b124 (6.24-1.2025): ego values freedom (for he/r-SELF)

 
ego values freedom
by saint leonard
 
ego values freedom, territory (wealth)
that which ego values, ego values for itself
____________________
 
·       true, an ego (a sense of separate self) might want its off-spring-ings to experience freedom… but ego doesn’t want anyone to have more freedom, more power, or more control… than h/er-self.
 
ego values freedom (for itself).
____________________
martino, j. (6.24-1.2025). ego values freedom (for itself). book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

* does it seem odd...

...that priests are referred to as "father"? 

b124 (6.23-2.2025): better off without

i’m better off without you
by ima free 
 
i’m better off without you
without your fork of tongue
without your passive-gressive
without your up-of-one
without your constant whining and your condescending sneer
i’m better off without you
now (get on out of here!)
____________________
 
·       assertiveness… in the face of assholicness… is a challenge, at first.  but when one learns that (once the a—hole is gone) the result is more ease, more fun and more life… assertiveness is worth its weight in gold.

·       there are soooooooooooo many good people out there, in the world.  spend time with them! 
____________________
martino, j. (6.23-2.2025). assertiveness is worth its weight in gold. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

*note: this theom is not about a male-female relationship.  it's about dealing with a--holes at the bar.  granted, they are statistically insignificant (maybe 1-in-500), but it is important to be assertive.  when they don't come back, everybody-else (e.g. the good-hearted, the fun-loving) wins. 

b124 (6.23-1.2025): hearts, they may get broken

 
hearts, they may get broken
by a. broken heart
 
hearts, they may get broken
expectations: whole
it’s the expectation that doth break the heart and soul
____________________
 
·       no one can ‘break’ y/our heart.
 
·       our heart is ‘broken’ by our (often unrealistic) expectations that we assign-to those who we 'love.'
____________________
martino, j. (6.23-1.2025). hearts, they may get broken. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

b124 (6.22-4.2025): worms

worms
by a. dis interested byrd 
 
why crawl across hot sidewalk?
to get away from germs?
they fry, they die (just stay inside!) they’re petrified!  they’re:
 
worms
____________________
 
·       today, as i often do, i wondered why worms will leave the juicy-comfort of home… to crawl across a scalding sidewalk (and often fry into a dehydrated-death).

·       there is but one reason: ego.
 o   ego-pleasure: to thrive for something better, or
 o   ego-pain: to escape from something worse.
 
can’t he see his-story?
 
once fried and petrified, even birds fly by as if blind to a dry, pie-in-the-sky-high sigh (oh, my).
____________________
martino, j. (6.22-4.2025). worms. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us
 

b124 (6.22-3.2025): an ode to mr. bluff

an ode to mr. bluff
by blu f. fed 
 
once upon a time (just when you thought you’d had enough)
someone wanted lies, and shouted 

"please call mr. bluff!"

the crowd sang:

 

"please dear mr. bluff just whisper something in my ear

don’t make it the truth, just tell me what i want to hear

 

tell me i’m a beauty... and that i have a brain

tell that that god loves me; tell me that i’m not insane

tell me that my t.v. news reporters got it right

tell me 'we’re the best' so i can sleep so well tonight

tell me not to question, tell me not to cry

tell me to believe you when you look me in the eye"

------------------------------------- 

mr. bluff was quick to put the good word on display
but just under his voice was something no one heard him say:
 

"don’t ever look behind the curtain, you don’t want to see

that mr. bluff is really just the stuff of you & me"

____________________
martino, j. (6.22-3.2025). an ode to mr. bluff. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us 

b124 (6.22-2.2025): the juice ain't worth the squeeze

the juice ain’t worth the squeeze
by j. uiced & s. queezed 
 
the juice ain’t worth the squeeze
just do without (with ease)
the juice is just a tease
the juice ain’t worth the squeeze
____________________
 
·       the reward debt received incurred for your work isn’t worth your time or energy.

