b121 (12.22-1.2024): is (even) love transactional?

is (even) love transactional? [i]
by itsa tran saction 

·       my experience/observation in cebu, phillipines is that sex and relationships are (indeed) transactional.  there are lots of older men with much younger filipinas, and there is a distinct quid-pro-quo about it.

·       the sex is transactional, here, but isn’t it everywhere?  even consensual sex (without a monetary exchange) is transactional, is it not?

·       in family relationships, don’t parents love a child (more) when the child behaves in a manner that makes the parent happier?  isn’t the converse true?

·       at christmas, isn’t santa’s love transactional?  if you don’t behave the way your parents santa wants you to, they’ll say that you get no love/presents.  heck, you might even get coal!  of course, this is the first big lie (for most children), as they know that they aren’t perfect, but santa still brings the goods, after all.

·       think about this: even in christianity, god’s love is transactional.  you don’t get into heaven if you don’t believe in him.
 
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[i] martino, j. (12.22-1.2024). is (even) love transactional? book 121: opportunity (on deck). © 2024 by j. martino.