b118 (7.29-1.2024): have-nots

have-nots [i]
by t. h. e. haves

she was my better-half
apparent from the start
until we could care less about the those who had (had-not)
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·       yes, i married up:  rich family, rich dad, and a wife who had always gotten her way… never even considering that there were other possibilities for her.

 
·       and then, amid a sexless, loveless trap/marriage… i remembered that i (also) cared about the have-nots.

·       you can imagine the conversations – between billionaire-bride and minimum-wage-girl (serving fries).  it wasn’t always pretty.

·       truth is… i wound-up respecting the folks who actually worked for a living.
 
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[i] martino, j. (7.29-1.2024). have nots. book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by j. martino. 

b118 (7.28-1.2024): so hopeful for the cane

so hopeful for the cane [i]
by ima news maker

so hopeful for disaster
the (oh!) torrential rain
so hopeful for the (oh!) bad news
so hopeful for the cane
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·       hurricane ‘season’ (is it a sport?) 2024 has been boringly quiet.  

so quiet, actually, that the newsmakers are now cultivating fear by predicting where tropical disturbances “most likely might” occur.

·       they are tracking african dust, high-level wind patterns, and anything else that they can pull out of their asses… to initiate the next tune-in or the next click.

·       you know it’s tough… when they have-to predict the potential for possible activity that might/could have devastating effects, somewhere, somehow, sometime, soon. 
 
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[i] martino, j. (7.28-1.2024). so hopeful for the cane. book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by j. martino.

* have you ever noticed that the hurricane 'symbol' itself is sexualized?

b118 (7.24-2.2024): lucky dodged a bullet

lucky dodged a bullet [i]
by ima lucky

lucky dodged a bullet
he sensed imposing dread
he gave himself some distance:

((contemplate, instead))
 
on her trigger (itchy finger), she was poised to pull-it
lucky gave himself some space
lucky dodged a bullet
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·       as i re-read the writings from april 2022 through february of 2023, it is (and was) crystal clear that i dodged one helluvah bullet.

·       the process of writing-down thoughts and reading about male-female relationships was/is gold.
 
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[i] martino, j. (7.24-2.2024). lucky dodged a bullet. book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by j. martino.

b118 (7.23-1.2024): who/what makes me happy?

who/what makes me happy? [i]
by joal

who/what makes me happy?
who/what makes me smile?
who/what makes me happy? (let me think on this awhile)
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·       who? and what? deleted (from blog... to protect privacy)

themes: knowing i’m good (okay, worthy); others’ successes; peace/ease
 
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[i] martino, j. (7.23-1.2024). who/what makes me happy. book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by j. martino.

b118 (7.22-1.2024): presidential play

presidential play [i]
by cal politi

presidential drama
presidential way
presidential karma
presidential play
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·       7.21.2024: biden drops out; endorses kamala.
·       after reviewing what the internet says about her beliefs, i align pretty well with her purported beliefs.
·       her leadership & communication skills?  she’ll have the chance to showcase them.
·       with a few months until the election, she’s got to show if she’s electable.
·       can she beat the man who has placed a stranglehold on the republican party?
 
my (initial) take is that the u.s.a. feels safer (less like a bully) with harris.  she is also younger.  her vp choice will be telltale.
 
the final question may be: does the u.s.a. need to be the backyard bully?
 
more to follow.
 
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[i] martino, j. (7.22-1.2024). presidential play. book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by j. martino.

[ii] maybe she could offer him the job of border czar, and have him build the wall… while giving companies incentive to establish job-generating projects in central america.  make central america a place where people want to live (instead of flee). 

b118 (7.21-1.2024): what makes a being be?

what makes a being be? [i]
by a. huey mann

what makes a being be?
why does a fly (well) fly?
when can insightful (seeing)?
who then (in hell) am i?
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·       a being... has a sense of separate-self, but moreso than… say… and insect.
·       will sentient robots be beings?
·       is the planet (earth) conscious?
·       can gods becomes beings?
 
humans (being) seem to be able to contemplate death, pre-life/life/after-life, and night-life.  do we just think that we are at the top of the chain?
 
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[i] martino, j. (7.21-1.2024). what makes a being be? book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by j. martino. 

b118 (7.20-1-2024) transactional (plus feelings)

transactional (plus feelings) [i]
by joal

transactional (plus feelings)
a kiss, a dance, a sway
a tit-for-tat (a joining)
a deeper, darker day
________________________
 
·       the business of transaction is dry.
·       the feeling of connection is moist, and wet, and fly.
·       a kiss… is not completely transactional.
 
