b120 (11.2-1.2024): go ahead and come

go ahead and come [i]
by connie l. ingus

capture, now, the moment of erotic pleasure (some)
you cannot withhold it:
go ahead and come
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·       gentlemen, this is not about your orgasm.
·       trust that your turn is coming.
 
take the time to make the time to care for her… once she has let you into the garden.

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[i] martino, j. (11.2-1.2024). go ahead and come. book 120: i saw it on television! © 2024 by j. martino.

b120 (11.1-1.2024): the REAL art of seduction

the REAL art of seduction [i]
by s. e. duction

separate/shared realities
see you as your best
co-create the vision
shared reality-quest
 
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1.     the real art of seduction is to really, really see the other as they wish to be seen, and
2.     once seen in this way, allow them to see themselves in the co-created seduction situation.
 
as a male (In the sexual marketplace), this means seeing a woman as beautiful, smart, witty, pure, or whatever she most wants to be seen as… and then allowing that to be part of the connection.
 
this is phase 1: wow!
 
once that is established, establish phase 2: ignore. take it (the wow) away.  repeat phases 1&2.  this is the play phase (wow-ignore) where intimacy can be introduced (or hinted at).  By the way, she is already an expert at this, and it is known as (1) flirt and (2) play-hard-to-get.
 
phase 3: separate & segregate. get alone-together.  look for romantic signals, and, when sexual attraction is confirmed…
 
phase 4: take the shot.  Touch.  Massage.  Kiss.  Pet.
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[i] martino, j. (11.1-1.2024). the REAL art of seduction. book 120: i saw it on television! © 2024 by j. martino. 

b120 (10.31-1.2024): birds protect the nest

birds protect the nest [i]
by j. martino

birds (they fly) inspire “why?” but friends, we must confess
when it comes to vival, birds protect the nest
 
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1.     Any being (from ant, to hummingbird, to human) that has a sense of separate self (an ego) will look out after itself.  It will prioritize itself and its family.  It will “protect the nest.”

2.     For human beings, this involves survival (air, water, food), safety/security, and the means for more survival (which I’ll call ‘thrival’).  More territory, more power, and, in today’s world, more money.
 

Want the real truth? Follow the money trail.

 
3.     This may seem arbitrary, but people complain.  Nowadays, a complainer can easily get her 15 minutes of fame on television & social media.  She can broadcast her complaint to the world!
    a.     I’m on a Townhome Association Board (at the moment), and we had a woman complain (on local television) after the Board made a decision that (effectively) was going to protect the woman’s home from falling down a hill.
    b.     She didn’t sue (yet), but any ambulance-chasing lawyer could have convinced her to (and may still do so)!

4.     Lawmakers make laws.  Being self-serving, they make laws that benefit themselves & their nest.  They get paid by lobbyists, who get paid by billionaires, who want to protect their own nests.

5.     “You don’t pay unless we win” is a common advertising phrase among savvy lawyers who contract for the lion’s share of the winnings.

6.     Math: if you win a million dollars, yet your case-lawyer charges you a million dollars… uh… you might have won the case, but you didn’t, uh, ‘win.’  The lawyer won.

7.     I served (dutifully) on a Townhome Association Board, until the “Corporate Transparency Act” required that I submit basic information (e.g. driver’s license info). 
    a.     I (of course) asked “Why?” and then I read the document, which noted that the government needed the information for those who made decisions that affected re$ource$.
    b.     My military mind said: “Hmmmmm.  They want to fix responsibility.  They want to know who gets sued when there is a complaint.”

8.     In law, a complainer (the plaintiff) brings a complaint against someone who must then defend against said complaint: the defendant.

9.     When I refused to comply with the Act described in # 7, above, our Management Company was quick to point out that there is “nothing to worry about, because Board Members are insured.”

10.  Question: How to insurance companies make $$$?  By not paying, on claims.  Ask real people – after a hurricane or other disaster.  “Insurance” is (often) a house of cards.

11.  I asked a paralegal friend about lawsuits against Homeowners Association Boards, and the possibility of getting sued as an “insured” Board member, and she said “The Board’s insurance will appoint you a lawyer, but you’ll still be getting sued.”
 
So I thought:
 

“Hmmmmm, as an unpaid, hard-working volunteer who cares about my community,

I can be part of a Homeowner’s Board that makes a decision that could inspire

a homeowner to file a lawsuit against the Board.

The Board’s insurance company will appoint a lawyer, who will get paid. 

What happens when the money runs out? 

What happens when opposing lawyers do what opposing lawyers do –

which is drag-out the case so that they make more and more and more money? 

More importantly, when the money is gone,

how much is the Board’s insurance company’s lawyer going to care about me?”

 
My deduction was clear:
 
If some moron gets an intere$ted lawyer to sue the Board, and when lawyers do what lawyers do and the money runs-out, I (as a Board Member) will be liable – even if I voted against the decision that led to the lawsuit in the first place!
 
I (of course) have refused to comply with our Management Company’s request that I provide information as required by the Corporate Transparency Act.  The Management Company has let me know that, if I do not comply, I can no-longer serve on the Board.
 
Wait a minute: If (as a volunteer who gives freely of his hard-earned time) I refuse to put myself in a position of being sued by a neighbor for working in the best interests of that neighbor… I will no longer be allowed to do her the favor of serving/volunteering???
 
My response: “Ok.”  
 
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[i] martino, j. (10.31-1.2024). birds protect the nest. book 120: i saw it on television! © 2024 by j. martino.

*yes, this one went "off-the-rails" a tad.

 

 

  

* inexplicable

it is inexplicable (to me), that almost one in every two usa citizens will actually vote for x, but i do understand:

• the evangelicals, and the pro-life stance (dems have not done a good job explaining that no one, and i mean no one -- is "pro" abortion).
• the super-rich (that's obvious): they get richer, more powerful.  with all of that $$$, they can then buy news and commercials, furthering their agenda.
• fox news watchers: an opinion channel that spouts the most insidious of lies does indeed control the minds of those who respond to fear, hate, being and told what to think.
• the conspiracy-prone: let's face it, our government, with its secret-services and back-door deals, has left itself open to the thrival of conspiracy theory.
• the poor: some are just too uneducated and stupid to not fall for the bulls--t.
• rednecks: sooooo caught-up in the "proud to be an american" exclusionary doctrine, they believe the gun bullsh--t and the immigration bulls--t.

no matter how the elections turns out, gerrymandering, fox, power, and red-blue bias will remain.  it's an ugly future, politics.

more to follow, 

out.

* free speech

"freedom of speech" does not mean that a source that millions of people trust can hap-hazard-ly spew opinions and lies that divide a nation -- pitting brother-against-brother and neighbor-against-neighbor. 

one way that you can do so... is if you let people know at the beginning: "this is comedy" or "this is just my opinion" ...but you've got to say that, alongside of the spewing of your bulls--t.

you cannot (for example) yell "fire" in a crowded theater... unless there is, in fact, a fire.

not all speech is protected: https://freespeech.iastate.edu/faq

* day 1 (supercleanse)

i've been cleansing, in a veganorganic manner, for the month of october.  what i've been doing is probably going to become a lifestyle change and a way of life:

1. vegan (and if it can't be vegan, make it organic)
2. alcohol-free
3. toxin-free
4. vegetable heavy
5. smoothies or breakfast, as part of a morning routine
6. NCA7, as part of a night routine

note: i have not held myself to the above guidelines strictly.  i've had drinking days (3-out-of-4 at the beach), Baileys in the coffee (once after that), and 2 glasses of wine (with dinner) once.  in each of the post-beach cases, i was "finishing-off" started bottles.

    i've had fried chicken (at ingles), wings, ribs, chicken salad, fries (at the beach), etc. -- all on a very limited basis.  i've done the "free samples" of chicken salad/chips and cheese at ingles.  i've had coffee with the whipped-cream creamer.  had a starbucks last tuesday, and a couple of watermelon jolly-ranchers. 

    so, this week, i plan on doing the unsustainable: above-and-beyond in every tracking category.  that means no toxins at all, and gym bouts daily, etc.  i want to see (1) if i can pull it off, (2) where the ultimate challenges are, and (3) the 7-day results.

 

on 1 october, i was over 213 lbs. and measured a 42-inch abdomen.  this morning, i weighed-in at 205.4, with a 40-inch abdomen.  i might actually gain weight this week, with mega-hydration and weight training, but want to see an abdomen measurement that is under 40 inches.

i want to be under 200 lbs. (average) and under 40 inches (average) by thanksgiving break.

20 august         220+    44+

1   october        213+    42

28 october        205.4    40

22 november    ???       ???   

more to follow...       

* political anxiety

 the u.s.a.'s political landscape has gotten sooooooo out of hand, with soooooo much misinformation and openly-asserted lies...

...that it turns my stomach to watch interviews, debates, clips, etc.  it's disgusting.

* hitting on all cylinders

 ...so it's been almost a month, into a 'cleanse' that was supposed to last a week.  i've had 3 drinking days at the beach that may have proved monu-mental in the journey to control.

at least for the moment, my desire for wellness is outscoring my thoughts of alcohol.  last night was the first night that i've been out with friends, not drinking.  i consumed water.  they were cool.

amazing!

more than a few times, along this journey, i've felt like i was in the zone: physically, mentally, etc.  i feel that way, today.

:) 

* "oh fab, i'm glad..."

 when i was a kid, we'd sing-along with the commercial:

"oh fab, i'm glad... they put more borax in you!"

https://www.marthastewart.com/what-is-borax-8430570

yes. it's just 'fab' that we can use a poison that dissolves easily in water -- to clean products and repel pests.  it is also great to know that it will dissolve easily, flowing into drains that lead to rivers and drinking-water supplies... eventually ending-up in the ocean.

oh fab!  i'm glad! 

(that you are one of numerous conveniences that are killing me slowly.)

b120 (10.23-1.2023): you got my f---ing vote

you got my f---ing vote [i]
by j. martino

you got my f---ing vote, although there's something to address
you got my f---ing vote, your f---ing system is a mess
you got my f---ing vote, but there is something you should note

you’ve got me by the balls!

you got my f---ing vote
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the system that they (the lawmakers) have co-created:
 
·       several states don’t require photo identification,
·       gerrymandering perpetuates the system,
·       candidates can be bought and sold,
·       billionaires have waaaaaaay too much influence,
·       the process is negative.  ugly.  cruel.  disgusting.
 
not that it’s not by design: 
 
while the plebes are all arguing among themselves (due to the divide & conquer agenda), those at the top of the chain can laugh all the way to the bank (and the yatch, and the skybox, and the brothel).   
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[i] martino, j. (10.23-1.2024). you got my f---ing vote. book 120: i saw it on television! © 2024 by j. martino. 

b120 (10.21-1.2024): i don't have time for time

i don’t have time for time [i]
by nancy oliva time

i don’t have time for time
no reason for no rhyme
it’s just a game of mine
i don’t have time for time
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·       but (if i did) i’d take the time to make the time -- the time of my life. 
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[i] martino, j. (10.21-1.2024). i’ve got no time for time. book 120: i saw it on television! © 2024 by j. martino.

*inspired by reading the last couple of chapters of "a brief history of time." by stephen hawking. 

b120 (10.20-1.2024): "everybody" (nose)

everybody (nose) [i]

by i. m. ego & ima one

everybody knows that everyone pinocchios
everybody grows one:
everybody (nose)
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·       beware, when liars use common terms like:
 

“everybody knows”

 

“they”

 

“if you’re not with us, you’re against us.”

 
“everybody knows” is used to get you to believe that a majority of the people agree with the ridiculous claim made by the liar.  he’s trying to get you on board with his lie.
 
“they” (used loosely) can refer to a nationality/race (e.g. ‘haitians’) or a group of people (e.g. ‘immigrants’) or a gender’s skill-set (e.g. “they can’t drive!”), etc., etc.  in each case, the liar is promoting a pre-judgment of a group. 
 
when was the last time that you’ve heard the two (above) terms... used together?
 

“everybody knows that they…”

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“if you’re not with us, you’re against us” -- is used as a threat… often used when a liar attempts to paint a this-or-that, black-or-white, us-vs.-them worldview.  “pro-life” vs. “pro-choice” is an excellent example of dividing people with similar belief systems into two, opposing groups:

“democrats” vs. “republicans.”

 
i’d wager that you agree with a lot of your political opponent’s views:
·       balance the damn budget!
·       support education.
·       stay out of our bedrooms!!
·       don’t give free money away to people who abuse the system.
·       don’t put a semi-automatic weapon in the hands of a lunatic.
·       cultivate clean energy for a better future for all.
·       promote safety and security, not war.
·       etc., etc., etc.  the list goes on and on.
 
except that… even though you agree with your democratic or republican ‘rival,’ the powers that win via ‘divide and conquer’ want the two sides to battle -- while the powerful laugh all the way to the bank (and their yatchs, and mansions, and super-bowl skyboxes).  
 
the average guy & gal -- might not be opponents at all. 
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[i] martino, j. (10.20-1.2024). everybody nose. book 120: i saw it on television! © 2024 by j. martino.

