b118 (2.3-.2024): "no alcohol beyond this point"

“no alcohol beyond this point” [i]
by ina bar
 
“no alcohol beyond this point” (i often wonder, “why?”)
when we just let you drink and walk beyond that point, then drive
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which is more of a problem?

·       the person who walks “beyond this point” with a drink in his hand, or

·       the person (who has several drinks in his system) who walks “beyond this point” empty-handed?
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[i] martino, j. (2.3-3.2024). ”no alcohol beyond this point.” book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b118 (2.3-2.2024): my relationship with you

my relationship with you [i]
by ina long term
 
i like the way you taste, today (at least i think i do)
i think this might be toxic (my relationship with you)
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·       did drinking (today, at jackbeagle’s and at the summit) serve me?  my mission?  my vision?  my purpose?

·       did it help me feel better about myself, others, the planet, etc.?

·       did it pre-pave my drinking of a bottle of wine, later?
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[i] martino, j. (2.3-2.2024). my relationship with you. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b118 (2.3-1.2024): your dog is open-carry

your dog is open carry [i]
by ope n. carry
 
your dog is open-carry (as you squeal that “he won’t bite”)
the danger (here) is you, and the truth is he just might
you treat that nasty bitch as well as one who you might marry
the problem (here) is you
your dog is open-carry
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·       some (asshole) dog owners utilize their dog like a knife or a stick or a gun: as a potential weapon.

·       that big, loud, filthy, angry animal is simply a reflection of its dumbass owner.
 
your dog is just like you
your dog is who you married
your dog (a dick): who knew?
your dog is open-carry
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[i] martino, j. (2.3-1.2024). your dog is open carry. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b118 (1.28-2.2024): relative persuasion

relative persuasion [i]
by ina game

relative persuasion
light & dark & null
full of possibilities
hypothetical
 
if we were to celebrate this wonder-full occasion
light & fun & full
relative persuasion
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·       inspired by albert einstein, alex leon and orion taraban.
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[i] martino, j. (1.28-1.2024). day and night & day game. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.
[ii] einstein, a. (1961). relativity: the special and general theory. three rivers press. New York, ny.
[iii] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jr4oO0_GPGM 

b118 (1.28-1.2024): night & day game

night & day game [i]
by ina game
 
day and night & day game
subtle non-approach
courteous connection
compliment and coach
 
night & day and day game
look her in the eye
make a simple comment
earth and wind and sky
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·       men need to get out of the mindset of “picking-up” girls at night.
·       day game (or simple connection) is the medium for being invited to night games.
·       be the invited.  when invited, attend.
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[i] martino, j. (1.28-1.2024). day and night & day game. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by joal martino. 

b118 (1.21-2.2024): trophy husband

trophy husband [i]
by neve r. married
 
i am her trophy-husband, i was mounted on her wall
i took the sex-bait blindly
my friends just watched me fall
 
and now i can do nothing as she’s fishing once again
and now i’m in the basement with her stack of “way-back-when”
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·       while most can relate to the concept of a trophy-wife, at least she gets taken-out and wined-&-dined.

 
·       the trophy-husband, however, mounted (once or twice) -- then forever celibatized – gets to fail at attempting to keep her from being unhappy – even as she dons her fishing-gear (again and again) in pursuit of bigger Game.
 
how do i (never having been married) know this?  i’ve been the bigger Game.  i’ve observed the "if momma no happy, ain't nooooo-body happy" process.  

i’ve taken the bait (and i’ve been hooked).  luckily… i've never been caught.  i’ve learned how to nibble, now, without getting hooked.  

the safest path (for most fish) might just be to avoid the bait altogether.  most young fish need to learn the difference between food... and bait.  a master-baiting course could be the young fish's best option. 

my advice?  do.not.get.hooked.
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[i] martino, j. (1.21-2.2024). trophy husband. book 118: day & night Game. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b118 (1.20-1.2024): husband in the friend-zone

husband in the friend-zone [i]
by neve r. married
 
husband in the friend-zone
let us not pretend
the wife who sets those rules is less and less and less a friend
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·       to me, it would be psycho-sexual abuse for a woman to coerce a man into an ltr (using sex as bait), only to stop the sex after she’s caught him.

·       maybe that’s natural, though.  does a fisherman (ever) bait a caught fish?

·       maybe the real problem is the “get your man” component of an ltr.
 