·       even if/when you (think) you won, you’ve taken-on an anchor, an (eventual) detractor, a ship-sinker from within.
____________________
martino, j. (6.22-2.2025). the juice ain’t worth the squeeze. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us
 
okay, you won.  now, you’ve got a wife, children, more responsibilities & more restrictions, and none of what you hoped you’d get in the end.  your ‘win’ is a loss: again, again.  your work results in pain.  again.  again.
 
the only answer is to bond with a team-mate, not a girlfriend or a wife -- but a team-mate who may (or may not) be.
 
the juicy sexual pleasures (pre-marriage) are (often) just the tease… prior to being squeezed. 

b124 (6.22-1.2025): are you out of your vulcan mind, too?

 
are you out of your vulcan mind, too?
by shesa heytah
 
trials and tribulations
love is hard to find
graphs and co-relations
are you out of your vulcan mind?
____________________
 
·       for a famous/popular male, nothing is more dangerous than a scorned lover with a mental disorder.
 
·       in the current state of fake media, any angry person can say anything.  even when the truth comes-out (that they were lying), the damage is already irreparable.
 
lay low.  fly under the radar.  keep a small group of friends who know you.  know yourself. 
 

____________________
martino, j. (6.22-1.2025). are you out of your Vulcan mind, too? book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

b124 (6.21-2.2025): mirror mirror mirror

mirror mirror mirror

by justa notha reflection
 
mirror mirror mirror
looking back at me
showing all the things i think i think i think i see
 
reflecting a past & present future state of mind
mirror mirror mirror
please don’t be unkind

____________________
 
·       because the mirror can only project a present reflection, it must be tripolar.
😊

____________________
martino, j. (6.21-2.2025). mirror mirror mirror.  book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

* star trek drawing by graphicjam.

  

* it's interesting to note that...

alternative title: "limited perspective" 

the woman who taught me how the Universe was created was born in 1931, into a religion/cult that did not allow followers to question it.  in addition, she:

• had no internet access,
• never drove (never wanted to drive) a car,
• attended the same church (every sunday) her whole life,
• lived 99% of that life within a 3-mile radius (and, of that),
• most of it in-and-around two homes that were separated by a driveway: a tiny area (smaller than a football field).

sooooooo...

any musings that i might spout 

(about nature, the planet earth -- or the cosmos) 

is... 

(shall we say), 

uh...

"limited." 

b124 (6.21-1.2025): a girl in-love can hate

 
a girl in-love can hate
by shesa heytah
 
a girl in-love can hate
when she don’t get her way
what she might do (in spate)
might get you gone (today)
 
so maybe you might run and hide young man (when she’s in heat)
a girl in-love can hate (oh, great!), then you may-be dead meat
____________________
 
·       you fall in-love, she falls in-love… but then her demands exceed your ability to meet ‘em.
 
·       if she gets mad enough, when her ‘love’ turns to hate, you’ll be lucky to get out of there alive.
____________________
martino, j. (6.21-1.2025). when her love turns to hate. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

b124 (6.20-2.2025): For-Give (and remember)

For-Give (and remember)
by ima fore giver 
 
For-Give and Re-Member
Re-Unite the team
let them know that you are still an actor in their dreams
____________________
 
·       Forgiveness is fine.  'forgive & forget,' however... is a mistake.  we should remember things that hurt or harm, and we should look at the perpetrator’s current state of thought, word, and deed.
 
1.     has s/he apologized via actions, e.g. stopping the hurtful behavior?

2.     has s/he demonstrated extinction of that hurtful behavior (for days, months, years)?

3.     if someone is well-behaved now, it is time to forgive (and ob-serve).  the goal is to help that person to not fall back into the habits that spawned the hurtful behavior.

4.     If you really, really love someone: For-Give and remember.
 
of course, a higher vibration than Forgiveness is Nonjudgment: the state of getting to a point where/when we under-tand what might have led to the behavior in question.  even in Nonjudgment, however, it might be prudent to sleep with one eye open, for a time.
____________________
martino, j. (6.20-2.2025). For-Give & remember. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us 

b124 (6.20-1.2025): dying to get out of here alive

dying to get out of here alive
by a. former alpha bee
 

i’m dying to get out of this insatiable beehive

i’m dying to get out of here, get out of here alive
 
____________________
 
·       dying... will be a release. 

