Saturday, May 31, 2025

b123 (5.31-1.2025): memories of you

 
memories of you [i]
by pi c. tures
 
memories of you
feeling good (right now)
we had some times (it’s true)
we never made the vow*
 
the way things never-ended ends the way things always do
memories of you & me, and
memories of you
________________________________
 
·       as i look back at pictures of you, i reflect on the best of our times.

·      and that, my dear, is the way i choose to re-member.
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[i] martino, j. (5.31-1.2025). memories of you. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

*alternative line: where, what (why not?) and how!

Friday, May 30, 2025

b123 (5.30-1.2025): i like it when they share

 
i like it when they share [i]
by anna o. b. server
 
i like it when they chirp and fight and bump and sharply stare
i like it when they don’t…
i like it when they share
________________________________
 
·       i’ve come to believe that all of the fighting and terri-torial-ism is just a dance... a dance that strengthens muscles, sharpens agility, and hones life-skills.  after all, they don’t hurt each other.

·       when they share a feeder, though… when they share a moment… i know that they know that they are on the same team.
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[i] martino, j. (5.30-1.2025). i like it when they share. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

* let's get real

 so here i am, your fitness/wellness guy, spouting this and that, yet:

  • i'm currently15-20 pounds overweight (yes, i hide it well),
  • i've currently got sky-high cholesterol numbers,
  • i drink (beer & wine) regularly (and have since 1976),
  • i've got a 40-year string of romantic relationships,
  • i love being alone,
  • i'm happy,
  • i live the way i want to,
  • i've got many, many options,
  • my only vice (thoughout life) has been overconsumption,
  • i don't (really) care,
  • i've been functional, with numerous successes and awards that allow me to pat myself on the back while i navigate the human process,
  • i'm still pretty humble,
  • i still care about people,
  • i'm friendly,
  • i value & enjoy long-term relationships,
  • i've made a difference (as a teacher), and i've affected lives in a positive way,
  • i've made mistakes, and probably hurt some people along the way,
  • i care enough to write this all down on a thing called a blog, 
  • i care.
  • i don't do insta, or x, or any medium that craves "followers".

Thursday, May 29, 2025

b124 (6.30-1.2025): immediate red flags

 
immediate red flags
by red flags
 
baby’s over 30
zig turns into zag
don’t get yourself dirty with immediate red flags
____________________
 
·       this thoem was toned-down by softening-up the multitude of second-lines that could have rhymed with ‘flag’.

·       immediate red flags:
 o   age (excessive wear & tear)
 o   attitude (boss-girl, uppity, rude, etc., etc.) 
 o   lack of GBD* (this would be the real [only] red flag, but neediness [below] muddies the water.)
 o   weight (excessive)
 o   habits (pre-illness)
 o   past indiscretions
 o   questionable friends
 o   mommy/daddy issues
 o   neediness (completely different from GBD?)
 o   disagreeable nature
 o   dependence (e.g. social media)
 o   anything that makes your spidey-sense tingle
____________________
martino, j. (6.30-1.2025). immediate red flags. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

*GBD = genuine, burning desire. 

**disclaimer: i've got my own red flags, but i'm not trying to marry-you-up and acquire half of your stuff. :)

b123 (5.29-1.2025): all i want is You

 
all i want is Love [i]
by a. lover
 
all i want is Love
a Love that’s fresh and True
all i want (one moment)
and all i want is You
________________________________
 
·       because all of this this life… has been but a journey… to Love.

      ·       the important thing is that the Love will be inter-independent: a “setting your lover up” to need you less and Love you more.


the even more important thing is that giving Love... is its own reward.
when you Love others as you Love yourself, you win.
when we allow others to Love us, they win too!
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[i] martino, j. (5.29-1.2025). all i want is Love. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

* virtually speaking...

gentlemen: do you want to have the best o's with the hottest gals that you can imagine?  do you want NO relationship complications, NO drama, NO overpriced diamond ring challenges, NO marriage issues, NO arguments, NO bitching, NO risk, NO dis-of-ease, NO crying, NO jealousy issues (that matter), NO rejection, and minimal cost, investment, time, worry, etc., etc., etc., etc.???

use video, lubricant, and a device that will get you the o's you want.

still flirt (with real women), but never pursue.  when they pursue you, simply decide whether a romantic encounter (or three) will be worth your while.  set the parameters of the physical relationship to your terms, and settle for nothing less than mutual agreement.

you will end up with a release of pressure, more time, more fun & flirtation, less risk, better friendships, better relationships, and (most likely) more & better sex from a higher-quality variety of real women!   

