b118 (1.1-1.2024): imagine how much better...

by the end of 2024 [i]
by joal
 
imagine how much better i’d feel, if... by the end of 2024:
 
·       i was back to 185.
·       i had the golden ratio back, due to lifting 6 days per week.
·       i had no beer in the house, did not drink alone, and only drank sips of wine on dates or other potentially romantic situation.
·       if i really, really knew (in my heart) that alcohol and coffee taste like sh--, and they give me bad breath and bad body odor (bad pheromones).  remember how bill s. smelled?
·       if i had learned to line dance… to the point of where i could teach an intro class.
·       if i had a local network (at gaston, at riverfront, at harris teeter, at charlotte singles, etc.
·       if i pumped my testosterone back up.
·       if i had published one, positive book.
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[i] martino, j. (1.1-1.2024). imagine how much better i’d feel. book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.

b116 (12.29-2.2023): aunt suzie shamed my fembot

aunt suzie shamed my fembot [i]
by double s. tandards
 

alternative title: bad vibrations

 
aunt suzie shamed my fembot when she walked into my room
aunt suzie was disgusted as she peppered me with doom
aunt suzie called me out, she said “misogynist!” “dic-tator!”
aunt suzie didn’t know i’d seen her with her big vibrator
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·       because aunt suzy lives in a world that is, by default, double-standard-esque.
 
·       her vibrator is seen as liberating, but my fembot is seen as disgusting.
 
·       why?
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[i] martino, j. (12.29-2.2023). aunt suzie shamed my fembot. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.29-1.2023): when you're dead...

when you're dead, you’re dead [i]
by a. live & d. ying
 

alternative title: Universal legacy

alternative title: imagine

 
you may have been a martyr or the anti-christ instead
you may have been world-famous, but when you're dead:
 
you’re dead
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·       once you are dead, everyone else (who might have cared) goes on about their own busy day… eating, working and bullsh--ting.
 
·       it doesn’t matter if you are marcus aurelius or mother teresa or m.l.k. or jesus or even a mom.  the simple truth is that few people care enough to investigate your life or your legacy.
 
·       even if someone did care enough to care, they’d only have access to his-story and word-of-mouth blabberings that may (or may not) be true.  they’d never, ever know.  even if they knew, they’d have little time to contemplate.  even if they contemplated…
 
·       even if someone did know/contemplate, and even if they wrote a book about you, few would read it in a way that resulted in awakening or change.  most would go on about their own busy day… eating, working and bullsh--ting.
 
on the other hand, every person who you encounter is somehow affected by that encounter.  in turn, every person who they encounter is affected, so you (in a sense) create ripple-effects that reach-out to people and places that you’ve never even seen nor heard of (or imagined).
 
·       your most important legacy is the way that you treat people, now.  that is how you affect the universe.
 
imagine if you could treat everyone as if s/he was the birth of your own, personal creation.  imagine if you do have a lasting legacy.
 
imagine…
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[i] martino, j. (12.29-1.2023). you’re dead. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.28-2.2023): mermaid in the sand

mermaid in the sand [i]
by show n. tail

 alternative title: man-u-factured

 
mermaid in the sand
not sure what to think
pretty/sure a fake
not even a wink
there are times when beauty is a man-u-fractured dream
mermaid in the sand
life ain’t what it seems…
 
in the sand

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[i] martino, j. (12.28-2.2023). mermaid in the sand. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.28-1.2023): group-errr... sandwich

group-errr… sandwich [i]
by e. n. gendered
 

alternative title: anywhere else but here

 
i ordered grouper sandwich, with bowl of gumbo soup
just then the lines were blurred between what’s boy or girl (or group)
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·       the first thing i noticed was the face of the man who was facing my way, next to the window at the next table.  at times, disgusted.  at times, hateful.  mostly, he just blank-stared out the window.
 
·       he was seated next to (i’d wager) his girlfriend, who was also facing me, but partially hidden by the person who had his/her/their back to me.
 
·       the person in question sported a jet-black buzz-haircut in back, a shaven-head on the right side (with a giant ear-ring), and a colorful (pink & green-ish?) flock of hair on the left.  s/he was overly flamboyant, as mom was hanging on every word while mr. disgusted man couldn’t wait for the un-happy-meal to begin and end.
 
·       it reminded me of when i used to date a gal (who i’ll call ‘kay’) in this very town.  she had a very flamboyant, obnoxious and vulgar gay son (who i’ll call ‘rex’).  i remember times (out dining with them) when i had to sit there and bear it (in exchange for mommy’s companionship and sexual favors).  quite frankly, it sucked.  i know exactly how mr. disgusted-man felt.
 
