* what skills do I have?

what skills do i have?

by j. martino

 

as the coronavirus signals the beginning of a new era for life in the usa and abroad, 

it is important to ask ourselves “what skills do i have?” 

and then determine if they’ll be relevant in the new world.

 
my skills:

1.      coaching
   a.      health
   b.      health & wellness
   c.      life
2.      fitness training
   a.      strength
   b.      cardio
   c.      flexibility
   d.      balance
3.      yoga instruction
   a.      gentle, restorative
4.      therapeutic massage
   a.      thai, swedish
5.      teacher education
   a.      kinesiology
   b.      powerpoint (master)**
6.      education administration
7.      reading and writing
8.      airplane pilot, but…
   a.      haven’t flown in decades
   b.      cessna 152, 172
9.      kinesiology/movement education
10.   driver
   a.      uber food?
   b.      does matt casey need drivers?
11.   ex-military, but…
   a.      retired decades ago
                                                     i.     physical fitness school
                                                   ii.     aviation (helicopters: ch-47, uh1h, th55)
                                                  iii.     introduction to leadership (fsu assistant professor)
                                                  iv.     special operations aviation
 
** i can teach you how create the greatest gift that you (or anyone else) will ever receive: an audio-visual slideshow of the best times of their life.
 
for decades, i have created picture slideshow-movies (from my own music & photos) that:
1.      can make you and your loved ones extremely happy, by highlighting the best times of your lives.
2.      can be shared with loved ones, electronically, via facebook and other media.
3.      can be modified (added to, etc.).
4.      can be free (if you own microsoft office).  everybody has access to favorite photos.
 
there is nothing more powerful than the still-photograph slideshow, coupled with the right music.  it can/will bring you and yours to spontaneous laughter, tears (of joy), and smiles.
 
creating the slideshow has multiple benefits:
1.      it will keep you busy, and away from the bad news.
2.      it will be unique (as you will be the choreographer).
3.      it can be short or long, depending upon your preference.
4.      it can be used as a daily meditation.  my shows are a labor of love, and i end up feeling closer to my loved-ones during the creation of a show – as well as when it is shown.
5.      it can be used at family gatherings, including weddings, celebrations, memorials, etc.
6.      here is an example of what you can create: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5jxmot7y3nk (in this video, i start the music after the first couple of photos, for effect). 

b118 (3.23-1.2024): bittersweet & toxic

bittersweet (and toxic) [i]
by a. cuppa & c. offee
 
bittersweet (and toxic)
hot (but growing cold)
she’s a tad obnoxic
angry, sad (and old)
 
she’s tried all the fake cosmetics (some, not so discreet)
passive and aggressive
toxic (bittersweet)
_________________________
 

• probably still a 6-7 (for her over-50-physical smv), but the toxic traits constitute a 3 or below.

• a coffee meet-up would be the perfect blend.

__________________________
[i] martino, j. (3.23-1.2024). bittersweet (and toxic). book 118: day and night game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us

* a secret to life

 one of the secrets to life is to feel hungry, and to consciously delay the gratification... 
with the confidence of being gratified, at some point, soon.

the follow-up is, when the gratification comes, 
to savor the process and to refrain from over-indulgence... 
with the confidence that the feeling of hunger (and future wellness), 
will be even easier to attain.

:) 

* update

 so it is mid-march, 2024, and:

• no hummingbird sightings yet,
• below freezing this morning (in mt. hollywood, nc),
• not dating anyone, and not pursuing,
• weight loss plateau (need to remedy that),
• alcohol free january was good,
• 4 personal trainers helps,
• top-10 (about the same),
• f.s.u. baseball is the only undefeated team in the u.s.a.,
• the u.s.a. can do no better than b & t? (it might be time to move).

* be unapologetic...

 ...about doing what you want to do, as often as you can, and without regard to others' desire to control you & your behavior.

here's the secret: they are doing it already... albeit covertly.

b118 (3.9.2024): draft, but do not send

draft, but do not send  [i]
by ann otha draft

draft (because some messages might never, ever end)
draft (here in the moment)
draft (but do not send)
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·       with email and text messages, pause.