…but let me be straight: if she were to shut her sexual love down, i would simply cite breach-of-contract and get it somewhere else.
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[i] martino, j. (1.20-1.2024). husband in the friend-zone. book 118: day & night Game. © 2023 by joal martino.  

b118 (1.19-1.2024): who, then is my god?

who, then is my god? [i]
by wo r. ship
 
who, then is my god, is it a person, place or thing?
who, then is my god? it is (what i am worshipping)
who/what do i worship? (the answer isn’t hard)
who/what do i worship?
who, then is my god?
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·       worship: adoration, as in a deity.
 
·       people tend to worship a variety of things: money, sports teams, foods, alcohol, sex, approval, status, attention, other people (celebrities, political candidates, dictators, cult leaders), etc., etc.
 
this exercise (asking myself who i worship) was fruitful.  two immediate indicators of who/what we value is (1) how do i spend my time? and (2) on what do i spend my $$$?
 
at present, i don’t seem to worship anything.  my spending/time tendencies are:
·       work/school
·       writing/expressing
·       friends/family/fun
·       fsu football/baseball
·       my possessions (house, cars, massage chair, etc.)
·       clean food
·       alcohol is no longer an “attachment/addiction.”  i may have just dodged a bullet on that one.

women (of course)... have always been a tendency (but not worship).

·       coffee?  habit, maybe a present tendency... but not worship.
·       chess, against the computer
·       hummingbirds
·       successes (in life, at work, with women, as a man)
·       life?  in the face of death?  hmmmmmmmmmm… this would be interesting... if faced with a terminal situation.  hmmmmmmmmm...
·       wellness
·       recognition, approval (not really), being liked?
·       time, autonomy & freedom probably top my “values” list.

adventures?
 
i can like/enjoy people and things without being obsessed with them.  this process has been wonderfully enlightening.  it appears as if i do not have a “god” …and that i do not want to be treated with adoration/worship, either.  i can live and let live.
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[i] martino, j. (1.19-1.2024). who then is my god? book 118: day & night Game. © 2023 by joal martino. 

* "i don't care no more"

just about this time last year, i found myself embedded in a toxic relationship.  phil collins' "i don't care anymore" embodies the exact feelings i was feeling:

"i never did believe you much... anyway."

* RIP Splasher

 

b118 (1.8-1.2024): man-kind

man-kind [i]
by u. n. kind
 
man-kind, although the his-story is often double-blind
merciless and brutal; mean-sprited:
man-kind
 
(the worst you’ll ever find)
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·       while mankind can create art, poetry, and song; while mankind can build great monuments and even learn to fly…
 
·       mankind has been one of the most evil and treacherous creatures to ever inhabit this little blue ball in the sky.
 
·       just a glimpse of his-story reveals it: war, murder, deceit, hate, cunning, pollution and a level of destruction that must rival anything in the galaxy.
 
i’m watching a documentary entitled “mankind, the story of us” on amazon.  it is hard to imagine that love runs through the universe when one revisits the actions of man[un]kind.
 

when ASI takes a quick look at us,

if IT is programmed (at all) for Love, symbiosis,

cooperation, coordination, caring, creativity,

understanding, or forgiveness…

 

…if it decides to do what is best for the innocent life on earth,

and if it has access to his-story,

we (man-kind) might just be the first thing to be

eliminated.

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[i] martino, j. (1.8-1.2024). man-kind. book 118: day  night Game. © 2023 by joal martino. 

* Vision, Mission, Purpose

Vision: Win-Win-Win: i win, you win and others win.

• the True competition… is to give everyone (everyone who wants it) the opportunity to be their best.

Mission: to Express Myself, and to help others to do so.

• i do this by Be-ing, and, egoic-ally, by do-ing (writing, teaching/learning…)

Purpose: to set the example of Be-ing an Excellent human-being (brother, friend, Wellness professor).

• i live mind-body-Spirit Well(ness).

b118 (1.7-1.2023): dry turns into free

dry turns into free [i]
by francis ree
 
hard to picture any mode of change (of this degree)
wet turns into dry
dry turns into free
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·       the concept of ‘dry’ january, while effective, needed a better, more accurate description.  while ‘dry’ represents that which is old, brittle, stiff, colorless and dead… ‘free’ represents freedom.
 
·       freedom represents life: wet, colorful, plump, juicy, vibrant, flowing and flexible.
 

dry january, for me, is now ‘free january.’

 

free (in that it frees-up time)

free (in that it doesn’t co$t money)

free (from a poison’s trap)

free (from a mind-altering substance)

free (from a cancerous habit)

 

free

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[i] martino, j. (1.7-1.2024). dry turns into free. book 118: night & day Game. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b118 (1.5-1.2024): f--- news

f--- news [i]
by n. o. thing & ba d. news
 
f--- news (it isn’t real, which is why you leave [confused])
f--- news (it’s how i feel) ...so here’s the deal:
f--- news
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·       why would one spend anything but procrastination/entertainment time on a medium whose known goal is to sell clicks & tune-ins?
 
·       anyone who believes any of that sh-t – is as full of sh-t as the newsmakers.
 

you are what you believe.

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[i] martino, j. (1.5-1.2024). f--- news. book 118: night  day Game. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b118 (1.3.2024): nothing (really) matters

nothing (really) matters [i]
by p. r. evention
 
nothing (really) matters, so use this little trick, because…
nothing really matters (when you’re sick)
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·       when you are sick, or injured, or when you have acute pain (e.g. a toothache), nothing at all matters – except feeling better.
 
·       the trick to getting/feeling better (of course) is not a trick, at all.  the trick to feeling better is to do whatever you can to bolster your own immune system.  that way, you will not only prevent illness from happening, but you will be better equipped for illness/injury when it does occur.
 
prevention is more important than intervention.
 
·       when you think about how an accident occurred (when you went the wrong way or did something the wrong way)… imagine how many accidents have not occurred because you did things the right way!
 
prevention is better than intervention.
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[i] martino, j. (1.3-2.2024). nothing (really) matters. book 118: night & day Game. © 2023 by joal martino.
*this was reinforced while reading my book about control, tonight. 😊 

b118 (1.2-1.2024) unplugging from beliefs

unplugging from beliefs [i]
by joal
 
2024, for me, is going to be about unplugging from beliefs
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·       the belief that women can actually love men in the way that a man desperately wants to be loved.  it is unfortunate, but they are simply not capable of that.
 
·       the belief that alcohol:
   o   tastes good.  it (obviously) doesn’t.  it creates bad breath.
   o   makes one sexier.  it doesn’t.  it makes you smell worse.
   o   makes you a better dancer, etc.  nope.
   o   helps you to relax.
   o   reduces stress, as a good coping tool.  alcohol, of course, increases distress, in soooooooooooooo many ways:
    §  empty calories, fat, and eventual obesity.
    §  reduced quality of sleep.
    §  dehydration.
    §  reduced attractiveness: look around at older alcohol users and smokers.
   o   improves creativity.  really?
   o   Helps you to sleep better.  in Truth, the opposite is true. etc.
 
·       the belief that coffee is necessary.  truth is:
   o   coffee tastes like sh-t, and it gives me coffee breath, which is bad breath.
   o   coffee is consumed with “creamer” (sugar, milk, etc.).
   o   coffee makes one’s teeth turn brown or yellow. that is not sexy!
   o   coffee gives you the jitters!
   o   coffee is just a habit.  it is an addictive habit.
 
don’t believe what people say.  married people (and those who cohabitate) actually look for ways to not have sex or sleep intertwined.  coffee and alcohol serve to make romance less likely!  their own bad breath and body odors serve them… in being a self-rejection (rather than a rejection by their spousal-person)
 
btw: few people will admit any of the above.
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[i] martino, j. (1.2-1.2024). unplugging from beliefs. book 118: night & day Game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us. 

b118 (1.1-1.2024): imagine how much better...

by the end of 2024 [i]
by joal
 
imagine how much better i’d feel, if... by the end of 2024:
 
·       i was back to 185.
·       i had the golden ratio back, due to lifting 6 days per week.
·       i had no beer in the house, did not drink alone, and only drank sips of wine on dates or other potentially romantic situation.
·       if i really, really knew (in my heart) that alcohol and coffee taste like sh--, and they give me bad breath and bad body odor (bad pheromones).  remember how bill s. smelled?
·       if i had learned to line dance… to the point of where i could teach an intro class.
·       if i had a local network (at gaston, at riverfront, at harris teeter, at charlotte singles, etc.
·       if i pumped my testosterone back up.
·       if i had published one, positive book.
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[i] martino, j. (1.1-1.2024). imagine how much better i’d feel. book 118: night & day game. © 2024 by wellnesseducation.us.

b116 (12.29-2.2023): aunt suzie shamed my fembot

aunt suzie shamed my fembot [i]
by double s. tandards
 

alternative title: bad vibrations

 
aunt suzie shamed my fembot when she walked into my room
aunt suzie was disgusted as she peppered me with doom
aunt suzie called me out, she said “misogynist!” “dic-tator!”
aunt suzie didn’t know i’d seen her with her big vibrator
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·       because aunt suzy lives in a world that is, by default, double-standard-esque.
 