·       more than once, when kay and i were dating, she was called-away due to an overdose, an arrest, or another rex-threat of suicide.
 
·       years later, i visited town and rented a pontoon boat (for my nephew kenny’s birthday).  his dad (my brother, stephen) wanted to relive a pontoon-boat dolphin experience that we’d had once before.   kay was invited to tag along, and (that morning) she asked if rex could join us.
 
·       one of the greatest moments of my life was when i said “kay, maybe another time.  this is kenny’s day.”  
 
·       it would have been downright repulsive to listen to rex' innuendo, vulgarity, and conversation-stealing persona for 4 hours.
 
looking back, i’m amazed that i put up with one minute of rex’ bulls—t.  i feel for mr. disgusted: trapped in paradise, having dinner with his girlfriend’s obnoxious-flambeau transomething while wishing he was anywhere else but here.
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[i] martino, j. (12.28-1.2023). group-errr… sandwich. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.27-3.2023): baggage claim

baggage claim [i]
by n. o. baggage

alternative title: don’t

i sensed that she had baggage
she said “what’s in a name?”
i knew we’d meet down-under in a place called baggage-claim
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·       if she has kids, or a rat-dog, or an ex-ex-con, she has baggage.
·       if she has daddy issues or mommy issues or past-sex issues, she has issues.  she has baggage.
·       she’ll try to make it seem as though she is a great catch, and that her p---y is made of gold, and that all you need to do… is to beg.  hint: don’t.
 
-don’t raise someone else’s kids.
-don’t pick-up someone else’s dog’s sh-t.
-don’t cower to her sh-t tests (and yes, she is sh-t testing from day 1!).
 

don’t!

 

when an old friend of mine was asked (in his old age) for his advice on marriage, his one-word answer was not welcomed with glee.  his one-word answer was, however, true:
 

doooooooooooon’t.

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[i] martino, j. (12.27-3.2023). baggage claim. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.27-2.2023): pH

pH [i]
by p. aitch
 
pH (scent of a woman)
pH (a scent of man)
pH (the dance of scent-ses when supply is in demand)
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·       pH: it has a lot to do with pools, hot tubs and body chemistry.
 
·       pH: it has a lot to do with scent, and (as it were) s[c]en[t]ses.
 
·       pH: it is affecting your sexual, pheromonal signals (right now…) sub-consciously.
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[i] martino, j. (12.27-2.2023). pH. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.27-1.2023): flying solo

flying solo (christmas) [i]
by h. solo
 
flying solo (christmas)
flying solo (why)
flying solo (christmas) is the only way to fly
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• flying solo is the best way to meet people and to practice being an elite, excellent man. 

• not only does it force you to get out and about, but it gives you the freedom to go (and come) where you want, when you want… without needing someone’s agreement or approval. 

• it’s easy to observe miserable people, dragging-around a kid or displeased with a spouse. 

• if you are a man, and if you haven’t found an hb10 (in terms of how she supports you), go solo.

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[i] martino, j. (12.27-1.2023). flying solo (christmas). book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.16-1.2023): she'll never love you like...

she’ll never love you like… [i]
by al p. hadog
 
she’ll never love you, like…
she’ll never love you so
she’ll never love you, mike
she’ll never love you, joe
she’ll never love you like you love her lips (and front, and back)
she’ll never love you like she loves her dog (and that’s a fact)
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she will never love you as much as she loves her dog.

• a woman will love her man opportunistically, without even being aware of it.  opportunistic love is as hard-wired into her software – like a man staring at cleavage.

• she wants two things:
  
• an alpha male (leader, protector, stud) and
• a beta male (provider, child-rearing-assistant, plow-horse).
• note: the chances of you being both, throughout the course of a lifetime, are nil.
• she is hard-wired to alpha-bet-a-tize* you.

• her love-need is predicated upon hypergamy, her game of determining who is the best choice for her seeds and needs.

• her love style, of course, will be drastically affected by her SMV (sexual marketplace value) ...which can only decrease with age.
  

since she doesn’t depend on her dog for seed or provisions, she can love scruffy in the way that her man wants to be loved: like a companion.
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[i] martino, j. (12.16-1.2023). she’ll never love you like… book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino.
 
* alpha-bet-a-tization: the process of your LTR-LC (long term relationship/legal commitment) testing (and punishing) your alpha by continually making beta requests and alpha-crushing comments.  don’t blame her, as it is wired-into her psyche (like reciting the alphabet -- or like you, staring at a hot-ass babe).  blame yourself for caving-in, and for-getting to chase your own excellence.

b116 (12.13-1.2023): relationships 101

relationships 101 [i]
by francine acts
  
let’s do this together
sure (it will be fun)
maybe we can tether
 
relationships 101
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·       when relationship “experts” talk about relationships, they often assume erroneously.  one major error is to assume that the ultimate relationship-goal is marriage.