·       if anything is the least-bit critical or terse or anger-induced… draft it in your mind (or on email) but do not send/deliver the message.
 
breathe.  slow down.  be grateful for the emotions.  be grateful for the Play.
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[i] martino, j. (3.9-1.2024). draft, but do not send. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b118 (2.21-1.2024): bleepity, bleepity bleep

bleepity, bleepity bleep [i]
by anna l. arm
 
bleepity, bleepity bleep
short (incessant) dream
in it was a puzzle... of
electric machines

in it was frustration
angry and asleep
in it was connection
bleepity, bleepity bleep
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a 14-minute dream:
 
·       i was in class when the bleeping-sound began.
·       i lashed-out at a few students who were talking (making noise) and not paying attention to brett (who was teaching).
·       i couldn’t find the source of the bleeping… similar to when a smoke-alarm is chirping.
·       one of the students who i told to “shut-up!” ended-up helping me – in my quest to finding the source of the bleep.  he even offered me part of his lunch.
·       after inspecting numerous electric devices with various designs and rigged connections, i awoke (at 6:14 am) -- to my home alarm, which had been bleeping for 14 minutes.
 
today’s lesson: frustration & confrontation can become collaboration …in this, an electronic dream. 
 
if you know what i mean.
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[i] martino, j. (2.21-1.2024). bleepity, bleepity bleep. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.  

b118 (2.12-1.2024): santa isn't real

santa isn’t real [i]
by u. n. real
 
we might not admit it, but it’s just part of the deal
though he served his purpose
santa isn’t real
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[i] martino, j. (2.12-1.2024). santa isn’t real. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.  

* (very) public display of anger

 when a football player bumps his (20+ years elder) coach while screaming into the coach's face (from inches away) during one of the most publicized/watched games on planet earth... uhhh...

...then what you see is what you get.

any present (or future) girlfriend of this player now has visual proof that this kind of classless bullying exists, inside of the man.  the end.

((talk about seeing "red".))   

* marriage is very hard, and...

...most people aren't good at it.

-richard cooper 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qsuJxmZx-28 

b118 (2.7-1.2024): h.e.a. (a lie)

h.e.a. (a lie) [i]
by ima s. o. happy
 
h.e.a. (so rare, today) no matter how you try
you’re being sold an edsel
h.e.a. (a lie)
_______________________ 
 
h.e.a. = “happily ever after”
 
·         to be completely transparent, it (h.e.a.) always has been a wo/man-made fabrication.
·         couples have always “made-believe” that their lives were better than they (actually) were.
·         the proof?  look (objectively) at your social media accounts.  do your accounts reflect the actuality of your life experience?
   o   okay, okay, it might be easier to be objective by looking at a friend’s social media accounts.
   o   what you’ll find is that many humans project a make-believe world that they make, and try to make you believe.

it.is.make.believe.

____________________________

[i] femineau, j. (2.7-1.2024), h.e.a (a lie). day & night Game. © 2024 by joline femineau.

b118 (2.6-1.2024): "it's a gym"

“it’s a gym” [i]
by ima meathead
 
“it’s a gym” (a place where i can pump and show my meat)
“it’s a gym” (it’s not a place for those who show as weak)
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except that you’re wrong:

   ·       the Fitness Center is a facility that serves multiple purposes:
    o   it serves as a space for academic/curriculum classes.
    o   it serves athletics.
    o   it serves faculty, students and staff.
    o   it does not serve “only” you, and you do not have the right to bang/drop weights -- or act in a manner that might intimidate others from enjoying their moment.
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[i] martino, j. (2.6-1.2024). ”it’s a gym.” book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b118 (2.3-.2024): "no alcohol beyond this point"

“no alcohol beyond this point” [i]
by ina bar
 
“no alcohol beyond this point” (i often wonder, “why?”)
when we just let you drink and walk beyond that point, then drive
___________________________________
 
which is more of a problem?