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[i] martino, j. (7.20-1.2024). transactional (plus feelings). book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by j. martino. 

b118 (7.19.2024): i used to be a crat

i used to be a crat [i]
by a. pub

...but i no longer identify as one

i used to be a democrat, but something strange processed
i changed my registration when the country got possessed
________________________
 
·       the reasons to change parties are many:
   o   ideological
   o   disgust
   o   self-preservation
   o   …can’t beat ‘em…
   o   demographics
   o   etc.

·       the pussified crats have lost their way; i’m not going to get anyone pregnant; i don’t agree with the pride; i’m not in transition; i identify as my gender; i can’t support a leader who has lost his leadership qualities, etc., etc.

·       the pubs have the guns (and will use them), the pubs have the police and the military, the pubs have bully-power, and the pubs will use force if you don’t cower.

i'm (in no way) a pub.  ...but when the pussies get beat-up by bullies outside of one, it's not my job to defend them.
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[i] martino, j. (7.19-1.2024). i used to be a crat. book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by j. martino. 

b118 (7.18-1.2024): god gets credit

god gets credit [i]
by b. lievers

god gets credit (really)
god gets a pass (it’s fine)
 
god doesn’t have to be good-natured (“i believe… he’s mine!”)
god doesn’t have to answer prayers (but when i’m lucky: “him!”)
 
god gets credit (really)
god wins (but me… “i sin”)
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·       believers are funny.

·       they pretend to love and worship and follow an invisible man in the sky… but can claim (“ooops!” 😊) to be sinners (who are already forgiven because they believe).  so it’s okay to f--k & s--k (outside of holy wedlock), to divorce, to beg for it in the ass, to gossip, to cheat, to drink-to-excess, to skip church, to lie, to covet, etc., etc.

·       god knows that you are only human… but he allows other (better behaved) humans (who were born into a different culture and religion) to burn in an everlasting hell for believing their parents and their elders and their culture and their holy men and their holy books.
 
believing in ‘god’ is actually the perfect out:
·       when you want something, you just ask god (forgetting that he is going to do what he is going to do, anyway).  he either answers your prayer or he doesn’t.

·       either way, he knows better than you.

·       earthquake? “maybe we didn’t believe hard enough!”  baby saved from earthquake?  “jesus saves!”  babies die in the same earthquake?  “well, things happen for a reason, and god knows best.”  “maybe it’s a sign.”  …and on and on (ad nauseum).
 
in any event, i’m sick-and-tired of people who pretend that they know what god wants, what god thinks, and that god cares.
 
it’s akin to a gnat… understanding the depths of a you-man being.
 
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[i] martino, j. (7.18-1.2024). god gets credit (really). book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by j. martino. 

* u.s.a. update

1. the democrats have lost their way, and they appear to have no plan to find one.

2. trump took one for the team, and (admittedly) looked good doing it.

3. musk will donate 45m (that's million) per month (that's per month) to a political action committee for trump.

dude. this thing was over after the debate/debacle, but now... it's going to be a bloodbath.  

trump 65% 
biden-harris 25% 
progressives 10%  

b118 (7.17-1.2024): why virtual sex...

why virtual sex… [i]
written by a naverage man

…could be perceived (by some) as better than committed-relationship sex:
 
·       you can get what you want.
   o   in masturbation, you know yourself better than anyone else.
   o   in masturbation, you can live out your fantasies (skipping around from one-to-another) as well as your mind can allow.
   o   in prostitution, virtual sex, robot sex, you negotiate: you get what you want to purchase.

·       you can get it when you want it.

·       you can get it how you want it.

·       you can get it from whoever (in your mind) you want.

·       you can get it where you want (e.g. in the privacy of your own privacy).
 
you can even manufacture “burning desire” (etc.) in your mind.  after the sex is over, you can do whatever you want (e.g. sleep, watch the game, etc.).  no strings.
 
let’s contrast this with committed-relationship sex:

·       you might not even get it!

·       you probably won’t get it when, where, how, how-often and with who you most want.

·       you will definitely negotiate for it, except it is more of a convert, unspoken, smoke-and-mirrors negotiation.

·        the after-sex in a committed-relationship can be much more complicated.

·        a worst-case scenario would be akin to begging for nourishment, getting scraps, and getting those scraps from someone who could care less (or even despise you for it).

almost everyone knows someone (almost everyone? in a committed-relationship) who is not happy with his/her sex life within that relationship.
 
as i often deduce, the problem herein doesn’t lie within the people, per se… but the construct of conventional u.s.a. committed-relationships (e.g. cohabitation, marriage, monogamy rules, etc.).
 
as virtual sex becomes more-and-more affordable & available, conventional, u.s.a.-type committed-relationships may be perceived (by some) as having less and less value.  
 