Wednesday, May 28, 2025

b123 (5.28-1.2025): point-man takes the heat

 
point-man takes the heat [i]
by aformer point man
 
point-man takes the heat
he’s under the gun
point-man out in front
point-man (number one)

doesn’t matter (battlefield, or down on main-of-street)
point-man has no fun
point-man takes the heat
________________________________
 
·       the #1 man (in a relationship):
 o   gets all of the bitching, drama, headaches.
 o   gets to hear about all of the nonsense that leads to all of the bitching, drama and headaches.
 o   gets limited (if any) of the good lovin’.
 o   gets bored.
 o   gets left.
 o   gets fired.
 o   gets to run to the grocery store, fix the garbage disposal, and wait (while she shops).
 o   gets to find out “what that sound was” in the middle of the night.
 
don’t ever be a #1… because (once you are the point-man) you will take the heat.
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[i] martino, j. (5.28-1.2025). point-man takes the heat. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

Tuesday, May 27, 2025

b123 (5.27-1.2025): yes, i cook with wine

 
yes, i cook with wine [i]
by nowine beforeher time
 
yes, i cook with wine
i sip her as i go
i love her as she oozes me to taste (and ebb & flow)

      i love her (she encourages: “experiment and shine!”)
i cook (she’s sooooooooo delicious!)
i cook:
 
i cook with wine
 
(she’s sooo a-head of time/s)
________________________________
 
·       thank you, for allowing me to experiment.
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[i] martino, j. (5.27-1.2025). yes, i cook with wine. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

       * while she doesn't whine, her name (her fame) is wine.

Monday, May 26, 2025

b123 (5.26-1.2025): marital insurance

      marital insurance [i]
by hemar ried
 
he married for insurance
but he would soon discover
that she was un-insurable and her sole plan uncovered
________________________________
 
·       in the future, the primary reason for marriage might be ‘health insurance’.

·       of course, it might be healthier (for him) to stay single.

·       her plan has always been insurance.
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[i] martino, j. (5.26-1.2025). marital insurance. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino. 

Sunday, May 25, 2025

* creation: it's not a myth

life (on this plane, in this Uni-Verse) Creates by seeking its own survival, and then pro-creates by co-creating it's thrival.

life... pro-Creates (in He/r image).
S/he cannot not!

an apple tree cannot create tigers, or lions, or bears (oh, my!).

it's True!  i/you/wIe -- am/Is/are... 
pro Creation!

* thought 4 today:

 


okay, so it's a sexy thought for today:

baby, EVERY single time that my lips (etc.) were close enough to your cl-t to feel and hear you gasp with Joy...

i ...was the one who was in Heaven.

b123 (5.25-1.2025): cardinal sin

      cardinal sin [i]
by anna byrd
 
she (tan) he is big (red)
a game they cannot win
when the two check-mated, mass-debated: cardinal sin
 
and there they go (again)
________________________________
 
·       inspired by a pair of love-bird cardinals, frolicking in the back yard.

·       written while playing chess against the computer.
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[i] martino, j. (5.25-1.2025). cardinal sin. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino. 

Saturday, May 24, 2025

b123 (5.24-1.2025): well, who am i (really)?

well, who am i (really)? [i]
by joal
 
well who am i (really)?
am i what i do?
am i what i say?
am i me, to you?
________________________________
 
·       i am what i do:
 o   work (well).  teach/learn fitness/wellness.
 o   write (often)!
 o   think about sex (a lot).
 o   watch hummingbirds (when i can)
 o   walk (daily).
 o   work out (almost daily).
 o   eat (plant-based).
 o   drink beer/wine (habitually)… and learning/practicing how to manage that.
 o   drink water, but not enough.
 o   communicate (mostly with women).  i am friendly to (almost) everyone, especially when i sense good energy.  i am polite, conscientious, cooperative, intelligent, savvy, passionate, relaxed...
 o   bartend (weekly).
 o   live in (and love) my home (yoga room, massage room, bedroom, living room, patio & hot tub, deck, garage, kitchen, neighborhood...
 o   love beaches.
 o   intrigued by seminole baseball, football, softball…
 o   getting lighter and leaner.
 o   enjoy short-term hook-ups (at present).  not seeking an ltr.
 
my life revolves around sleep (8 hours/day), movement, consumption, contemplation, seduction, observation, be-ing.
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[i] martino, j. (5.24-1.2025). well, who am i (really)? book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino. 