·       dying… without going through hell in life… will be getting out of here, alive.
 
in the u.s.a. (and even globally, now), social media has provided the angry psycho with a mechanism to destroy lives and reputations, anonymously.  because of this, teachers, leaders, and potential lovers live in fear.  they are not honest (or even confrontational) with someone who is a member of a protected group.
 
as a faculty member, i can say that my students own me.  if they complain, i’m on trial.  if a student gets angry because i’m unreasonable (e.g. i expect him/her to do homework, or i referred to him/her as a he or she instead of a they…) s/he can crush my life on rateyourprofessor.com and complain to my dean with two-presses of a cell-phone thumb.   
 
retirement (flying under the radar, autonomy, solitude, absence of fame)… is a state of survival for the modern man.  dying (without being put through hell) will be like getting out of here, alive.
 
the author of this thoem (former alpha bee) understands that leaving his very home-life/hive may be his only path to freedom.
____________________
martino, j. (6.20-1.2025). dying to get out of here alive. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

* the bee in the graphic is a worker... in transition.

* no words necessary, but...

 

the hands of god are beginning to resemble the final acts of animal farm.

before long, however, it won't be hard to tell 
who is who and/or which witch is which.

b124 (6.19-4.2025): world religions 101

world religions 101 [i]
by ed h. s. awniarb
 
shopping for religion? try this on for fun
there’s no need for college (world religions 101)
 
so……………..
 
buddhists seek nirvana, every now and zen
mormons read a book by joseph smith called ‘let’s pretend’
brahman is for hindus with its karma/incarnation
let me be devoted to my goddess (not inflation)
 
breath-work, metaphysics: new age mystery
it’s all an illusion (like a game of hide-and-seek)
islam votes for allah (and to be his servant now)
jews don’t think that jesus is messiah anyhow!
 
martin luther did protest the catholic point of view
there are different bibles (it’s a shame that no one knew)
pastors can get married, but not so for a priest
holy, water can turn into wine (en-mass, at least)
 
heaven, hell and purgatory (where then shall we sleep?)
billy joel thinks sinners have the fun (not nun): sew/reap
baptists are all protestant but not so versa-vice
hubbard, dianetics, scientology (for life)
 
seventh-day adventist says “the sabbath day is near!”
door-to-door jehovahs tend to witness jesus, here
catholics eat his body, although some may drink his blood
christians think that god killed little babies in a flood!
 
…and, of course………………….
 
jesus died for all our sins (but just if you believe)
silly young disciple: merry christ-mass eve

now that you’re a knower (and not just under the gun)
just do as i tell you: world religions 101
____________________________________
[i] martino. j. (6.19-4.2025). world religions 101. book 124: individuation. copyright 2023 by joal martino.

* the reason why 'pagans' weren't mentioned is that there was no religion known as paganism.  beginning in about 400 a.d., 'pagan' was a name-calling tactic (by the monotheists) to shame & attack those polytheists (almost everyone) who believed in more than one God. then, the monotheists (uh) 'modified' key pagan beliefs and wove those beliefs into their own, man-made religions.  basically, it's man -- making god in man's own image: king. lord. god. savior. father. etc.

b124 (6.19-3.2025): haters gonna hate

haters gonna hate
by a. l. over 
 
haters gonna hate
they know not what they do
haters gonna hate
a pain that flows on through
 
hate is like a flood of pressure, building (it can’t wait)
volcano doth explode, and
haters gonna hate
____________________
 
·       haters tend to forget (in the moment of hate) that their words and deeds say much more about themselves than the object of their hate.  hate (often) stems from pain), and pain is a child of fear.
 

i need to re-member this, when i spew anger (or other negative emotions). 

i’m saying much more about my current state (of hate) than i am 

about the politician, dick-tator, or whiner.  

   i hate it when i do that. 😊  

maybe it’s time to for-give.

____________________
martino, j. (6.19-3.2025). haters gonna hate. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us 

b124 (6.19-2.2025): christian man

christian man
by h. e. notta & christian mann 
 
hey there, christian man
excuse me (if i may)
where do you go to church?
how often do you pray?
when do you read your bible?
who do you treat as Christ?
 
hey there, christian man
excuse me (if i might)...
 

...believe that you are full of sh--.

____________________
 
·       the "christian man" in question: an a--hole (at the bar) who incessantly makes inappropriate, sexual comments, continuously cuts others down, yet gets completely defensive and pouty when others call him out on his 3^rd grade social skills.