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[i] martino, j. (7.18-1.2024). why virtual sex... book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by j. martino.
[ii] note that ‘virtual’ can refer to masturbation, robotic sex, prostitution, etc.  virtually anything besides conventional-relationship sex. 

* the past is in the past...

...except for when it haunts your mind.

thoughts about a past relationship:

• it lasted from april-january (10-months), but (in reality) we were fighting within the first 30 days.
• her bpd (i wasn't sure what was going on) showed up the first time that i spent a couple of days away (on a trip that she would not attend).
• truth be told?  i knew she wasn't high value.  i would have strayed, given the opportunity.
• may was a good month,
• june was the first brawl,
• july was the thrilla-in-manilla,
• aug-oct was a roller-coaster of ups and downs,
• november was the last straw: a cut to my heart,
• december-jan was the captain save-a-ho show, and
• the end was official soon thereafter, 
• she immediately beamed s----- up (meaning: she was locked-in much earlier).

looking back on it, the 'relationship' (however toxic) was a great learning experience.   

b118 (7.16-1.2024): we want more than our fair share

we want more (than our fair share) [i]
by al iving thing

a simple psych-dynamic (maybe more than we can bare?)
at times (a bit titanic): we want more than our fair share
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·       in regard to behaviors… overeating, overdrinking, over-anything-ing… can be directly traced back to survival/thrival.

·       when living things perceive limited resources (water, security, sexual opportunity, food [e.g. sugars], territory, etc.) we tend to stockpile those resources – which could be perceived as wanting more than our fair share.
 
living things cannot not all-ways perceive that there are limited resources.
 
for example: if you didn’t “want more,” there would be no reason to breathe.
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[i] martino, j. (7.16-1.2024). we want more than our fair share. book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by j. martino. 

[ii] the titanic, of course, is an example of an outcropping of this very phenomenon. 

b118 (7.15-1.2024): prop-positions

prop-positions [i]
by dee plane

cessna spoke with boeing (about the acquisition)
both a bit intrigued about potential prop-positions
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·       of course, prop-positions go well with propositions, especially in denver.
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[i] martino, j. (7.15-1.2024). prop-positions. book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b118 (7.14-1.2024): she was a master (baiter)

she was a master (baiter) [i]
by a. fish
 
she was a master (baiter)
completely in control

she’d get me on the hook

she’d then begin to troll
she’d pique my anger (easily), why would i even date her?

a fish in her blue see

she was a master (baiter)

thank god (now, i'm just me)

she was a master (baiter)

it's great to just be free!

she was a master (baiter)

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[i] martino, j. (7.14-1.2024). she was a master (baiter).  book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

* 7.13.2024: former president (present frontrunner) shot

today (at a rally), another young u.s.a. male in possession of a semi-automatic weapon opened-fire on the presidential frontrunner (and the crowd at a rally)... hitting the presidential candidate in the ear (wounding him) while killing at least one of those in the crowd and wounding others.  the situation is presently unfolding.

people (especially those of the democratic persuasion) have been known to ask: "where were you when kennedy was shot?" -- recalling the sadness of the tragedy.   what they neglect to recall is that kennedy (although beloved by many) was also hated by many.

u.s.a. "us vs. them" politics has a way of creating love/hate scenarios... dividing humanoids into "black vs. white" groups -- all the while both groups want (mostly) the same things: freedom, safety/security, food/water/clothing, family betterment, etc.

b118 (7.13-1.2024): "that's a yellow card"

“that’s a yellow card” [i]
by a. w. arning
 
“that’s a yellow card”
a first-time warning, yes
it doesn’t really need to be a thing we must address
it might be something that you did or something that you said
“that’s a yellow card”
 
(the next one will be red)
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·       i agree with richard cooper (and with orion taraban) that, as a younger man, i was often baited-into arguments and anger by women who (in all likelihood) wanted something other than me being angry.

·       once one's anger arises, however, he loses.
 
nowadays, i avoid heated arguments (especially with women).  i treat the person who wants to argue like i’d treat someone with a loaded gun in their hand: i find a way to get myself (safely) out of the situation, and i avoid that situation in the future.
 
what this means, in a sexual-interrelationship with a woman, you have got to be ready to walk away – at the first sign.  depending upon what she does or says, a yellow card might be appropriate (as a warning).  the red card must be at the ready.
 
obviously, the yellow-card/red-card system will be exponentially easier to enact if she is not in your home.  gentlemen: once you commit, and (heaven forbid) once you cohabitate, you (in essence) trap yourself.  marriage would be the worst-case scenario trap... if your wife happened to be a master-baiter. 
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[i] martino, j. (7.13-1.2024). “that’s a yellow card.” book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.
 