·       when i talk about relationships, i assume that the man or woman wants to be happy.

·       in a survival-thrival world, here’s what that means:
   o   her happiness adds to her story (herstory) when she is more secure.  her security, however, can be bipolar:
          1.     part of her wants the best Alpha seed (usually a bad-boy Alpha who can get his share of women), and (simultaneously)…
          2.     part of her wants the best provider (usually a well-behaved beta).
          3.     if she gets #1, she tries to turn him into a #2.  when she gets #2, she still wants to mate with #1.

   o   his happiness (his-story) is that he wants to spread his seed, far and wide, with the best and hottest babes (hb). 
          1.     he gets tricked-into “settling” for his “one” (by the bait of easier, more available mating/sex), but then realizes that (with her competition anxiety gone) she isn’t into the passionate type of sex that she courted him with.  (note that courted should probably be spelled caught-ed. 😊)
          2.     he ends-up miserable, as society’s laws promote and protect the bait-and-switch, and there is nothing he can do about it (without increased short-term and long-term misery).
          3.     worse yet (if he’s been tricked-into kid responsibilities), he is done. 
 
one of the best possible courses of action (for her) is a bipolar marriage arrangement, with a beta provider and an Alpha mate (or two). 
 
marriage (commitment, cohabitation), of course, is the worst possible option for his-story, unless he were to somehow marry-up… with the option of multiple hot girlfriends on the side.
 
while neither of the above courses of action are (overtly) accepted in society, hers is accepted universally (aka: “my needs weren’t getting met by my beta”).  society’s story is that he, if he is anything less than the loyal, providing, plow-horse dad… he fails.
 
men: don’t commit to a life of misery.  

ladies: use what you’ve got (ahem) to get him to commit to a life of misery.
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[i] martino, j. (12.13-1.2023). relationships 101. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

* when they want to take you down...

 when they want to take you down [i]
by joal
 
·       when they want to take you down, it won’t matter how many good things you’ve said or done.

·       your plus-side won’t matter.

·       your past awards, altrusa, cooperation, coordination, care… none of it will matter.

·       when they want to take you down, they will focus on a word or a phrase that you uttered (even if it was in a time of stress), and they will beat the drum of hate until it sounds as if you have always been the anti-Christ.
 
…and then, like the president of harvard, you will apologize.
 
…and then, in all likelihood, you will resign.
 
score another round for the re-publicans.

b116 (12.12-1.2023): doom is in the room

doom is in the room [i]
by paul d. oom
 
some (here at the party) sensed that something. coming. soon.
we could sense it (feel it)
doom is in the room
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·        we weren’t sure exactly if (or when) he would snap, or strike. 

·        we weren’t sure exactly who (which one) he was, only that he had the potential (in an instant) to become infinitely smarter, infinitely more persuasive, and infinitely more lethal.

·        of course, most of the people at the party were happily unaware that mr. p. doom was even in the room, while a few were egging-him-on and buying him shots.

·        the s--- might hit the fan if/when we (belatedly) try to shut him down.

there will be nowhere to run, and nowhere to hide.
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[i] martino, j. (12.12-1.2023). doom is in the room. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.11-1.2023): Christmas spirit

Christmas spirit [i]
by a. Spirit
 
i’m in the Christmas spirit
but what does that all mean?
the Spirit that is Christmas is the All-and-in-between
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·        to be “in spirit” is to be “in” (hence connected with) the All that IS.

·        to be conscious of different-i-all-i-ty (hence, relative), one must be (apparently) separate from the ALL, thereby different from the ALL, thereby a small i (instead of the Big I AM), thereby having senses.

·        Christ Consciousness is Oneness Consciousness.

·        hu-man-s rarely get a glimpse of this kind of Connectedness.  It is sometimes experienced between mother & child, (or watching a sunrise, or during mutual orgasm, or other Uni-fy-ing moments) and is a kind of Love that has no condition… hence: Unconditional.   

·        as relative, living human be-ings, we act as a spiritual-neuro-network, reporting back to the ALL from the (apparent) ego.

·        when/if we can experience Oneness, or Union, or Love, or Connection, or ALLness, we feel as though we are “no-thing” and/or “Everything” – which is not a thing.  