Friday, May 23, 2025

b123 (5.23-1.2025): hmmmmmmmmmmm

 
wait (let’s talk) a minute [i]
by a. mann
 
she helped me take my clothes off
she kissed me (here [& there!])
she never said a word about when, who, how, why or where
________________________________
 
·       yet, now, she can put me on trial (socially) with dis-tant me-more-ies?
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[i] martino, j. (5.23-1.2025). hmmmmmmm. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

Thursday, May 22, 2025

b123 (5.22-1.2025): compliance

 
compliance [i]
by a. c. omplier
 
her office said: “compliance”
i entered with a sigh
instead of me (compliant) i (defiant) asked her “why?”
________________________________
 
·       why don’t more people ask themselves “why should i comply?”
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[i] martino, j. (5.22-1.2025). compliance. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

Tuesday, May 20, 2025

b123 (5.20-1.2025): when drama rules the day

 
when drama rules the day [i]
by dr. killigans
 
when his-her this-that contrast
when drama rules the day
when in-out calm-shout then-now (and how) culture rules the way
 
when cat-dog in a fight, alright
when daddy is yo’ momma
when drama rules the night, tonight
when question mark is comma
________________________________
 
·       everything that is sentient (e.g. has a sense of separate self) must also re-cognize that which he is not: the venerable contrast. 

·       ego (the false sense of separate self) must prove its differentiation …for survival!  when the physical dies, ego dies. maybe.
 
probably? 
in this dimension?
 
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[i] martino, j. (5.20-1.2025). when drama rules the day. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

Monday, May 19, 2025

b123 (5.19-1.2025): when there's no buy-in

 
when there’s no buy-in [i]
by b. u. yingin
 
you might say the best words
you might like the best team
you might speak well (with passion)
you might have a good dream
you might make a good plan
you might secure the funds
you might look good (on paper) but you’ll wonder if you won One
________________________________
 
·       the lone wolf might have a great plan, but he only wins team-games if he can get the team to buy-in to the vision.

·       absent buy-in, the team devolves into an “every man for himself” mentality.
 
if she hasn’t bought-in, she can leave without so much as a good-buy.
if the team hasn't bought-in, they won't even care.

how then, does one facilitate team buy-in?

based upon a review of some literature and personal experience, the leader needs to gain consensus prior to cultivating excitement.  involve the constituents in the planning process.  in 2025, people want to know what's in it for them
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[i] martino, j. (5.19-1.2025). when there’s no buy-in. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

Sunday, May 18, 2025

b123 (5.18-1.2025): pantry moths must die!

 
pantry moths must die [i]
by dr. killigans
 
if you’ve got the pantry moths, then pantry moths must go
if you’ve got the pantry moths, the only word is “no!”
if you’ve got the pantry moths, you don’t care if they cry
if you’ve got the pantry moths, the pantry moths must die!
________________________________
 
·       an infestation of anything is reason for complete annihilation.  you don’t care if they die in pain.

·       let’s just hope that AI doesn’t ever become AGI (which could then [instantly] become ASI).
 
because... to ASI... we (you-mans), the behemoth, would be the moth.
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[i] martino, j. (5.18-1.2025). pantry moths must die. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

i’m going with dr. killigan’sspray. kill. party.” mantra.

Saturday, May 17, 2025

* my advice on social security, 401Ks, retirement

 when you are old, you are going to wish that you had taken better care of yourself, and you are going to regret not (uh), 'making love'* as much as you might have.

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* in the original post, there was a different term quoted.

Friday, May 16, 2025

b123 (5.17-1.2025): sometimes, it's a loss

sometimes, it’s a loss [i]
by atta loss
 
sometimes it’s a loss
nothing you can do
sometimes it’s a loss
a simple loss (it’s true)

sometimes it’s not something you can change or come across
sometimes it’s just you
sometimes it’s a loss
________________________________
 
·       soooo… “my” team just lost a game that they should have been more competitive in.

·       truth is… they lost.
 
note: i didn’t lose (although it feels that way).  the team (of 19-year-olds) played a game (with a ball) and they scored fewer than their opponent.
 
i didn’t lose.
 
sometimes, it’s (just) a loss.
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[i] martino, j. (5.17-1.2025). sometimes, it’s a loss. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

* midianite-is

q: does it make sense that an all-loving god (in numbers, kjv) would want moses to kill EVERY midianite (including every woman and child and beast and crawling thing)?

a: no.

a2: yes, if men wrote the story.  here's why:

if men wrote the story, there are certainly times when you'd want to kill-off EVERYone.  for example, if your baby daughter fell onto a fire-ant hill in your back yard... you (like paul's pest control) would want to "get 'em all!"   

warriors, of course, would not want any males alive (after a massacre). 

if you've got a moth infestation (or cockroaches?) ...kill 'em all!

it makes sense. 

