b121 (12.31-2.2024): in-flight move-ie

in-flight move-ie  [i]
by i. m. mersed
 
i watch the in-flight move-ie
so i can just pretend
that these things happen to me
i watch until
-the end
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·       we are all watching/living our own in-flight movies.  we are stars, supporting actors, props, directors… and even our own audience.
 
·       sometimes, we get caught-up in the movie.
 
·       sometimes, it’s more analytical.  we watch it for technical reasons, or for the acting.
 
·       in the book “illusions,” richard bach notes that the whole movie is there, on the reel.  beginning, plot, end.  we can jump-in at any point, we can re-watch, and we can avoid certain types of dramas.
 
·       in the end, there is no better movie… than the one that you are watching, right now. 
 
go ahead.  get caught-up in the drama (or not).  feel the feelings!
 
we can even pretend things (e.g. that this is the eve of a “new year”), and "tomorrow" will be 2025!  brilliant!
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[i] martino, j. (12.31-2.2024). in-flight move-ie. book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino.

b121 (12.30-1.2024): possibilities

possibilities [i]
by i. m. possible
 
i love the potential
the flirt, the feint, the tease
maybe it’s essential
possibilities
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·       what is it, that i really love?
 
·       is it the sex?  the adoration?  the connection?  the proving (to my friends) that i am worthy?  the proving (to myself) that i am worthy?
 
·       is it the potential at the beach?
 
·       is it the chasing of memories and fantasies… or is it a disease?
 
·       …or am i just a high-testosterone male?
 
am i just a high-testosterone male who was raised by a loving mom and a fun (yet distant) dad… born with some beneficial (physical) features… who is simply utilizing/maxim-i-zing his potential? 
 
am i simply instincted/addicted/attached to survival/thrival/fun/love?
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[i] martino, j. (12.30-1.2024). possibilities. book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino. 

* when you are honest...

 ...you lose people who don't deserve you.

-anthony hopkins

b121 (12.29-1.2024) we do it to ourselves

we do it to ourselves [i]
by mental masturbation
 
we do it to ourselves
set love on pedestal
we form some expectations
the moment (far from dull)
we place our lover in a place that s/he might never be
we do it to ourselves
a silly my-story
______________________________
 
·       we do it to ourselves
 
·       a lover says a few words (or does a few things), and we assume… based upon our own frame of reference.  we decide the reality -- based upon our own confirmation bias.
 
·       this not only pressures he/she who we (ahem) ‘love’ but it creates a fantasy of need.  don’t do it! 
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[i] martino, j. (12.29-1.2024). we do it to ourselves. book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino.

b121 (12.28-1.2024): why outer-course of course

why outer-course of course [i]
by o. f. course
 
why outer-course not intercourse (of course of course) it sings
why outercourse results in all the pleasure that it brings
why outer course-of-action is a damn fine COA
why outercourse (not intercourse) is the main dish, today
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·       emotional intercourse is an inner process of mind-melding.
·       outercourse, formerly thought-of as foreplay, has now become the entre’ (the main course, if i may).
 
maybe it always was!
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[i] martino, j. (12.28-1.2024). why outer-course (of course). book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino. 

b121 (12.27-2.2024): he's not my kind of girl

he’s not my kind of girl [i]
by al most
 
he’s not my kind of girl
we come from different worlds
s/he’s hot! and nice! (truth is, thought twice)
s(he’s) not my kind of girl
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·       butt, s/he was the hottest girl in the bar, from the moment s/he swayed in.  it wasn’t even close!

·       s/he had everything that a man might want:
  o   hot body (especially her waist, hips and ass)
  o   friendly, and forward
  o   great conversationalist
  o   fun
  o   overtly flirtatious and tactile
  o   passionately aggressive
 
to be honest, it was probably the best conversation i’ve had on this trip.  it was interesting, open & honest, fun, and god-damned sexy!
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[i] martino, j. (12.27-2.2024). s/he’s not my kind of girl. book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino. 

* "eat your food as medicine..."

"...or (later in life) you'll be eating your medicine as food." 

-jordan peterson said that, and i'm not sure if he was quoting someone else. 

b121 (12.26-2.2024): santa came to town

santa came to town [i]
by mr. s. claus
 
santa came to town
had a place to stay
moved himself around
learned about the way
spent a lot on lessons in a world of up and down
 
learned a lot of lessons
santa came to town
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·       made some rookie mistakes.
·       connected.
·       worked the system.
·       had a whale of a time.
·       worked the body.
·       stayed true to self and others.
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[i] martino, j. (12.26-2.2024). santa came to town. book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino. 

b121 (12.26-1.2024): inner/outer course

inner/outer course [i]
by oral joalsterl
 
upper/downers, smilers/frowners, guilt (and no remorse)
left, then right (no need to fight) with inner/outer course
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·       inspired by “she comes first” by ian kerner
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[i] martino, j. (12.26-1.2024). inner/outer course. book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino. 