·        that experience, is the in-between.  it’s when wIe (as ego) touch the ALL.

in essence, ego constantly seeks to experience connection or All-ness, but re-cognizes that True Fusion with the All would be the end of the one: the apparently separate ego.  when the red becomes blue, and when blue is all there is, red is no more.  

this is the dance of ego & Spirit.
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[i] martino, j. (12.11-1.2023). Christmas spirit. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.8-1.2023): weeding-out the robots

weeding-out the robots  [i]
by i. robot
 
weeding out the robots
weeding out the lies
weeding out the robots (i’m a robot in disguise)
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·        am i (really) any better than a robot?
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[i] martino, j. (12.8-1.2023). weeding-out the robots book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.6-1.2023): disillusionment

disillusionment [i]
by dis i. l. lusioned
 
there’s a current theme
there’s no way to prevent
there’s a way (it seems)
 
disillusionment
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·        the current theme rings loud and clear: money talks, power wins… and then those guys get to re-write the illusory his-story.

·        a feeling of emptiness arises when one re-cognizes the Truth: there is nothing that you can do about it.

·        my way of dealing with disillusionment will be (1) to write about it, (2) to allow it to re-mind me to tap back into gratitude [e.g. it has been a wonderful ride], and (3) to provide those who i love with moments that are real:
   o   to listen,
   o   to touch,
   o   to understand, and
   o   to appreciate.

this Christ-mas, i intend to give the gift of time.
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[i] martino, j. (12.6-1.2023). disillusionment. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.5-3.2023): when you lose what you love

when you lose what you love [i]
by dis i. l. lusioned
 
when you lose what you love
(the disconcerting stare)
when now you doubt the notion it was ever, really there
when house of cards (turned sideways) leaves but every-thing exposed
 
when you lose what you love
just what do you suppose?
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·        during a time when many men are learning that their true love (college football) is nothing more than a ruse... it begs the question:
 

“have i been led to believe other things that might not be true?”

 

“can i trust anything?”

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[i] martino, j. (12.5-3.2023). when you lose what you love. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.5-2.2023): festival of lights

festival of lights [i]
by ima festive
 
festival of lights
festival of gloom
festival tonight, a
festival of doom

when your darkest fear is you’re the one nobody likes
festival of gloom
festival of lights
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·        for many, the Christ-mas holidays are not filled with laughter and love and cheer.
·        for many, the holidays are a reminder of how alone they feel, on this little blue ball in the sky.
·        for many, it feels fake.
·        for many, it is too commercialized.
·        for many, they just want to feel Loved.
·        for many, the Christ-mas holidays are a re-mind-errrrr… of how empty life can be.
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[i] martino, j. (12.5-2.2023). festival of lights. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.5-1.2023): narratives

narratives [i]
by a. story tella
 
let me tell you a story
as if the verses (true)
what matters (if my-story has desired-effect on you)
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·        a narrative… is a tale (or a story) that can easily become his-story -- if told with enough fervor, if told enough times, and if told by enough people.
·        it is important to note that evidence (or reason) are not necessary (and often lacking) in some of his-stories biggest-fish stories.
 
examples:
1.      the southeastern conference is stronger than the atlantic coast conference.
 
2.      a white-bearded man, up there, in the sky (who “knows if you’ve been bad or good”) flies around the world on a sleigh (pulled by flying reindeer)!  he (of course) brings toys to good boys (and [get this...]) on god’s birthday.
 
3.      “god” (of course) was born on december 25^th...sometime after "god" (who was never “born” [per se] but happens to be god’s father) -- somehow immaculately-impregnated an under-age virgin girl (named mary) who was (somehow) able to give consent to being impregnated by a god, with a god.
 
narratives.  they just might make your head spin.
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[i] martino, j. (12.5-1.2023). narratives. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.3-2.2023): if you can't beat 'em, join

if you can’t beat ‘em, join [i]
by a. joined
 
if you can’t beat ‘em (lose)
if you can’t (flip a coin)
if you can’t beat ‘em (choose)
if you can’t beat ‘em (join)
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·        since $$$ & power rule the day (and the narrative), it is important to be aware of options.

·        if fighting (and losing) lead you & yours into lives of misery, and if joining a power-team creates a life of Bliss… choose this.
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[i] martino, j. (12.3-2.2023). if you can’t beat ‘em, join. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.3-1.2023): power-talking heads

power-talking heads [i]
by a. head & b. hind
 
power-talking heads
power-talking lies
power-talking (money walking) reality in disguise
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·        there come times when it becomes obvious: money and power create narratives that win, thereby creating his-story.
·        is his-story real?
·        reality tv, virtual girlfriends and college football playoff committees reinforce that which we already know: his-story is a sham.
·        sadly, “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” makes even more sense than ever.
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[i] martino, j. (12.3-1.2023). power-talking heads. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino.