b118 (6.25-1.2024): ben got clicked & baited

ben got clicked & baited [i]
by a. papa rat & zi

alternative title: clickbait

ben got clicked & baited
seems the world can’t wait
for someone else’s news
for those who choose (clickbait)
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·       even though you know it’s just bait… sometimes, you just click.
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[i] martino, j. (6.25-1.2024). clickbait. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.  

b118 (6.24-1.2024): terri tory

my name is terri tory [i]
by a. humming  & a. byrd 

my name is terri tory
you ask “what’s in a name?”
mick knows that terri tory is the nature of my game

i stand, i fight (we dance) i might just Love (for guts & glory)
you’re here (my ex) for food (and sex)
my name is terri tory
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·       a hummingbird’s world revolves around nutrition… and mating.
 
·       she fights for each… via territory… a (seemingly) never-ending battle for resources.
 
·       is she human?  do we (hu-mans) have bird-brains?
 
the dance/fight (for territory) allows a species to exercise, practice maneuvering skills, and to practice saying “no!”
 
·       the act of saying “no!” might well play-into the decision to say “yes!”
 

let’s be honest: you want some of my terri tory.

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[i] martino, j. (6.24-1.2024). terri tory. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

* t-shirt ideas

• seeking female robot to turn on
• seeking woman who (occasionally) identifies as my hot, bisexual girlfriend
• seeking older, slightly overweight, addicted single-mom (with multiple children from different baby-daddies... oh, and several stray cats) to spend my money while complaining constantly. -god bless
• seeking: female robot who identifies as my hot girlfriend
• seeking: hot wingwoman

to be continued...  

* dog days (and nights) of summer

if a loud, incessantly-barking dog is let-out into the yard at 6:32 am, or if the incessantly-barking mutt is left outside after dark, the noise is a disturbance of the peace.  this is especially true if homes (or townhomes, condominiums, apartments) are in close proximity.   duh.

neighbors (of course) hate the barking, but most don't actually hate the dog.  we do, however, hate the owner who refuses to train the dog.

is the owner too ignorant to realize that his barking dog is a nuisance?

maybe.

is it possible that the owner simply doesn't care about his neighbors?  is he just an a--hole? 

assuredly.

is it possible to be ignorant and assholic, simultaneously?

b118 (6.23-1.2024): ego-centric mirror

ego-centric mirror  [i]

by anna ego 

ego-centric mirror
staring back at me
showing all the things i think i think i think i see
staring at the separation from the things i’m not
 
ego-centric mirror
it’s all that we’ve got
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·        the hu-man ego is a projection: a perspective of separation from the Whole (the One, the IS, God, G∞d, etc.).
 
·        of Course, without said illusion of separation: absent perspective, absent relativity, absent any sense of different-i-all-ity, Oneness could never get to Know He/r-Self! 

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[i] martino, j. (6.23-1.2024). ego-centric mirror. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.

* image by j. martino.

b118 (6.21-1.2024): oportunidad

oportunidad [i]
by aman w. options 

in a world where options shouldn’t (really) be that hard
in a word (concoctions):
oportunidad
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·       the secret to life (to mine, anyway) is to cultivate opportunities.
·       for myself… and for others.
·       thrival… and thrival+.
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[i] martino, j. (6.22-1.2024). oportunidad. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b118 (6.21-1.2024): self-ish, selfish genes

self-ish, selfish genes [i]
by gene g. e. nepool

why does ego love himself completely in his dreams?
why does ego re-produce?
selfish, self-ish genes
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genes… and all living things, having a sense of self, seek to survive and thrive by all means necessary.
 
to a slightly lesser degree, living things tend toward expression, or a passing-on of self (e.g. survival of the species).  naturally, self will prioritize self (and its own kind).
 
one need only to observe mother/nature to determine that all living things are selfishly motivated.  human-type-beings value air, water, food, shelter, re-production, and the territory to best accomplish the survival/thrival process.
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[i] martino, j. (6.21-1.2024). self-ish, selfish genes. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.

[ii] thrival... is merely an extension of survival.  think of it as “surviving better.”

*inspired, in part, by “the selfish gene” by richard dawkins. 

b118 (6.20-1.2024): why do people hate?

why do people hate? [i]
by a. l. over

why do people hate?
why do people cry?
why do people wait?
why do people die?
 
why do people ponder, flow, embrace, emasculate?
why do people live?
why do people hate?
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from a survival/thrival perspective, people fear anything that could result in:
·       less of a chance of survival, and/or
·       less of a chance of thrival.
 
we hate… out of fear.
 