* it even happens in sporting competitions: yankees vs. red sox, seminoles vs. gators, the olympics, etc.

* the next time that you fly in an airplane, look out the window (at the ground, below): there aren't any red states or blue states.  there is no such thing!

it is all made-up!

 

b120 (10.19-1.2024): ego wants more/better

ego wants more/better [i]
by i. m. ego & Ima One

ego wants (more/better)
ego wants (for sure)
ego wants what ego wants, what
ego wants is more
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·       ego (probably) feels as if it "can’t get no satisfaction." [ii] 

·       in reality, ego is the prosthesis, the particularization, the extension, the nervous system, the experience, the process …of the One.
 
ego isn’t some ‘evil’ to be transcended.  he is simply the One, One-ing!
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[i] martino, j. (10.19-1.2024). ego wants more/better. book 120: i saw it on television! © 2024 by j. martino.

[ii] the rolling stones song (of similar title). 

b120 (10.18-1.2024): thank you for the rain

thank you for the rain [i]
by i. n. pain

thank you for the heartache
thank you for the pain
thank you for the change of season
thank you for the rain
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·       if it is (relatively) submaximal, disaster can result in growth & evol-u-t-i-on.
 
·       this thoem was inspired by the 2024 florida state university football team, which, for whatever reason, simply isn’t playing up to its potential.  fans find it inexplicable (and angering) that their ego/team (which was projected to be soooooo good) …is soooooo bad.
 
the real-i-zation, however, is that all egos (from the bumblebee to the stream) evolve* via challenge and setback.
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[i] martino, j. (10.18-1.2024). thank you for the rain. book 120: i saw it on television! © 2024 by j. martino.
 
*the ‘evolution’, however, might not be obvious – in cases of environmental disaster, war, famine, etc.  one would have to look for it at a level (or so) above the level of the disaster.
 
*florida state’s football season (for me) has allowed me to re-evaluate my ego’s relationship with college football.
 
*evolution (backwards) = no-i-tu-love, which is the antithesis of the ego, which is Oneness. 

b120 (10.17-1.2024): "i'll love you..."

"i’ll love you…" [i]
by s. o. longas

i’ll love you, solongas
i’ll love you (let’s see)
i’ll love you, solongas, just so long as you love me
_____________________________
 

“i will love you for as long as you are good to me.”

 
…is a much more realistic rendition of “till death do us part.”
 
think about it:
 
“i will love you” covers the key elements of what anyone would want from another: we want them to take actions to ensure that our life is better.  we want those who we love to love us in return.  we want them to know us, to empathize with our needs, and to help us meet those needs.
 
we do not (as a rule) love those who don’t love us.  “turning the other cheek” (while poetic) is probably not a good (practical) practice.  living things (and living [egoic] beings) will take advantage of situations where life’s betterment is simply ‘given’ to them.
 
i’ve learned this lesson several times, throughout life.  i have taken advantage of situations where i was given a free ride, and i’ve observed the behavior (in others).
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[i] martino, j. (10.17-1.2024). i’ll love you. book 120: i saw it on television! © 2024 by j. martino. 

b120 (10.16-1.2024): woo-ing vs. commitment

woo-ing vs. commitment [i]
by iwa s. woo-ed & ima committed

woo-ing vs. committed
can this be arranged?
once committed, will the act of woo-ing (maybe) change?
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riddle me this: think of times when you’ve been woo-ed.  for example: when you were in the process of buying a car.  

compare the woo-ing behavior that you experienced (before the commitment) with the woo-ing behavior, afterwards.  any differences?  have you even heard from the car salesman, since?
 
·       is the military recruit treated any differently – after enlistment?

·       is romantic (woo-ing treatment) different:
  o   from crush-to-boyfriend?
  o   from boyfriend-to-cohabitant?
  o   from boyfriend/cohabitant-to-fiancé?
  o   from boyfriend/fiancé-to-husband?
  o   from honeymoon-to-reality?
 
many will attempt to convince you that life will be sooooooo much better, if you'll just suck-it-up and  commit, dammit!

...but...

have you ever heard of any individual who was (successfully) woo-ed into a commitment, only to find-out that he/she was treated better during the pre-commitment phase?
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[i] martino, j. (10.16-1.2024). woo-ing vs. commitment. book 120: i saw it on television! © 2024 by j. martino. 