·       her vibrator is seen as liberating, but my fembot is seen as disgusting.
 
·       why?
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[i] martino, j. (12.29-2.2023). aunt suzie shamed my fembot. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.29-1.2023): when you're dead...

when you're dead, you’re dead [i]
by a. live & d. ying
 

alternative title: Universal legacy

alternative title: imagine

 
you may have been a martyr or the anti-christ instead
you may have been world-famous, but when you're dead:
 
you’re dead
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·       once you are dead, everyone else (who might have cared) goes on about their own busy day… eating, working and bullsh--ting.
 
·       it doesn’t matter if you are marcus aurelius or mother teresa or m.l.k. or jesus or even a mom.  the simple truth is that few people care enough to investigate your life or your legacy.
 
·       even if someone did care enough to care, they’d only have access to his-story and word-of-mouth blabberings that may (or may not) be true.  they’d never, ever know.  even if they knew, they’d have little time to contemplate.  even if they contemplated…
 
·       even if someone did know/contemplate, and even if they wrote a book about you, few would read it in a way that resulted in awakening or change.  most would go on about their own busy day… eating, working and bullsh--ting.
 
on the other hand, every person who you encounter is somehow affected by that encounter.  in turn, every person who they encounter is affected, so you (in a sense) create ripple-effects that reach-out to people and places that you’ve never even seen nor heard of (or imagined).
 
·       your most important legacy is the way that you treat people, now.  that is how you affect the universe.
 
imagine if you could treat everyone as if s/he was the birth of your own, personal creation.  imagine if you do have a lasting legacy.
 
imagine…
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[i] martino, j. (12.29-1.2023). you’re dead. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.28-2.2023): mermaid in the sand

mermaid in the sand [i]
by show n. tail

 alternative title: man-u-factured

 
mermaid in the sand
not sure what to think
pretty/sure a fake
not even a wink
there are times when beauty is a man-u-fractured dream
mermaid in the sand
life ain’t what it seems…
 
in the sand

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[i] martino, j. (12.28-2.2023). mermaid in the sand. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino. 

b116 (12.28-1.2023): group-errr... sandwich

group-errr… sandwich [i]
by e. n. gendered
 

alternative title: anywhere else but here

 
i ordered grouper sandwich, with bowl of gumbo soup
just then the lines were blurred between what’s boy or girl (or group)
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·       the first thing i noticed was the face of the man who was facing my way, next to the window at the next table.  at times, disgusted.  at times, hateful.  mostly, he just blank-stared out the window.
 
·       he was seated next to (i’d wager) his girlfriend, who was also facing me, but partially hidden by the person who had his/her/their back to me.
 
·       the person in question sported a jet-black buzz-haircut in back, a shaven-head on the right side (with a giant ear-ring), and a colorful (pink & green-ish?) flock of hair on the left.  s/he was overly flamboyant, as mom was hanging on every word while mr. disgusted man couldn’t wait for the un-happy-meal to begin and end.
 
·       it reminded me of when i used to date a gal (who i’ll call ‘kay’) in this very town.  she had a very flamboyant, obnoxious and vulgar gay son (who i’ll call ‘rex’).  i remember times (out dining with them) when i had to sit there and bear it (in exchange for mommy’s companionship and sexual favors).  quite frankly, it sucked.  i know exactly how mr. disgusted-man felt.
 
·       more than once, when kay and i were dating, she was called-away due to an overdose, an arrest, or another rex-threat of suicide.
 
·       years later, i visited town and rented a pontoon boat (for my nephew kenny’s birthday).  his dad (my brother, stephen) wanted to relive a pontoon-boat dolphin experience that we’d had once before.   kay was invited to tag along, and (that morning) she asked if rex could join us.
 
·       one of the greatest moments of my life was when i said “kay, maybe another time.  this is kenny’s day.”  
 
·       it would have been downright repulsive to listen to rex' innuendo, vulgarity, and conversation-stealing persona for 4 hours.
 
looking back, i’m amazed that i put up with one minute of rex’ bulls—t.  i feel for mr. disgusted: trapped in paradise, having dinner with his girlfriend’s obnoxious-flambeau transomething while wishing he was anywhere else but here.
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[i] martino, j. (12.28-1.2023). group-errr… sandwich. book 116: love reigns. © 2023 by joal martino.