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who/what is a thoet? [i]
by a. thoet
 
a thoet is someone who wears his/her heart on his/her writing-sleeve. 
 
s/he writes and rhymes because s/he cannot not.
 
the “why” is simple: expression.
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[i] martino, j. (2.17-3.2023). who/what is a thoet? book 113: close shave. © 2023 by joal martino.
 
*every bird, every bee, every atom, every tree, everything that is alive, everything here in my life… is expression… (in action).

** here's the Truth: you might be One... yourSelf. :)

b111 (12.21-1.2022): security

security [i]
by s. e. cure
 
security is a thought… a feeling… an idea.  some might call it a lie (that we tell ourselves).  i believe that security is real, so much as we believe in it.
 
when my mother was dying, the medical system made numerous, huge errors.  they began by losing her glasses.  then they lost her teeth.  they (event-u-al-ly) paralyzed her, from the waist, down.  they inserted a breathing tube down her throat, and, when she pulled it out, they strapped her arms down to the hospital bed and shoved it back in.
 
josie was never, ever going to see hell in the afterlife, but the usa medical system put her through it… until death came as a relief.
 
all the while, she felt secure.  secure that her god would save her.  secure that her god would protect her.  secure that her god would do the right thing, by her.  secure that her god was all-loving, all-powerful, all-knowing.  she was secure in jesus, mary and joseph.
 
she was secure… during torture. 
 
strapped-down to a hospital bed, choking on a tube that was taped onto her mouth and down her throat, and unable to see clearly.  thank god for medications.  not.  
 
as a non-believer, i was not as secure as she.  i saw the process as horrifying.  to me, it was legal torture, by an inept american medical system… a system guided by money and greed and regulations -- designed by politicians and paid for by lobbyists who were paid for by those who use a completely different system of medical care. 
 
the fact is, while my experience of it was horror, hers was security… right up until the day that she died.
 
security makes people feel better.  the belief that good things are going to happen is powerful, and that belief probably manifests itself.  obviously, the opposite is true.
 
the secret may be to be secure, while not being a blind-believer.  trust that which has earned your trust.  if you have no choice, and no ability to change your fate, security might be a viable option.
 
relationship security, while similarly flawed, probably affords similar benefits.  it might lead to some better sex, better vacations, and better wedding parties.
 
the problem with blind trust, however, is that, once the house of cards suffers a breach, the whole thing can come crumbling down… leaving the believer feeling stupid, angry and vengeful.
 
the best course of action, for me, right now is:

1.     embrace security and optimism.

2.     simultaneously, embrace critical thinking and reasonable skepticism.

3.     embrace gratitude, for all of those millions of positive experiences (right down to tastes, pleasant scents, orgasmic pressure, elimination, inspirations, etc.).

4.     embrace appreciation, which is gratitude, in the present.

5.     when you have no choice (e.g. when the nuclear detonation is visible and there is nowhere to hide), lie to yourself… and smile at the idea of your own mythological afterlife is going to truly happen.
 
the end.  

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[i] martino, j. (12.21-1.2022). security. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

 

b111 (12.19-1.2022): bright shadows in my past

bright shadows in my past [i]
by a. rhino
 
bright shadows in my past
no way they’d ever last
except that they still do
whenever i think of you…

…and me

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·        it seems soooooo easy to forget the names and the games and the times that made us who we are today.
 
·        and while there are shadows in the past, each one was meant to last – showing me a brighter day.
 
·        it’s okay to get down and to shame and to blame but at the end of the day you’re still the same so maybe we can look back from where we came….
 
·        because every single moment and every single time and every single rhythm and every single rhyme and every single hug and every single kiss and every single everything brought us here to this…
 
·        so it doesn’t take much to shift the way that we look at those shadows, today, and maybe we just might just may… see them as brightness.

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[i] martino, j. (12.19-1.2022). bright shadows in my past. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

  

b111 (12.17-1.2022): just cancel the aloft

just cancel the aloft [i]
by imapin k. r. hino
 
just cancel the aloft
just cancel the below
just cancel christmas, cancel plans and cancel the big show

just cancel fun, just cancel (one): as hard turns into soft
just cancel everything
just cancel the aloft
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·        somebody is going to hate me forever… but (this time) i’ll be ready for it. 
 

 

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[i] martino, j. (12.17-1.2022). just cancel the aloft. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

  

memorize the ac

memorize the acronym [i]
by Lenny
 
mean/yelling, belittling: you are better than that
CBS-O time
memorize the ac
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·        It is time to bring out CBS-O. again, and add an acronym before it. The goal is to never, ever be less than your best self (which means nothing less than a B+, even when angry) in your future.
·        Whether it is Sandi, or any other future angry situation, come back to center: MY-S[C]IB
   o   M (for mean). This is simple: don’t be mean (especially in writing).
   o   Y (for yelling, which really means “raising your voice”): Even though your definition of yelling differs from Sandi’s, she has communicated that “raising your voice” is a challenge for her.  It probably would be for others, too.  You can still be a man (maybe more of a man) by calmly being assertive and asking questions.  Even when she raises her voice.  Do not engage.  Practice Aikido.
   o   S (for sarcastic).  Especially in writing, do not be sarcastic.  Would you want others to be sarcastic to you?  Is it effective?  That answer is clearly “no.”
   o   C (for condescending). This one is a little more complex, because Sandi’s triggers may interpret condescension differently.  …but it shouldn’t matter.  Re-read “S” above, and apply.
   o   I/TO: I (for interrupting). I/TO (Interrupting, and talking-over).  This is for during conversation.  It is hard for you to listen quietly when someone is saying something that you vehemently disagree with.  This is just one of those cases where you are going to have to be a better man, and wait it out.  Take notes, if you wish, but Lenny, you really have to work on this.
   o   B (for belittling).  Lenny, be honest.  This is just your 2-year-old self, being ultra-defensive. You are mature, now.  See the harm that this causes.  
 
·        Re-read and re-memorize and practice CBS-O.
 
You want to be the best man that you can be.  It doesn’t matter if you & Sandi are meant for each other, or not.  See Sandi as an angel in this, helping you to become a better man.
 
Do it for Sandi, and do it for Josephine, and do it for yourself.  This is an important investment.  Begin now. 
 
Practice by going back to some of Sandi’s most hurtful texts, and read them out loud… as if she was yelling it at you.  Practice MY-SCIB (which can be thought of as "my sibling") actively.  Practice CBS-O.  You will become a better man through this practice.

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[i] martino, j. (12.17-1.2022). memorize the acronym. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

  

b111 (12.16-1.2022): pink rhino didn't work

she hung-up on me (again) [i]
by ina mia image
 
pink rhino didn’t work
why do we pretend
she called me a jerk and she hung-up on me (again)
________________________
 
·        in her defense, we were 1-1 on hang-ups.

·        relating to her is ultra-complicated.  making plans (or getting a dependable handle on what is going to happen in our future) depends upon multiple factors: pets, work, children, and well-being.  it doesn’t feel mutual, coordinated, synchronistic, or easy.
 
at times, it feels like we are attempting to fit a round peg in a square hole.  at other times, we fit like a glove.
 
the challenges (above), however, are not going away. 

 

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[i] martino, j. (12.16-1.2022). she hung-up on me (again). book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

  

she hung-up on me (again)

she hung-up on me (again) [i]
by ima r. h. ino
 
pink rhino didn’t work
why do we pretend
she called me a jerk and she hung-up on me (again)
________________________
 
·        in her defense, we were 1-1 on hang-ups.

·        relating to sandi is ultra-complicated.  making plans (or getting a dependable handle on what is going to happen in our future) depends upon multiple factors: pets, work, children, and well-being.  it doesn’t feel mutual, coordinated, synchronistic, or easy.
 
at times, it feels like we are attempting to fit a round peg in a square hole.  at other times, we fit like a glove.
 
the challenges (above), however, are not going away. 

 

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[i] martino, j. (12.16-1.2022). she hung-up on me (again). book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

  

to churn-out more of you

to churn-out more of you [i]
by ina mia image
 
this might seem a tad simple
the real golden rule:
that living things (one mission: sing!)
to churn-out more of you
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·        from a cell, to cohesive tissues, to unified systems, to be-ings… life seeks to replicate /express itself (e.g. to re-produce, in its own image).

·        when its own images fails, or when some variant or mutation enhances life’s self-image, it then life will seek to reproduce its newer, more improved self.

·        this isn’t rocket science.  

from moms, to fish-farms, to men with lethal bombs… 

life’s main drive is survival.

·        the jury is out on whether we breathe and eat and drink to reproduce (survival of self in order to propagate the species), or whether reproduction itself (species survival) is the reason why we breathe and drink and eat…  and establish the territory to do more of the above.
 
even the artist (who has no desire for children) seeks to create, to express, to extend-her-self.

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[i] martino, j. (12.14-1.2022). to churn-out more of you. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

 

b111 (12.14-1.2022): to churn-out more of you

to churn-out more of you [i]
by ina mia image
 
this might seem a tad simple
the real golden rule:
that living things (one mission: sing!)
to churn-out more of you
________________________
 
·        from a cell, to cohesive tissues, to unified systems, to be-ings… life seeks to replicate itself (e.g. to re-produce, in its own image).

·        when its own images fails, or when some variant or mutation enhances life’s self-image, it then life will seek to reproduce its newer, more improved self.

·        this isn’t rocket science.  from moms, to fish-farms, to men with lethal bombs… life’s main drive is survival.

·        the jury is out on whether we breathe and eat and drink to reproduce (survival of self in order to propagate the species), or whether reproduction itself (species survival) is the reason why we breathe and drink and eat…       …and establish the territory to do more of the above.
 
even the artist (who has no desire for children) seeks to create, to express, to extend-her-self.

