b118 (7.17-1.2024): why virtual sex...

why virtual sex… [i]
written by a naverage man

…could be perceived (by some) as better than committed-relationship sex:
 
·       you can get what you want.
   o   in masturbation, you know yourself better than anyone else.
   o   in masturbation, you can live out your fantasies (skipping around from one-to-another) as well as your mind can allow.
   o   in prostitution, virtual sex, robot sex, you negotiate: you get what you want to purchase.

·       you can get it when you want it.

·       you can get it how you want it.

·       you can get it from whoever (in your mind) you want.

·       you can get it where you want (e.g. in the privacy of your own privacy).
 
you can even manufacture “burning desire” (etc.) in your mind.  after the sex is over, you can do whatever you want (e.g. sleep, watch the game, etc.).  no strings.
 
let’s contrast this with committed-relationship sex:

·       you might not even get it!

·       you probably won’t get it when, where, how, how-often and with who you most want.

·       you will definitely negotiate for it, except it is more of a convert, unspoken, smoke-and-mirrors negotiation.

·        the after-sex in a committed-relationship can be much more complicated.

·        a worst-case scenario would be akin to begging for nourishment, getting scraps, and getting those scraps from someone who could care less (or even despise you for it).

almost everyone knows someone (almost everyone? in a committed-relationship) who is not happy with his/her sex life within that relationship.
 
as i often deduce, the problem herein doesn’t lie within the people, per se… but the construct of conventional u.s.a. committed-relationships (e.g. cohabitation, marriage, monogamy rules, etc.).
 
as virtual sex becomes more-and-more affordable & available, conventional, u.s.a.-type committed-relationships may be perceived (by some) as having less and less value.  
 
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[i] martino, j. (7.18-1.2024). why virtual sex... book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by j. martino.
[ii] note that ‘virtual’ can refer to masturbation, robotic sex, prostitution, etc.  virtually anything besides conventional-relationship sex.