* immortal Christ-mas

in a conscious Uni/Mega-Verse, atoms do not 'die' but (rather) are trans-formed.  me-mories, awareness and a sense of separate self (ego) simply morph.

we do not 'die' in the sense of 'end'.  our atomic self-awareness shifts into more of a Holistic Reality, kind of like actors (after the Play is over).

-the beginning? 

B121 (12.25-1.2024): punishment by sin

punishment by sin [i]  

by ima s. inner

 
it might be good/bad karma
a process from within
it’s an intriguing drama
punishment by sin
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·       truth is, the punishment isn’t inflicted by a judge, for the sin.  the dis-ease we feel is a by-product of not living in alignment with our higher-good path-way.

·       it isn’t karma (in the sense that “what goes around, comes around.”).  it is an instantaneous feedback mechanism. 

·       it’s perfect, actually.  the karma/sin/feedback process works for us, and, if we are paying attention, it lets us know when we are off course.

·       additionally, it never shuts off!  we get feedback on relationships, desires, commercials, choices (like eating a burger), and even breathing!
 
wayne dyer used to say that an airliner (flying from los angeles to new york) is “off course” 95% of the time” – due to wind, pilot inputs, etc. 
 
the reason why it lands safely in new york is because it pays attention to the deviations -- and takes corrective action to get back on path.
 
it’s not “punishment for” so much as gentle, loving feedback.  it is big brother/god/jesus, whispering in our ear.
 
'sin' is an illusion.  'punishment' is a man-made construct.  instant karma... is wonder-ful.

merry Christ-mas.
 
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[i] martino, j. (12.25-1.2024). punishment by sin. book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino.

* sad truths

the sad truth is...

if you are (or if you have allowed yourself to become) her beta male, then she is openly flirting with me (and she would take me into a back-room right now)... if she could get away with it.

money doesn't matter.  your prior investments don't matter.  everything that she may have said (to include marriage vows):  

it. does. not. matter.

she will cheat on your dumb ass -- with the right Alpha at the right time, and she will probably turn-around and (in her mind) blame it all on you (for not being there, for not being the man that she fell in love with, and for not being _______, etc., etc., etc.).

you will become her reason to (quite easily) negate all of her prior promises.

and that, my friends, is:

the sad truth.  

 

* in three generations...

...everyone you know will be dead.

few (if any) will visit your grave... and even if they do, it won't be for long.  

think about JFK's assassination, less than 65 years ago.  does anyone really, really care?  even when some did care, he was dragged over the coals by many, and hated by half. 

in this joal-life, who really, really cares? ...and even if they do, they'll still eat and party after your funeral.  life goes on, after all.

conclusion: why do anything on account of what others might think?

• it doesn't matter, how many go to your wake, funeral, grave.
• it doesn't matter, how many love your thoetry.
• it doesn't matter.

what does live on, however, is your ripple-effect.  everything that you do and think and say, uh, ripples... effects... creates... inter-acts.

joal, yes... you are out for you.  however, you do love.  you do want to please quid-pro-quo.  you do not just take.  angelique was a fine example of that.

you didn't take.  you gave.  yes, you felt scammed (a bit), but you understood.  you communicated.  you both gave it another shot.  you both came out winners and high-fivers!  heck, she just now asked you to not forget her!  don't.

should you have taken a yassi up on her offers?  no.  s/he smokes, s/he's potential danger.  you did that the right way.  you learned, you conversed.  if s/he was a little more feminine, however, you might have been in trouble. :) 

b121 (12.22-1.2024): is (even) love transactional?

is (even) love transactional? [i]
by itsa tran saction 

·       my experience/observation in cebu, phillipines is that sex and relationships are (indeed) transactional.  there are lots of older men with much younger filipinas, and there is a distinct quid-pro-quo about it.

·       the sex is transactional, here, but isn’t it everywhere?  even consensual sex (without a monetary exchange) is transactional, is it not?

·       in family relationships, don’t parents love a child (more) when the child behaves in a manner that makes the parent happier?  isn’t the converse true?

·       at christmas, isn’t santa’s love transactional?  if you don’t behave the way your parents santa wants you to, they’ll say that you get no love/presents.  heck, you might even get coal!  of course, this is the first big lie (for most children), as they know that they aren’t perfect, but santa still brings the goods, after all.

·       think about this: even in christianity, god’s love is transactional.  you don’t get into heaven if you don’t believe in him.
 
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[i] martino, j. (12.22-1.2024). is (even) love transactional? book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino. 

