* "you hurt me" (a translation)

"you hurt me!"

it sounds simple enough: "you lied" or "you cheated" (etc., etc.).

if one were being honest, however, here's the translation:

"i'm hurt, because i'm embarrassed."
"i feel hurt, because of my own unrealistic expectations of you."
"i am hurt, because i allowed myself to believe what (obviously) wasn't real."

in many cases, the person who ends-up "hurt," either bought-into society's lies (e.g. "till death do us part.")... or (worse yet)...

"i co-created the deception -- by 
letting a friend/lover/family member know what i wanted to hear."  

none of this is "wrong," per se.  after all, everyone is just trying to live his/her best life.  

we man-i-p-u-late.  
we express needs, wants, desires.

  
we exchange goods (ahem: vaguely).

in the end, all relationships are perfect... as they are the perfect opportunity (for the ego) to learn, to express, and to evolve.

evolution (spelled backwards) is "no-i-to-love."  it is a movement away from the small i, toward the Infinite Is: 

the I Am.