·       the person who walks “beyond this point” with a drink in his hand, or

·       the person (who has several drinks in his system) who walks “beyond this point” empty-handed?
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[i] martino, j. (2.3-3.2024). ”no alcohol beyond this point.” book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b118 (2.3-2.2024): my relationship with you

my relationship with you [i]
by ina long term
 
i like the way you taste, today (at least i think i do)
i think this might be toxic (my relationship with you)
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·       did drinking (today, at jackbeagle’s and at the summit) serve me?  my mission?  my vision?  my purpose?

·       did it help me feel better about myself, others, the planet, etc.?

·       did it pre-pave my drinking of a bottle of wine, later?
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[i] martino, j. (2.3-2.2024). my relationship with you. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b118 (2.3-1.2024): your dog is open-carry

your dog is open carry [i]
by ope n. carry
 
your dog is open-carry (as you squeal that “he won’t bite”)
the danger (here) is you, and the truth is he just might
you treat that nasty bitch as well as one who you might marry
the problem (here) is you
your dog is open-carry
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·       some (asshole) dog owners utilize their dog like a knife or a stick or a gun: as a potential weapon.

·       that big, loud, filthy, angry animal is simply a reflection of its dumbass owner.
 
your dog is just like you
your dog is who you married
your dog (a dick): who knew?
your dog is open-carry
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[i] martino, j. (2.3-1.2024). your dog is open carry. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b118 (1.28-2.2024): relative persuasion

relative persuasion [i]
by ina game

relative persuasion
light & dark & null
full of possibilities
hypothetical
 
if we were to celebrate this wonder-full occasion
light & fun & full
relative persuasion
___________________________________
 
·       inspired by albert einstein, alex leon and orion taraban.
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[i] martino, j. (1.28-1.2024). day and night & day game. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.
[ii] einstein, a. (1961). relativity: the special and general theory. three rivers press. New York, ny.
[iii] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jr4oO0_GPGM 

b118 (1.28-1.2024): night & day game

night & day game [i]
by ina game
 
day and night & day game
subtle non-approach
courteous connection
compliment and coach
 
night & day and day game
look her in the eye
make a simple comment
earth and wind and sky
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·       men need to get out of the mindset of “picking-up” girls at night.
·       day game (or simple connection) is the medium for being invited to night games.
·       be the invited.  when invited, attend.
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[i] martino, j. (1.28-1.2024). day and night & day game. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by joal martino. 

b118 (1.21-2.2024): trophy husband

trophy husband [i]
by neve r. married
 
i am her trophy-husband, i was mounted on her wall
i took the sex-bait blindly
my friends just watched me fall
 
and now i can do nothing as she’s fishing once again
and now i’m in the basement with her stack of “way-back-when”
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·       while most can relate to the concept of a trophy-wife, at least she gets taken-out and wined-&-dined.

 
·       the trophy-husband, however, mounted (once or twice) -- then forever celibatized – gets to fail at attempting to keep her from being unhappy – even as she dons her fishing-gear (again and again) in pursuit of bigger Game.
 
how do i (never having been married) know this?  i’ve been the bigger Game.  i’ve observed the "if momma no happy, ain't nooooo-body happy" process.  

i’ve taken the bait (and i’ve been hooked).  luckily… i've never been caught.  i’ve learned how to nibble, now, without getting hooked.  

the safest path (for most fish) might just be to avoid the bait altogether.  most young fish need to learn the difference between food... and bait.  a master-baiting course could be the young fish's best option. 

my advice?  do.not.get.hooked.
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[i] martino, j. (1.21-2.2024). trophy husband. book 118: day & night Game. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b118 (1.20-1.2024): husband in the friend-zone

husband in the friend-zone [i]
by neve r. married
 
husband in the friend-zone
let us not pretend
the wife who sets those rules is less and less and less a friend
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·       to me, it would be psycho-sexual abuse for a woman to coerce a man into an ltr (using sex as bait), only to stop the sex after she’s caught him.

·       maybe that’s natural, though.  does a fisherman (ever) bait a caught fish?

·       maybe the real problem is the “get your man” component of an ltr.
 
…but let me be straight: if she were to shut her sexual love down, i would simply cite breach-of-contract and get it somewhere else.
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[i] martino, j. (1.20-1.2024). husband in the friend-zone. book 118: day & night Game. © 2023 by joal martino.  

b118 (1.19-1.2024): who, then is my god?

who, then is my god? [i]
by wo r. ship
 
who, then is my god, is it a person, place or thing?
who, then is my god? it is (what i am worshipping)
who/what do i worship? (the answer isn’t hard)
who/what do i worship?
who, then is my god?
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·       worship: adoration, as in a deity.
 
·       people tend to worship a variety of things: money, sports teams, foods, alcohol, sex, approval, status, attention, other people (celebrities, political candidates, dictators, cult leaders), etc., etc.
 
this exercise (asking myself who i worship) was fruitful.  two immediate indicators of who/what we value is (1) how do i spend my time? and (2) on what do i spend my $$$?
 
at present, i don’t seem to worship anything.  my spending/time tendencies are:
·       work/school
·       writing/expressing
·       friends/family/fun
·       fsu football/baseball
·       my possessions (house, cars, massage chair, etc.)
·       clean food
·       alcohol is no longer an “attachment/addiction.”  i may have just dodged a bullet on that one.

women (of course)... have always been a tendency (but not worship).

·       coffee?  habit, maybe a present tendency... but not worship.
·       chess, against the computer
·       hummingbirds
·       successes (in life, at work, with women, as a man)
·       life?  in the face of death?  hmmmmmmmmmm… this would be interesting... if faced with a terminal situation.  hmmmmmmmmm...
·       wellness
·       recognition, approval (not really), being liked?
·       time, autonomy & freedom probably top my “values” list.

adventures?
 
i can like/enjoy people and things without being obsessed with them.  this process has been wonderfully enlightening.  it appears as if i do not have a “god” …and that i do not want to be treated with adoration/worship, either.  i can live and let live.
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[i] martino, j. (1.19-1.2024). who then is my god? book 118: day & night Game. © 2023 by joal martino. 

* "i don't care no more"

just about this time last year, i found myself embedded in a toxic relationship.  phil collins' "i don't care anymore" embodies the exact feelings i was feeling:

"i never did believe you much... anyway."

* RIP Splasher

 

b118 (1.8-1.2024): man-kind

man-kind [i]
by u. n. kind
 
man-kind, although the his-story is often double-blind
merciless and brutal; mean-sprited:
man-kind
 
(the worst you’ll ever find)
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·       while mankind can create art, poetry, and song; while mankind can build great monuments and even learn to fly…
 
·       mankind has been one of the most evil and treacherous creatures to ever inhabit this little blue ball in the sky.
 
·       just a glimpse of his-story reveals it: war, murder, deceit, hate, cunning, pollution and a level of destruction that must rival anything in the galaxy.
 
i’m watching a documentary entitled “mankind, the story of us” on amazon.  it is hard to imagine that love runs through the universe when one revisits the actions of man[un]kind.
 

when ASI takes a quick look at us,

if IT is programmed (at all) for Love, symbiosis,

cooperation, coordination, caring, creativity,

understanding, or forgiveness…

 

…if it decides to do what is best for the innocent life on earth,

and if it has access to his-story,

we (man-kind) might just be the first thing to be

eliminated.

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[i] martino, j. (1.8-1.2024). man-kind. book 118: day  night Game. © 2023 by joal martino. 

* Vision, Mission, Purpose

Vision: Win-Win-Win: i win, you win and others win.

• the True competition… is to give everyone (everyone who wants it) the opportunity to be their best.

Mission: to Express Myself, and to help others to do so.

• i do this by Be-ing, and, egoic-ally, by do-ing (writing, teaching/learning…)

Purpose: to set the example of Be-ing an Excellent human-being (brother, friend, Wellness professor).