…but what to do, basil? 
 
like people.  they will respond to your like with like, and they will be less likely to hate you.
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[i] martino, j. (6.20-1.2024). why do people hate? book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.  

b118 (6.20-1.2024): why do people hate?

why do people hate? [i]
by a. l. over

why do people hate?
why do people die?
why do people wait?
why do people cry?
 
why do people ponder, flow, embrace, emasculate?
why do people live?
why do people hate?
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from a survival/thrival perspective, people fear anything that could result in:
·       less of a chance of survival, and/or
·       less of a chance of thrival.
 
we hate… out of fear.
 
…but what to do, basil? 
 
like people.  they will respond to your like with like, and they will be less likely to hate you.
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[i] martino, j. (6.20-1.2024). why do people hate? book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b91 (6.19-1.2020): simpler times

 https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2020/06/b91-619-12020.html

b81 (6.18-1.2018): true infidelity

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2018/06/b81-618-12018-true-infidelity.html 

b91 (6.17-2.2020): proud parents

 https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2020/06/b91-617-22020-proud-parents.html

b53 (6.16-1.2007): celebrity news

 https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2007/06/b53-616-12007-celebrity-news.html

b19 (6.15-4.2003): evoL

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2003/06/b19-615-42003-evol.html 

b67 (6.14-1.2009): GURU

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2009/06/b67-614-12009-guru.html 

b91 (6.13-1.2020): cohabitation trainwreck

 https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2020/06/b91-613-12020-cohabitation-trainwreck.html

b118 (6.12-2.2024): intentional attention

intentional attention [i]
by a. t. tentive 

intentional attention
a tendency of mind
a path of in-tervention
a life that we design
 
intentional attention
a way that we can Be
a subtle shift (perception)
a co/unique j-our-ney
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[i] martino, j. (6.12-2.2024). intentional attention. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b118 (6.12-1.2024): intentional attention

intentional attention [i]
by a. t. tentive 

the Game (really) is one of attention.
 
the personal, human experience unfolds… based upon where we place our attention.  the drama (thank G∞d for drama) comes from our frown-face-base experience (fear) re-volve-ing into a smiley-face experience (toward love).
 

example: a fish gets chased by a bigger fish ☹ – 

escapes 😊 – then eats a fly 😊.

 
event-u-ally, events re-veal that we can (intentionally) pay attention to whichever experience we’d like!*
 
i tend to go for (and like):
·       visual stimulation (e.g. home-made art, hummingbirds, sunrises/sunsets)
·       nature (rivers, beaches, mountains)
·       female essence (in all of her shapes, flavors and colors)
·       laughter and fun
·       sense-uality (e.g. massage)
·       physical activity
·       expression (living things cannot not)
·       relationships (everything is “in relationship”)
 
*by paying attention to it, we live it… whether it’s a political party or a beach party.  we co-create our world/experience.
 
the byproduct of this (of course) is that we are completely response-able (and therefore, responsible) for our own, unique world.  you are the star… in your own, dazzling (or not) Play.
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[i] martino, j. (6.12-1.2024). intentional attention. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.
 
[ii] note: it is probably a good idea to look around at our life-experience (people, surroundings, feelings, health) and determine what we’ve done to facilitate it.  then (if desired) we can begin to shift focus/attention, intentionally.  -the beginning? 😊 

b67 (6.11-1.2009): it's All for[e]Play

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2009/06/b6-611-12009-its-all-foreplay.html 

b91 (6.10-1.2020): dreams

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2020/06/b91-610-12020-dreams.html 

b63 (6.6-4.2008): why are we called "beings"?

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2008/06/b63-66-42008-why-are-we-called-beings.html 

b118 (6.3-1.2024): welcome to my nightmare

welcome to my nightmare [i]
by a. dreamer 

welcome to my nightmare
welcome to my dream
welcome to a ride that’s so much better than it seems
welcome to a motion/picture, sound-effects and trials
welcome to a new sensation, conversation, smiles :)
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·       upon further review, it’s a pretty cool nightmare.
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[i] martino, j. (6.3-1.2024). welcome to my nightmare. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b53 (6.1-2.2007): hat

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2007/06/b53-61-22007-hat.html 

b42 (6.1-1.2005): echoes in the sand

https://joalmartino.blogspot.com/2005/06/b42-61-12005-echoes-in-sand.html 

b118 (5.16-1.2024): purposeful Be-ing

purposeful Be-ing [i]
by a. b. eing
 
s/he named her puppy ‘purpose’
as far as s/he could See
his only act (contrition) was sub-mission:
he just Be
_________________________
 
·       b/c he cannot not but Be.
·       S/he saw… through the veil.
·       a sub-mission is a piece… or a part… of the Mission (of contrition).  huh?
·       can he be just… or can he just… Be?
__________________________
[i] martino, j. (5.16-1.2024). purposeful Be-ing. book 118: day and night game. © 2024 by j. martino.

* values, purpose, mission(G∞d)

 

Values: G∞d. values = gratitudes of the past & present and for the future.

• Powerful: (1-10 scale)
• Stimulation (SNS)
• Recovery (PNS)
• Connective: via the bodymind (senses, thoughts, feelings)
• Positive: strive to feel better; when “feeling worse” happens, use that to turn negatives into positives.
• Affirmative: Feedback from self-to-others and others-to-self.  Yes, this is, in a sense, talking to yourself.
• Motivational/In-Spir-at-i-onALL: a continuum from me/i -- I AM.

 Purpose: to Be (EE)

·        To experience expression (EE), or re-Cognize expressive experiences

o   Living things can not but express

§  Flower, opening to the sun,

§  A BEE (or even an ant, even when it is biting your child’s ankle)

§  Cloud

§  Human

§  Solar system…

o   Living things strive to survive

§  Survival -> thrival (better EE, on a 1-10 scale)

·        For me, this would be “Be-ing” in the Play:

o   Actor (star)

o   Actor (co-star)

o   Actor (supporting artist)… you get the idea…

§  Actors can be aware of the drama, or

§  They can choose to get “caught-up” in it (known as “getting lost in the role”)

o   Director (the Play [event-u-ally) becomes a little less interesting, when one re-Cognizes that s/he can direct it).

o   Audience (“getting lost in the play”)

Mission: my mission is to live my purpose daily, 

moment-by-moment and interaction-by-interaction.

b118 (5.9-1.2024): a sad affair

a sad affair [1]
by anna francine fair

alternative title: p.u.t.

a sad affair (it ended)
of passion (not control)
of intermittent pleasure
of never getting old
of course (we shouldn’t do this)
of not the truth, but dare
of nothing close to prudish
of ending sad:
affair
________________________
 

• an “affair” (also known as “cheating” or “infidelity”) is often framed in a negative light.
• but think about it: if you really, really loved someone… wouldn’t you want him/her to live-out his/her fantasy every now and again?  conversely, if you don’t want your partner to experience his/her best life-time on planet earth, then look in the mirror – because your own controlling mindset stems from fear, not love. 
• the really cool/fun/energizing/titillating things about affairs are the taboo:
• the secret meetings,
• doing things you’d never dreamed of,
• the intermittency,
• the time-bound urgency,
• the passionately uncontrollable desires…
• it is easy to understand that the taboo is what makes the affair fantastic!
• what’s the excitement in “swinging” (for example), when it’s all agreed-upon and in the open?  at that point, it would just be another physical experience.
• an affair, however, embraces the dark side, the inner-seductress & the don juan-esque thrill.

anna fair understands affairs.  s/he embraces them, s/he doesn’t tell her partner about them, and s/he loves every passionately-uncontrollable taboo.  in fact, that’s my new (more positive) term for an affair: a passionately uncontrollable taboo (p.u.t.).
 
forget the fact that man-made rules of promising fidelity are ridiculously restrictive.  the only reason that anna’s affair was sad… is because it ended.
__________________________

[1] martino, j. (5.9-1.2024). a sad affair. book118: day and night game. © 2024 by j. martino. 

*sidenote: expect the self-righteous to criticize this theom (and claim "heresy!")... all the while, in the secrecy of their own minds, knowing that they (too) want to (occasionally) dance on the dark side.

b118 (4.21-1.2024): red flags

red flags [i]
by a. man

red flags (let’s talk about it when the conversation lags)
red flags (let’s talk about it)
red flags are just
red flags
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red flags (things that i don't like):
·       smokers
·       loud, angry people
·       complainers; victim-mentality
·       extremists (right or left, we vs. they, feminists or manosphere)
·       people who “need to be heard”.
 
on the other hand, i like people who are smiling, happy, complimentary, connective, understanding, supportive, and nonjudgmental.
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[i] martino, j. (4.21-1.2024). red flags. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by j. martino. 