[ii] yellow-card/red-card theory by richard cooper: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zNh-igYtl5Y&t=1s

* in my last relationship, i displayed an enormous amount of patience.  i displayed yellow card behavior (but got sucked-in to considering each situation from her perspective -- and her past).  eventually, it became obvious that (most likely) she (1) contributed to a lot of her past problems, and (2) was not going to behave as a high-value lady, probably ever.   she (event-u-all-y) pushed me to pull the red card, which, in hindsight, equated to doing me a favor.

b118 (7.12-1.2024): he won't bite

“he won’t bite” [i]

by imnotso sure asyou
 
angry dog shows teeth
barks (with all his might)
annoyed-owner (seethes), then says curtly: 

“he won’t bite”
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·       when a dog barks at me, i prepare to defend myself.

·       when an ignorant dog-owner says “he won’t bite” i take it with a grain of salt.  many times, i’ve responded: “maybe you know that, but i don’t know that.”

·       some neighborhood dog-owners have invisible ‘electric’ fences set-up, as if a passer-by should ‘know’ that the dog won’t stray beyond a certain point.
 

owners: we don’t hate your dog.  

you, on the other hand…

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[i] martino, j. (7.12-1.2024). “he won’t bite.” book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b118 (7.11-1.2024): i want to get propositioned

i want to get propositioned [i]
by any man alive
 
i want to feel attractive
i want to feel loved
i want to feel wanted
i don’t want push & shove

i want to feel worthy
i want to feel okay
i want to get propositioned:
every, single day
____________________ 

·       as a man, i can honestly say that some of the best moments of my life have come while being propositioned.

·       even in strip clubs (and i’m not a strip club guy), it has felt good to have woman-after-woman, approaching me with an offer.

·       when i was younger, i got propositioned a lot more than i do at age 65 (of course).
 
and… knowing that all relationships are (in some way) transactional, what if i could go somewhere, be approached (for whatever reason), transact, and get what i want while she gets what she wants?
 
what if there was a possibility that, as we both got what we wanted, we shared a mutually satisfying moment?
 
many, many, Many, Many, MANY men in conventional u.s.a. relationships are completely miserable, spend waaaaaaaaaaaay too much money, and get waaaaaaaaaaay too little appreciation.  the women in these 'relationships' are often also miserable, lonely and bored.  
 
why not invest in the transactional?
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[i] martino, j. (7.11-1.2024). i want to get propositioned. book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by j. martino. 

* 2 minutes ago (literally)

 "can you give me a ride?"
i know we've never met
"can you give me a ride?"
a ride you won't forget

__________________ 

• yes.  less than a 1/4 mile from my door, a lady asked me for "a ride... to the circle-k."
• she had bad teeth, a little pot-belly, and said something about her boyfriend.

my response?

"let me think about it.  i'll be right back."

translation: "no."

i tend to recoil from crazy women, nowadays.  of course (if it was sheryl crow or cindy crawford), i might have rolled the dice, but... 

* life design

my life design… and the way i want to live it 

if i could wave the magic wand:

1.      autonomy (i already have that).  i have autonomy in my career, my part-time job, and my personal life. 

2.      freedom (i already have that).  i have an amazing level of freedom.

3.      security (i already have that… until dictators take over or ASI takes over).

4.      siestas (this would probably mean retired from conventional work)… but i do this in the summer.

5.      good sex, about once or twice per week:
   a.      i already orgasm (about once per day) and believe in exercising muscles. 
   b.      …but i’d like someone to share orgasms with (intermittently)
              i.     not all of the time, but sometimes. 
              ii.     again: once or twice per week... for the full-blown sexual experience (slow, romantic, etc.). 
             1.      note: most women will want more and more of that… but i am open to meeting someone who might not.

6.      happy, easy, laughter (i already have that)… but might enjoy that more with a female partner or part-time partner.

7.      exercise: a gal who works-out with me.

8.      yoga: a yoga teacher who guides me.

9.      massage: a massage therapist who massages me.

10.   personal training: see #7

11.   family/friends: a gal who loves to meet and interacts very well with my family/friends.

12.   sleeping alone (most nights), and sleeping together… when the next morning isn’t a work morning.  i want to wake-up with you, share coffee with you, watch hummingbirds with you…)
   a.      note… there may be mornings where/when i need to write, or walk, or to be alone… so please understand that i will be back, and i will give you my full attention soon.   

13.   early to bed (after sunsets)

14.   early to rise (to watch sunrises)

15.   travel: to places where i can turn her on… and to places that i’d like to go/see.

16.   when it is ungodly hot, i'd like to go to the mountains.  when it is ungodly cold, i'd like to visit warm, sunny beaches.  when it is in the middle (and even during some of the hot/cold times), i want to be right here.