b121 (12.1-1.2024): forgiveness -- is an inside job

forgiveness -- is an inside job [i]
by u. r. forgiven

remember when forgiveness meant someone (out there) had sinned?
it’s G∞d to Know For-give-ness is a process from within
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·       for-give: to give, for.
 
·       forgiveness is a wellness process …a gift to yourself that heals and purges dis-ease.
 

maybe it was dr. wayne dyer who wrote:

 

“no one ever died from a venomous snakebite.

we die from the poison that continues to flow through our own veins.”

 
·       so.  someone ‘out there’ said or did something contrary to our desires and moral code, and the result was that we felt fear & pain.  maybe we even wanted them to feel the same, so we wished for punishment/revenge -- which (of course) would perpetuate the cycle.
 
·       forgiveness has been portrayed as something we could do for him/her who wronged us (e.g. “i forgive you”).  the saying “forgive and forget” may have even been a mantra…
 
 …but True For-Give-ness is a gift to ourselves.  the idea is to purge the poison (anger, resentment, revenge) from our own biopsychology by under-stand-ing the path that may have led him/her to the wrongdoing.
 
·       True For-Give-ness learns, empathizes and remembers.  huh?  example:
 
if i get mugged while walking down a dark alley at 3 a.m. in the city, the ‘forgive’ piece would be to (event-u-all-y) place myself in the shoes of the perpetrator.  certainly s/he wasn’t born evil.  the ‘remember’ piece is important, also.  note to self: don’t walk down dark alleys at 3 a.m. in the city.
 
with practice, one can purge negative memories via empathy, which (event-u-ally) brings us to the most important outcome: For-Give-ing ourselves. 
 
once we can truly under-stand (or bow to) all perpetrations, we will (by definition) have purged ourselves from guilt, shame, blame and regret.
 
For-Give-ness is a Gift, an inner-purging that heals the pain by seeing the other in ourselves -- and by re-cognize-ing ourselves in them.  it is the ultimate Namaste’. 😊                       
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[i] martino, j. (12.1-1.2024). forgiveness is an inside job. book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino & the wizard of pause.
[ii] ‘sin’ (from the archery term ‘sine’) means “you missed the mark.”  “here’s another arrow. make adjustments and try again.”