• i live mind-body-Spirit Well(ness).

b118 (1.7-1.2023): dry turns into free

dry turns into free [i]
by francis ree
 
hard to picture any mode of change (of this degree)
wet turns into dry
dry turns into free
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·       the concept of ‘dry’ january, while effective, needed a better, more accurate description.  while ‘dry’ represents that which is old, brittle, stiff, colorless and dead… ‘free’ represents freedom.
 
·       freedom represents life: wet, colorful, plump, juicy, vibrant, flowing and flexible.
 

dry january, for me, is now ‘free january.’

 

free (in that it frees-up time)

free (in that it doesn’t co$t money)

free (from a poison’s trap)

free (from a mind-altering substance)

free (from a cancerous habit)

 

free

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[i] martino, j. (1.7-1.2024). dry turns into free. book 118: night & day Game. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b118 (1.5-1.2024): f--- news

f--- news [i]
by n. o. thing & ba d. news
 
f--- news (it isn’t real, which is why you leave [confused])
f--- news (it’s how i feel) ...so here’s the deal:
f--- news
___________________________________
 
·       why would one spend anything but procrastination/entertainment time on a medium whose known goal is to sell clicks & tune-ins?
 
·       anyone who believes any of that sh-t – is as full of sh-t as the newsmakers.
 

you are what you believe.

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[i] martino, j. (1.5-1.2024). f--- news. book 118: night  day Game. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b118 (1.3.2024): nothing (really) matters

nothing (really) matters [i]
by p. r. evention
 
nothing (really) matters, so use this little trick, because…
nothing really matters (when you’re sick)
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·       when you are sick, or injured, or when you have acute pain (e.g. a toothache), nothing at all matters – except feeling better.
 
·       the trick to getting/feeling better (of course) is not a trick, at all.  the trick to feeling better is to do whatever you can to bolster your own immune system.  that way, you will not only prevent illness from happening, but you will be better equipped for illness/injury when it does occur.
 
prevention is more important than intervention.
 
·       when you think about how an accident occurred (when you went the wrong way or did something the wrong way)… imagine how many accidents have not occurred because you did things the right way!
 
prevention is better than intervention.
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[i] martino, j. (1.3-2.2024). nothing (really) matters. book 118: night & day Game. © 2023 by joal martino.
*this was reinforced while reading my book about control, tonight. 😊 

b118 (1.2-1.2024) unplugging from beliefs

unplugging from beliefs [i]
by joal
 
2024, for me, is going to be about unplugging from beliefs
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·       the belief that women can actually love men in the way that a man desperately wants to be loved.  it is unfortunate, but they are simply not capable of that.
 
·       the belief that alcohol:
   o   tastes good.  it (obviously) doesn’t.  it creates bad breath.
   o   makes one sexier.  it doesn’t.  it makes you smell worse.
   o   makes you a better dancer, etc.  nope.
   o   helps you to relax.
   o   reduces stress, as a good coping tool.  alcohol, of course, increases distress, in soooooooooooooo many ways:
    §  empty calories, fat, and eventual obesity.
    §  reduced quality of sleep.
    §  dehydration.
    §  reduced attractiveness: look around at older alcohol users and smokers.
   o   improves creativity.  really?
   o   Helps you to sleep better.  in Truth, the opposite is true. etc.
 
·       the belief that coffee is necessary.  truth is:
   o   coffee tastes like sh-t, and it gives me coffee breath, which is bad breath.
   o   coffee is consumed with “creamer” (sugar, milk, etc.).
   o   coffee makes one’s teeth turn brown or yellow. that is not sexy!
   o   coffee gives you the jitters!
   o   coffee is just a habit.  it is an addictive habit.
 
don’t believe what people say.  married people (and those who cohabitate) actually look for ways to not have sex or sleep intertwined.  coffee and alcohol serve to make romance less likely!  their own bad breath and body odors serve them… in being a self-rejection (rather than a rejection by their spousal-person)
 
btw: few people will admit any of the above.
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[i] martino, j. (1.2-1.2024). unplugging from beliefs. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.