b122 (2.17-1.2025): time to stop the chase

 
it’s time to stop caring about the pursuit of sex. [i]
by bu t. why 

it's time to stop the chase

it's time to reason why

it's time to bend (to leap/transcend)

it's time to touch the sky

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1.     pursuing... is a waste of one's time.
2.     you can have anyone, anywhere, anytime (mentally), and (truth be told) that might be better than physically!
   a.  nobody gets attached, or hurt, or dis-eased, or pregnant, or self-conscious.
3.     you will always perform well (in the fantasy).
4.     you control the orgasms.
5.     you determine what to do afterwards, and clean-up is easier.
6.     since there isn’t a girlfriend or a wife involved, you are not responsible for food, clothing, housing, vacations, accessories, dogs, cats, kids (in that order), insurance, emotions, drama, etc., etc., etc., ad nauseum.
 
you can still enjoy reality-sex, if and when it is obvious that a hot gal wants to get together for short-term fun.  but it will be up to her to initiate, to send the right signals, and to let you know that it is just for fun.*  in addition, you’ll be more choosy.  you won’t pick from the low-hanging fruit.  if someone is going to get to see your p-, she will have to earn it via hb & r/o.  you won't just give it away.
 
you’ve already had all of the sex, all of the Love, all of the fun, all of the activities, all of the emotions, and  all of the experiences.  you can’t have ‘em all with everyone, joal.  you’ve had more conwantual, fun, sexy partners than 99.999% of the men who have ever walked upon planet earth.  that is a fact.
 
once you stop pursuing sex, you can still flirt… it’s just that you won’t care about an outcome.  there’s no objective.  there’s nothing to win.  there’s nothing to prove (to anyone).
 
no more tinder, or dating apps, or “on-the-hunt” in bars.  conversely, you’ll still be able to enjoy the beauty, the sexiness, the pageantry (etc.) of women.  you will appreciate them even more!  you’ll care more about the inside than the sex-side.  ws far as your physical need to release pressure and experience orgasm, you've got more than enough (in the way of tools) at your disposal to take care of that.  the time saved from ceasing the mental-physical chase will be mon-u-mental.  

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for soooooooooo many years, your self-esteem was related-to and governed-by your prowess with the ladies.  you am free of that, now.  your self-esteem is based-upon who you are (as a man, as a human, as a neighbor, as a co-worker, as a teacher, as a family member, and as a friend).
 
oh, and Joal… drinking (alcohol) needs to go, once again.  get fit for yourself, not for anyone else.  care about yourself, first.  you’ll end-up being better for everyone… including the women who choose to play (the game of love) with you.
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[i] martino, j. (2.17-1.2025). it’s time to stop caring about the pursuit of sex. book 122: s[no]w angel. © 2025 by j. martino.