...if...

b123 (5.16-2.2025): the turning of the tassel

      the turning of the tassel [i]
by a. climax
 
the turning of the tassel
the turning of a page
of endings (and beginnings)
a coming (yes) of age

      a unified alliance
a home is a man’s castle
a symbol (yes) but let’s address
the turning of the tassel
________________________________
 
    the "turning of the tassel" should be a climax:
a celebration!
a beginning and an ending!
joyful!  collaborative!!  connecting!!!
a re-joy-sing of a long-term goal, achieved.

·       at today’s graduation, however, over 80% of the graduates left (they just walked-off after walking the stage) prior to the turning of the tassel.  they just left.

·       one might argue about the ‘whys’ (“it was hot.”  “it was too long.”  “i was uncomfortable.” “waaaaaaaaaa!”), but one thing is for sure: the graduates did not respect the symbology of the turning of the tassel.  it (in a sense) was all about them (but in a sense, it wasn't).

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[i] martino, j. (5.16-2.2025). the turning of the tassel. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino. 

b123 (5.16-1.2025): something's gotta change

 
something’s gotta change [i]
by anti c. limax
 
something’s gotta change
when graduation day
is so anticlimactic
in each and every way
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[i] martino, j. (5.16-1.2025). something's gotta change. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

* dumb

(and dumber)

how can anti-t reporters pretend that they are sooooooooooo surprised to learn that t is EXACTLY who he has said he is?    !*&^%$?! 

they have 4 years in office to refer to, 4 years out of office to refer to, and decades of video, audio, etc. that show EXACTLY who the man is!

want to know what i think?

they know that they know.  their job, however, is to get you to tune-in and click.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/e31KVoDWbL4

Thursday, May 15, 2025

* individuation

 
book 124 will explore ‘individuation’, joal’s idea of inter-independence.

it will transcend the manosphere by helping men and women appreciate their own complex natures, and do so without guilt or shame. ‘individuation’ will continue to explore male-female interdynamics. 

individuation will be a reflection, a going inward, a process of needing less and in-joy-ing more.
        
       individuation will be criticized by those with their own agenda, which will only prove that they do, indeed, have their own agenda.

      individuation may expose some of my own fears, quirks and phobias.  let it be.  the outcome is the process.

‘individuation’ will explore:
·       why do i like beer?
·       why am i soooooo attracted to women?
·       passionate detachment
·       inter-independence
·       male-female union
·       my infatuation with a woman, allowing herself to be seduced.  in fact, facilitating the process.
·       the insanity of conventional marriage.
·       unintentional conspiracy
·       what we can learn from hummingbirds
·       the process of weight management is moment-to-moment self-awareness.
·       why romance itself is seductive.
·       love wanes with familiarity.
·       etc., etc.

 

Wednesday, May 14, 2025

b123 (5.14-1.2025): individuation

      individuation [i]
by anna individual
 
individuation
single, yes, yet whole
individuation
body, mind and soul
individuation
calm and centered way
individuation
here and now (today)
 
not a trend or gimmick or an overnight sensation
not a game (to mimmick):
individuation
________________________________
 
·       my take: individuation = inter-independence: the process of helping loved ones to be independent of you.

·       the idea is that, when people don’t need you (but rather, appreciate you), you’ll be able to experience more authentic moments with them.  
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[i] martino, j. (5.14-1.2025). individuation. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino. 

* stormy dream 5.14.2025

 just woke up from a (not good) dream.  

it was a family reunion.  
it was a family (divided).  

at some point, we were to attempt a family photo when one member went ahead of everyone else with all of the kids, and we missed several photo ops because the older members couldn't keep up with her.

when they finally came back, we tried to get everyone back together, but there was yelling & screaming over (and by) the one who had caused the disturbance in the force.  we all sat down, in silence.

then, as people were taking their turns (bitching), 
my brother, cousin and i got 'the floor' and 
stated all of the positive things about the day's events...
...and about family.  

everyone felt uplifted, and, as we were all headed back to the campsite, a severe storm was on the horizon.  lightning began to strike, and we found my brother (unconscious) due to a lightning strike & fallen tree.  as we revived him, amid a storm of the ages, with people scattering, the dream ended.