* "predictability is the enemy of attraction"

- a quote from the internet. 

b121 (12.21-1.2024): come and surf the wave

surf the wave [i]
by ima i. n. control

some things we control
most things are unsaved
rocks (or maybe, roll)
come and surf the wave
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·       surfers can’t control the wave, but they can control their tactile input into the surfboard.

·       Bliss is not about giving-up control, although ‘surrender’ can be a beneficial practice.
 
to me, Bliss is about getting caught-up in the move-ie, while also having the knowing that i can return to audience mode and/or director mode, as desired.  it’s not 100% surrender.
 
it is similar to the chase of Spirit.  100% transcendence of the ego would mean death/birth, so to transcend ego to a large degree (and to re-cognize when the ego is pre-dominant) is the dance of Bliss-full Play, Here (and, hopefully, Now).  it can be orgasmic.
 

come and surf the wave.

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[i] martino, j. (12.21-1.2024). come and surf the wave. book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino. 

b121 (12.20-1.2024): control the center...

control the center… [i]
by ima wanda win

“you should control the center” he said (so well) with fame
“when you control the center, baby, you control the game”
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·       controlling the center, in chess or war, concerns the center of the battlefield.

·       controlling your own center (in life) has to do with awareness, introspection, contemplation and alignment with purpose, mission and values.
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[i] martino, j. (12.20-1.2024). control the center… book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino. 

b121 (12.18-1.2024): next, pollute the skies

next, pollute the skies [i]
by ima can sirr

first, pollute the forests
then, pollute the streams
next, pollute the oceans and the rivers (in-between)
when there’s nothing left to ruin, make no compromise
 
first, pollute the land (how grand!) and
then, pollute the skies
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·       when space-clutter becomes excessive, even bits of fast-moving debris can destroy a satellite.
·       the human solution, of course is twofold:
   1.     figure-out how to destroy an adversary’s satellites, and
   2.     keep putting more up there.
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[i] martino, j. (12.18-1.2024). next, pollute the skies. book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino. 

b121 (12.16-1.2024): to want the best (for ex)

to want the best (for ex) [i]
by ann ex

to want the best (for ex) might take a bit of thought/context
it makes a lot of sense
to want the best (for ex)
_____________________________
 
·       if you really like/love someone, you don’t wish bad things for him/her.
·       if you have a friend, you want that friend to live his/her best life.
·       while it might hurt your ego if the ex is enjoying life without you, love isn’t ego.
·       love wants the best (for the ex).
 
if you’re not able to want the best for an ex, then it might be time to pull out a mirror and ask: “did i love (or did i want control over) my ex?”
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[i] martino, j. (12.16-1.2024). to want the best (for ex). book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino. 

b121 (12.12-1.2024): dis-fun-ction

dis-fun-ction [i]
by diane s. functional
 
i should have seen it sooner
from steve (to dad & mom)
 
the only functional martineau might be tom
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[i] martino, j. (12.12-1.2024). dis-fun-ctional. book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino. 

b121 (12.11-1.2024): "hush"

“hush” [i]
by u. ben hushed
 
you had your chance and blew it
of course (you said too much)
and everybody knew it
let’s get down to it:
 
“hush”
______________________________
 
·       be-cause you simply couldn’t shut your mouth.
 
·       be-cause you view yourself as better than those who you are talking-down to.
 
·       be-cause you see yourself as entitled.
 
you project everything that you hate (in republicans): isolation, domination, rightness, etc.

i, as of today, am done with you.
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[i] martino, j. (12.11-1.2024). “hush.” book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino. 

* diss-fun-ction

diss-fun-ction 

by we r. familied

i should have seen it sooner
from steve to dad & mom:
the only functional neau-neau might be tom!!
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• hard drinkers, culted thinkers, and religious tinkerers who've been hood-winkered...
• outside of a couple of the grands, it's m.m.i.!!

:)

* of course, i'm including myself in this mix.

** in the original writing (on a postcard) the first 'neau' was actually the name of the parakeet who used to fly freely in the kitchen.

b121 (12.9-1.2024): death & taxes

death & taxes [i]
by grim reaper

death & taxes: certain
death & taxes, time
death & taxes (in the end, they were a friend of mine)
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·       death/mortality, after all, gives life meaning.

·       death’s possibility can act as motivation, can influence behavior modification, and (if we live each day as if it were our last) can breathe life to our present moments.
 
taxes, of course, have provided me with things like roads and parks and water-ways… not to mention the social security benefit that will begin in a few short weeks.  

the passing/death of significant others serves as a re-mind-er, 

and, if we allow it to, 

             loss can be reframed as gratitude.                

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[i] martino, j. (12.9-1.2024). death & taxes. book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino.