b122 (1.25-1.2025): partners should check-in

partners should check-in [i]
by paul artner 
 
the relating game is (maybe) one that we can’t win
if (collaboration)
partners should check-in
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·       this writing began because i’m often repulsed by the fact that my buddies have to “check-in” with their girlfriends or wives before they decide anything.

·       upon further review, it does seem logical that team-mates communicate, inform, and check-in.  imagine partnership without communication.  sailors wouldn’t make it out of (or into) the harbor.

·       so… there is probably a level of “checking-in” that works for a given relationship, and a level of autonomy that works.  a single, autonomous life is different from a cohabitational, co-created experience.

my (momentary) deduction is that my life (for me) is better …with a certain amount of autonomy.  i do check-in, however, prior to making decisions that could affect a partnership, a team, or an organization of people.

i recoil, however, from those who want/need a microscope up my a--.

there’s a balance.  maybe it's not about 'winning' in a relationship.  maybe 'co-betterment' would be a more accurate term.

more to follow...
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[i] martino, j. (1.25-1.2025). partners should check-in. book 122: s[no]w angel. © 2024 by j. martino.