memorize the acronym [i]
by Lenny
mean/yelling, belittling: you are better than that
CBS-O time
memorize the ac
________________________
·
It is time to bring out CBS-O. again, and add an
acronym before it. The goal is to never, ever be less than your best self
(which means nothing less than a B+, even when angry) in your future.
· Whether it is Sandi, or any other future angry situation, come back to center: MY-S[C]IB
o M (for mean). This is simple: don’t be mean (especially in writing).
o Y (for yelling, which really means “raising your voice”): Even though your definition of yelling differs from Sandi’s, she has communicated that “raising your voice” is a challenge for her. It probably would be for others, too. You can still be a man (maybe more of a man) by calmly being assertive and asking questions. Even when she raises her voice. Do not engage. Practice Aikido.
o S (for sarcastic). Especially in writing, do not be sarcastic. Would you want others to be sarcastic to you? Is it effective? That answer is clearly “no.”
o C (for condescending). This one is a little more complex, because Sandi’s triggers may interpret condescension differently. …but it shouldn’t matter. Re-read “S” above, and apply.
o I/TO: I (for interrupting). I/TO (Interrupting, and talking-over). This is for during conversation. It is hard for you to listen quietly when someone is saying something that you vehemently disagree with. This is just one of those cases where you are going to have to be a better man, and wait it out. Take notes, if you wish, but Lenny, you really have to work on this.
o B (for belittling). Lenny, be honest. This is just your 2-year-old self, being ultra-defensive. You are mature, now. See the harm that this causes.
·
Re-read and re-memorize and practice CBS-O.
You want to
be the best man that you can be. It
doesn’t matter if you & Sandi are meant for each other, or not. See Sandi as an angel in this, helping you to
become a better man.
Do it for Sandi,
and do it for Josephine, and do it for yourself. This is an important investment. Begin now.
Practice by
going back to some of Sandi’s most hurtful texts, and read them out loud… as if
she was yelling it at you. Practice
MY-SCIB (which can be thought of as "my sibling") actively. Practice CBS-O. You will become a better man through this
practice.
[i] martino, j. (12.17-1.2022). memorize the acronym. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.
by Lenny
mean/yelling, belittling: you are better than that
CBS-O time
memorize the ac
________________________
· Whether it is Sandi, or any other future angry situation, come back to center: MY-S[C]IB
o M (for mean). This is simple: don’t be mean (especially in writing).
o Y (for yelling, which really means “raising your voice”): Even though your definition of yelling differs from Sandi’s, she has communicated that “raising your voice” is a challenge for her. It probably would be for others, too. You can still be a man (maybe more of a man) by calmly being assertive and asking questions. Even when she raises her voice. Do not engage. Practice Aikido.
o S (for sarcastic). Especially in writing, do not be sarcastic. Would you want others to be sarcastic to you? Is it effective? That answer is clearly “no.”
o C (for condescending). This one is a little more complex, because Sandi’s triggers may interpret condescension differently. …but it shouldn’t matter. Re-read “S” above, and apply.
o I/TO: I (for interrupting). I/TO (Interrupting, and talking-over). This is for during conversation. It is hard for you to listen quietly when someone is saying something that you vehemently disagree with. This is just one of those cases where you are going to have to be a better man, and wait it out. Take notes, if you wish, but Lenny, you really have to work on this.
o B (for belittling). Lenny, be honest. This is just your 2-year-old self, being ultra-defensive. You are mature, now. See the harm that this causes.
[i] martino, j. (12.17-1.2022). memorize the acronym. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.
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