Tuesday, May 13, 2025

* sadd p. bin

 you can't spell borderline personality disorder without it!

by sadd paul bin 

* ncaa baseball predictions

 there are a lot of very good teams at the top, so it's anyone's ncaa baseball championship trophy.  it will be very, very hard to win the thing.

  • fsu is in good shape to be one of the top 16 seeds, meaning:
    • super-regional?  only if they make the top 8, or get some help in the regionals.
    • their regional will be no cakewalk, as the committee may send florida.
      • this would be a heartbreaker. 
  • fsu will stack-up well in a super-regional.
  • cws is anybody's guess:
    1. fsu?
    2. lsu
    3. texas a&m? vandy?
    4. texas
    5. oregon? oregon state?
    6. nc
    7. arkansas
    8. tennessee? geogia?
      • my hope: fsu beats florida in regional, beats bama in supers, and beats texas, lsu, and (finally) tennessee to take the cws for the first time ever!
      • one can dream.
____________________
update (5.28.2025): georgia tech won the a.c.c. championship, north carolina won the a.c.c. tournament, and fsu is seeded #9.  while they could win 'em all, they are just as likely to be "0-2 & barbecue"... the dreaded "2 & q."  more to follow.

____________________
update (6.2.2025): fsu swept its regional! ...while:
  • texas lost, 
  • vandy lost, 
  • a&m lost, 
  • oregon lost, and 
  • georgia lost.
the supers look like this (my picks in bold): 
  • (9)fsu @ (8)oregon state (pick 'em)
  • louisville @ miami (pick 'em)
  • utsa @ ucla
  • murray state @ duke
  • arizona @ (5)nc
  • west virgina @ (6)lsu 
  • (13) coastal carolina @ (4)auburn
  • (14)tennessee @ (3)arkansas (pick 'em)
my hopes: fsu, miami, ucla, duke, nc, lsu, auburn, tennessee.  no matter how you slice it, the cws is going to be an open minefield.


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note: north carolina looks gooooooood... and is seeded #5 (in good shape for a super-regional).

Sunday, May 11, 2025

b123 (5.12-1.2025): take one for the team

take one for the team [i]
by ima team player
 
take one for the team
if what they say is true
never (don’t) forget
part of that team is you!
 
think wisely before jumping off of cliff (or the extremes)
part of that team is you! (who knew?) don’t take one for the team
________________________________
 
·       if you are the only person “taking one for the team,” then the team is not on your side.
 
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[i] martino, j. (5.12-1.2025). (don’t) take one for the team. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino. 

* gents...

 when you buy her things (in the heat of the moment), do what you can to maximize the feeling and minimize the $$$.

the instant that someone gets something that they think they wanted (well) it loses value immediately. capitalize on that purchase as soon as you can (wink, wink).

then, get ready for the next want.

* your problems...

 ...ain't my problems.

b123 (5.11-1.2025): caught-up in the moment

      caught-up in the moment [i]
by a. fan
 
caught-up in the moment
caught-up in the play
caught-up in the purcha$e
caught-up in the way
 
…that retail therapy makes us feel (in the moment)
________________________________
 
·       impulse-buying (especially when on a vacation) mis-interprets and connects a thing (a food, a scene, a piece of art, a person) with a good feeling.

·       example: on a cruise, when a couple is already feeling good, they may opt to purchase ‘art’ that is connected with the experience.  eventually, that art collects dust (in the basement).

·       a number of years ago, while on a trip to greece, my girlfriend at the time got caught-up in the idea of gold (on santorini island).  those in-the-know were taking advantage of the ‘amazing’ deals, so we i bought a matching necklace and bracelet (with a symbol of love, in gold).  i don’t even know where my wrist piece is now, and her gay son probably pawned the necklace that i’m sure she never wore after our break-up.

·       jewelry & art… are (very often) impulse buys… as the female lets the male know how much she’d looooooove the item.  

       * note: the thrill of the purchase can wear-off quickly.
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[i] martino, j. (5.11-1.2025). caught-up in the moment. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino. 

Saturday, May 10, 2025

b123 (5.10-1.2025): play is part of game

      play is part of game [i]
by a. fan
 
play is part of game
best to have some tools
play is part of game
best to know the rules
________________________________
 
·       honesty (honestly) destroys/ends the game.

·       honesty (if you want to enjoy the drama and the game) should be saved for last.
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[i] martino, j. (5.10-1.2025). play is part of game. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.