[ii] sooooo, joal... how would others perceive you... and your red flags?  what might others dislike, about you?  come on.  be introspective.

• excessive consumption (ravenous eating, excessive drinking)
• eating fast
• beer, wine (volume, consistency)
• compulsion (see this blog, for example)
• writing, home-made art
• hummingbirds
• excessive passion (at times)
• lust (for hot women) 
• susceptible to seduction?  my sex-drive is healthy.
• non-committal (unless intrinsically committed)
• prefer friendships over contracts
• prefer short-term moments over promises 
• displays of anger (albeit rarely [if ever], nowadays)
• during the past year, only with 2 male bar patrons
• was easily baited, in my last relationship (hopefully i've matured)
• on a positive note, i am protective. 
• not a dog (or indoor pet) person; non-domestication
• low tolerance for barking dogs (and owners who do not train their dog)
• low tolerance for owners who don't pick-up after their dog
• no kids, never married (never changed a diaper)
• no kids (that i know of)
• of course, that means no debt, no ex-wives, none of that kind of baggage
• low tolerance for baggage (single moms, bad kids, psychos, etc.)
• low tolerance for excessive phone use, social media, attention-seeking 
• not a fan of 'marriage'
• stay in touch with several ex-girlfriends
• lots of options, opportunity, possibilities

upon re-reading my personal red-flags, a few might actually be green flags (for some people). 

b118 (4.10-1.2024): fake flowers by your grave

fake flowers at your grave [1]
by fay k. e. flowers
 
fake flowers at your tombstone
fake flowers at your grave
fake flowers say soooo much about our love (and that you’re saved)

fake flowers at your tombstone
fake flowers when you die
fake flowers cost soooo little
fake flowers make me cry
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yes.  i cry so much for you… but i’m happy that i don’t have to go to your grave anymore, because we’ve got fake flowers there, so… really, that represents our love for you.  i mean, we don’t really want to go to your freaking grave… it takes time!
 

what are we going to do there?  pray to a rock?  it’s f---ing ridiculous!

 
anyway, yeah, we put fake flowers by your grave… because if we put live ones, they are going to die, and then we are going to have to go back and spend more money for more live flowers. 
 

what the f---? why do that?

you’re gone! 

 
of course... we pretend that you’re “up there, looking down at us”, and that some kind of "god" has you wrapped in his little arms, and that everything is good and that you are floating on clouds, and we are going to come up there and meet you someday.
 
but we’re not ready to come up there and meet you now... even though we saaaaaaaaay: 

“it’s better up there, it’s better up there… it’s soooo much better up there”

 
but we aren’t dying to get there, are we?  well, maybe we are dying to get there, but we aren’t trying to get there.  because it would be easy to end our lives… and go to heaven… but (of course) some religions say that if you end your life then you go to hell.
 
so maybe that’s why we are so medicated, and we eat such sh—ty food, and we have such poor behaviors… maybe that is what we are trying to do…  maybe we are trying to kill ourselves without really killing ourselves.  that way, we can get to die faster, and we can hang out with our loved ones.
 
-the end?
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[1] martino, j. (4.10-1.2024). fake flowers by your grave. book 118: day & night game. © 2024 by j. martino. 

* rewrite, from: [1] martino, j. (6.5-1.2020). fake flowers by your grave. book 91: j-Une. © 2020 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b118 (4.20-1.2024): ass

beach volleyball [i]
by ima being truthful 

alternative title: ass

we call it beach (beach volleyball)
a sport, a game (with class)
why can’t we call it what it is?
why can’t we call it…
 
ass?
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·       yes, the female athletes are athletic.
·       yes, the competition is great.
 
…but why has beach volleyball become a sport/game that people watch? 
 

ass

 
of course, we must deny this.  the players (themselves) will deny it, all the while sporting their ass.  the coaches and promoters will deny it, all the while promoting the viewing of ass.  everyone will deny it while knowing the truth: 

beach volleyball = ass.

 
why can’t we just call it what it is?  …ass!
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[i] martino, j. (4.20-1.2024). ass. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.

[ii] truth be told, all sport is foreplay.