t enough).