b122 (2.10-1.2025): why haven't you ever gotten married?

 
why haven’t you ever gotten married? [i]
by steven ingle  
 

alternative title: where can i sign-up for some of that?

 
she said "why haven’t you been married?”
 
why, oh why ask why?
why haven’t i been married?
why don’t reindeer fly?
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a more fair question would be: “why on earth do people get married?”
 
i’ve never been married, and:
 
·       i’ve never gotten divorced.
·       i’ve never been in a sexless marriage.
·       i’ve never had the experience of not wanting to go home to my wife.
·       i’ve never “cheated” on my wife.
·       i’ve never had a wife cheat on me.
·       i’ve never felt obliged to “support” a wife (until death).
·       i’ve never promised something that i wasn’t sure of.
·       i am observant.
·       i don’t skydive if parachutes are effective less than 50% of the time.
·       i simply refuse to buy into societal constructs that make no sense.
·       etc., etc., etc.
 

are you serious?  why would anyone ever get married?

 
1.     men get married for sex. 
   a.     men make romantic-relationship-commitment agreements because they believe that they will gain partnership with someone who will also provide more sex, more regular sex, easier sex, etc., etc.

2.     women get married -- for security.
   a.     financial security,
   b.     relationship security,
   c.      child-rearing security,
   d.     societal-approval security,
   e.     etc.
 
prior to marriage, women bargain with men -- and trade sex for potential security.  once that security is secured through some type of commitment, women no longer need to barter.  what this means is simple: after the commitment, sex will decrease. 
 
forget about the fact that (1) sex will get more boring, or that (2) men aren’t monogamous, or that (3) the tsunami of other obligations and responsibilities will cultivate an environment that suppresses sex.  forget about the fact that sex doesn’t always end in mutually satisfying orgasms.
 
the simple truth is that (for her) sex is messy, choking on a d is not fun for her anymore, and (once she’s had her desired allotment of children), getting pregnant isn’t desired anymore.  the simple truth is that (once she’s gotten what she wanted) she wants something else!
 
·       the chase is over,
·       the motivation is over,
·       the taboo is over,
·       the challenge is over,
·       the competition is over, and
·       the game is over…
…so what does sex actually do for a woman in a cohabitational-commitment?
 
very little.  compound that with the fact that the man is bored with it also.  let’s face it: dude might like a nice ribeye steak (for example), but if every meal (for the rest of his life) is only a ribeye…
·       ribeye for breakfast (ribeye eggs, ribeye toast, ribeye butter, ribeye milk),
·       ribeye for lunch,
·       ribeye for dinner,
·       ribeye snacks,
·       ribeye smoothies,
·       ribeye beer…
…dude will become less excited about ribeyes.  he won’t look forward to eating.
 
oh, let’s add another layer on top of this sad situation: not only can he only consume only ribeye for the rest of his entire life, but he can’t even lust after or hope for or master-bate to anything else!  his “commitment” to lifetime ribeye renounces his right to desire anything else.  this contributes to his lack of enthusiasm for ribeye.   re-read that.  even his thoughts are committed.
 
oh, and imagine if the ribeye-partnership that he committed to doesn’t do anything else for him either!  it doesn’t cook, it doesn’t clean, it doesn’t help to generate income for him…  in fact, all it does is confer more and more responsibilities onto his already responsibility-laden life! 
 
not only that, but ribeyes can be expensive. veeeeeeeeeeery expensive. weddings and anniversaries and birthdays and children and college and holidays (like valentine’s day) and jewelry and cars and home improvements and (of course) her never-ending dis-satisfaction with everything that she already has gotten.  never even mind the implants (& retreads), the botox, the make-up, the extensions – and the eventual “girls vacations”.
 
yes.  event-u-ally, she (and her friends) can justify her cheating – because her needs aren’t being met!
 
to review: the topic, ladies and gentlemen, is marriage.
 

where can i sign-up for some of that?

 
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[i] martino, j. (2.1x-1.2025). why haven’t you ever been married? book 122: s[no]w angel. © 2024 by j. martino.

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