* personally, i know of many, many who took the woo-ing bait, realizing (too late) that commitment was (at best) a trap. 

* be Here, Now

 ram das, the author of "Be Here, Now" ...said (during a workshop i attended) something like...

"after 25 years of meditating, 

i still have every, single neurosis that i began with."

i love that line.

in the final analysis, ram das (during his life of enlightenment) was probably just trying to get laid more -- by the illusion of his perfect mate(s). 

* best day

 one of the best days of my life:

i'd come home, and a buddy of mine (dave) was going to sleep on the couch. my (new, extremely hot) next-door neighbor (lori), who i'd never met, knocked on the door and asked where the trash-recepticle was.  it was obvious that she was wanting more than trash-assistance.

i walked her out into the back yard, and we kissed in the moonlight.

at that point... i went back inside and told dave that i'd be back later, 
and eased-over to lori's house.  
we kissed, we devoured, me made love until the morning light.

she ended the love session by saying "you've got an open invitation".

i had, and we did.

i will always love you, lori.

b120 (10.13-1.2024): thoughts

thoughts [i]
by joal

it was interesting… watching the nocturnal activities of humans, being at the trailer bar on topsail beach in north carolina.
 
what amazes me (most) is that fat, unattractive women can command a level of self-respect that far exceeds anything a man of her stature could ever imagine.
 
first of all: being that fat… how does she even wipe her ass well?  men think of this!  of course, men don’t care at 2 am, but (in other circumstances) men might consider this.  some men (men of quality) would.
 
second of all: she has all of the options.  with a “come here” of the finger, she can secure (just about) any guy.  if that fails, she’s got her #2 (her girlfriend) to eat her p---y and make her come (probably better than most of the guys that she would have seduced, anyway!).  

as a girl: why get injected with a sub-standard c--k 

from a beer-filled dork who doesn’t even 

know how to please a woman?

 
the guys (most guys here at the bar) only care about getting drunk.  they will sleep it off.  a few of these guys have (a bit of) game, and they will end-up with the best of this sorry bunch.  “getting lucky” may come with a price-tag, however.
 
lastly: there aren’t many (if any of these sorry bitches) that are worth a go… in this sorry bunch.  local. fat. worn-out. dumb.  these chicks are the bottom of the barrel.  that is why i’ll never come back.
 
gentlemen: you are better-off satisfying yourself – and (in the future) you will be faaaaar better-off satisfying yourself with some kind of robot or imaginary girl.  these girls are not worth your time.  or energy.
 
these girls… are the bottom of the bottom of the barrel.
 
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[i] martino, j. (10.13-1.2024). thoughts. book 120: i saw it on television! © 2024 by j. martino. 

b120 (10.12-2.2024): meaningful connections

meaningful connections [i]
by ima notta mean

meaningful connections
we can make the scene
what does this all really, really, Really, REALLY mean?
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maybe… just may-beeeee… the secret to fun and memories is in the meeting (and connecting) to other beings!!!
 
it doesn’t have to be intimate. 
it doesn’t have to be the be-all-end-all (of intimacy).
 

it can just be the meeting.  the connection. 

the letting the other know that

 they. are. ok.

😊

wow.

 

the real-i-sation, here, is that

it is soooooooooo much simpler & easier to make meaningful connections

than it is to make intimate ones! 

…and, that they are more meaningful!! 😊

 

what if… the thing that made you the most happy…

was the meeting of another…

and letting the other know…

 that they are okay?

 

wow.

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[i] martino, j. (10.12-2.2024). meaningful connections. book 120: i saw it on television! © 2024 by j. martino. 

* what makes me happy?

sometimes, happiness can be found in the relief that something bad (uh) didn't happen.

example: i just searched my pants (which is happiness, in and of itself) for my credit cards... after a night out (last night).  i found one card, but not the second one.

of course, i searched everywhere, to no avail... and (eventually) determined that i'd have to go back to the bar and see if anyone had turned-in my lost card.  

i was already figuring-out when to call my bank, to declare the lost/stolen card, and then how i'd have to cancel (and re-assign) all of the monthly payments that i've set up with that card.  

damn!

and then... as i took another look at my stuff (from last night) i noticed that the 'lost' card was stuck (perfectly) to my other card!  it wasn't lost!

:)

and that... made me happy.