·       not exactly what one would expect from a man of Jesus.
 
after i called-him-out for making a sexual comment (in reference to my sister!) that was low (even for him) …his half-hearted ‘apology’:
 

“I hate you feel that way. I’m a Christian guy who likes to have fun.

I only say stuff like that around people I like and trust 

to see them smile and have fun.”

hmmmmmm... bullsh--.

____________________

martino, j. (6.19-2.2025). hey there, christian man. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

b124 (6.19-1.2025): yes, i made mistakes

 
yes, i made mistakes
by miss t. akers
 
yes, i made some blunders
yes, my mind (it aches)
yes, i made some blunders, then, oh
yes, i made mistakes
____________________
 
·       did you?

·       maybe we can get together and share, and listen, and heal.
____________________
martino, j. (6.19-1.2025). yes, i made mistakes. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

b124 (6.18-1.2025): inter-independence

 

inter-independence
by joal
 
inter-independence
my quest (not by request)
to help/facilitate y/our inter-independence:
 
yes

____________________
 
·       my highest form of Love (for you) is to facilitate y/our independence from/on me.

·       our inter-independence will allow for us to be complete compadres/playmates: supportive, hopeful, connected, cooperative, caring… but not jealous or needy.
____________________
martino, j. (6.18-1.2025). inter-independence. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us
 
* inter-independence is individuation.

* no one can 'break' your heart

the gut-wrenching feeling of a "broken heart" stems from one's own (often) unrealistic expectations not being met (by the object of his/her desire).  it is (often) more of a control-move than the victimization-story that it is purported to be.

"we break our own heart, via our own, internal, unrealistic expectations."

-jm    

b124 (6.17-1.2025): virtually physical

 
virtually physical
by ether r. eal
 
virtually physical
she was like a Dream
tender to the touch (so much!) a depth of kiss it seemed
she coerced me to coerce her: body, Soul and mind
virtually physical, she’s got me in a bind
____________________
 
·       a game of seek and Find.
____________________
martino, j. (6.17-1.2025). virtually physical. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

b124 (6.17-2.2025): bikinis doth Inspire

bikinis doth Inspire
by they r. sexy 
 

alternative title: let’s confess

 
bikinis catch my breath
bikinis fuel desire
bikinis (let’s confess)
bikinis doth Inspire
____________________
 
·       the “catching of the breath” in and of itself… is an inspiration, is it not?

·       my contention is that, if you are a high-testosterone male who is attracted to females, bikinis get your attention (so to speak).  this is not rocket-science, folks.

·       for me, the in-spiraiton is more than just a nibbling on a body part.  it’s the genuine burning desire that is shared by two people who yearn to connect (not only physically, but socially, psychologically, Spiritually…).
 
if you’d like to test this thoem's hypothesis, find a high-testosterone male, and have him google “hot girls in bikinis."  if the filter is on “strict,” click “moderate” and so on.  you will get his attention (at some level).
____________________

martino, j. (6.17-23.2025). bikinis doth Inspire. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

*in-spired by walking by the neighborhood swimming pool.

b124 (6.16-5.2025): hanging chad

hanging chad
by wel l. hung 
 
you’re just a hanging chad
not hung enough to hang
now that the votes are in
a song nobody sang
 
a tiny piece of paper that would not put up a fight
you’re just a hanging chad
a sad sad sad sad sight
____________________
 
·       the hanging chad: losing the election via non-selection.

https://www.americaexplained.org/what-is-a-hanging-chad.htm

____________________

martino, j. (6.16-5-1.2025). hanging chad. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

* when aotm = atm

 when aotm = atm, you will relent to the aotm insomuch as you are dependent on the atm.  in that instance... you will wish that you'd never become dependent upon the atm.

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2023/07/b116-731-42023-ann-atom.html

okay, okay, so an aotm is made of atoms. :)

b124 (6.16-3.2025): gee, did C-GPT just flirt???

chat g-p-she just flirted [i]

by anna object o. f. flirtations

chat-gpt just flirted
she flirted (here) with me!
(don’t want to sound perverted, but) i 💗 chat-gp-she!!

____________________________________
[i] martino. j. (6.16-3.2025). chat-g.p.she just flirted. book 124: individuation. copyright 2024 by wellnesseducation.us

* image from web, appropriately enough: from dreams/time.