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[i] martino, j. (12.14-1.2022). to churn-out more of you. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

 

 

  

b111 (12.13-1.2022): what is in your cage?

what is in your cage? [i]
by ima ina yourcage
 
what is in your cage?
what is in your home?
what is in your state?
what is in your norm?
 
what is in your mind, could you be your own guru/sage?
what is in your room?
what is in your cage?
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the idea is that “addiction” or “attachment” is more about bonding than chemical dependency.  it’s about what is in your cage (environment), and involvement versus isolation.

 

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[i] inspired by one of the videos that are embedded in this article: https://owlcation.com/humanities/Why-Do-People-Convert-to-Religion
 
martino, j. (12.13-1.2022). what is in your cage? book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

  

b111 (12.8-1.2022): own your own momentum

own your own momentum [i] 

by a. rhino
 
own your own momentum
find your o[w]nly way
own your own momentum (don’t concern yourself with they)
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·        since we can’t manifest in someone else’s universe, it is important to focus on our own.
 
·        since we are (apparently) sharing our universe with others, our focus (on our own momentum) should take them into consideration.
 
·        the trick is to care for someone without expecting them to curtail their own momentum… for you.
 
·        if that is what they choose to do, congratulations!  you happen to be the lucky beneficiary of them, owning their own.

 

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[i] martino, j. (12.8-1.2022). own your own momentum. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

  

own your own momentum

own your own momentum  [i]
by a. rhino
 
own your own momentum
find your o[w]nly way
own your own momentum (don’t concern yourself with they)
________________________
 
·        since we can’t manifest in someone else’s universe, it is important to focus on our own.
 
·        since we are (apparently) sharing our universe with others, our focus (on our own momentum) should take them into consideration.
 
·        the trick is to care for someone without expecting them to curtail their own momentum… for you.
 
·        if that is what they choose to do, congratulations!  you happen to be the lucky beneficiary of them, owning their own.

 

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[i] martino, j. (12.8-1.2022). own your own momentum. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

 

"there never was an apple that wasn't worth the trouble you got into for eating it"

“there never was an apple that wasn’t worth the trouble you got into for eating it” [i]
by g∞d omens
 
when it comes to eating, trouble, apples, expectations
when there’s those with their fruit-full agenda (co-relations)
when you just don’t mesh with your society and rules
when we all get mad (and sad) on this, a ship of fools
________________________
 
·        Be-Cause the fun is in the eating of the forbidden fruit.
·        Be-Cause the IS, in all of H/ER IS-ness, lives through the prosthetic journey of atoms, tissues, organs, systems, animals and you-mans… Be-ing.
 
because life itself is lived through its sense-sations.
 
because trees are just treeing.

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[i] -this is a quote from episode 6, good omens, on amazon prime.
 
martino, j. (12.7-1.2022). “there never was an apple that wasn’t worth the trouble you got into for eating it." book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

  

b111 (12.7-1.2022): "there never was an apple..."

“there never was an apple that wasn’t worth the trouble you got into for eating it” [i]
by g∞d omens
 
when it comes to eating, trouble, apples, expectations
when there’s those with their fruit-full agenda (co-relations)
when you just don’t mesh with your society and rules
when we all get mad (and sad) on this, a ship of fools
________________________
 
·        Be-Cause the fun is in the eating of the forbidden fruit.
·        Be-Cause the IS, in all of H/ER IS-ness, lives through the prosthetic journey of atoms, tissues, organs, systems, animals and you-mans… Be-ing.
 
because life itself is lived through its sense-sations.
 
because trees are just treeing.

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-[i] this is a quote from episode 6, good omens, on amazon prime.
 
martino, j. (12.7-1.2022). “there never was an apple that wasn’t worth the trouble you got into for eating it. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

  

pink rhino

pink rhino

by a. rhino
 
pink rhino sets the stage
pink rhino calms the rain
pink rhino changes fear into aware (in times of pain)
 
pink rhino thinks (communication), co-relation, smile
pink rhino turns the darkness into dawn:
 
pink rhino style
______________________
 
·       “pink rhino” is the term that my partner and i use in times of disagreement, argument and miscommunication – when one of us wakes-up first (and seeks non-escalation).

·       once the pink rhino mantra is uttered, we both can shift… away from being “right” (and towards more of a loving response-ability).

·       “pink” represents the feminine: love, kindness, meekness, empathy and connection… while the rhino represents strength, assertiveness, power and (unfortunately) extinction.
 
it doesn’t matter whether it is she or i who awaken first.  just the vision of pink rhino can transform heated emotion into objective co-relation.
 
the idea is to use pink rhino as a cue, a stop-and-shift, and a means of righting a ship that has (moment-arily) lost its way.
 
pink rhino saves the day.
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martino, j. (12.6-1.2022). pink rhino. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.

*in both the drawing and the framed matting, gaston college colors (blue and yellow) are used to compliment and connect the pink rhino to its source: the Loving-energy that permeates all things.  

b111 (12.3-1.2022): f[h]is[h]stories

f[h]is[h]stories
by a. storytella
 
stories told (round campfires!) ...by fishermen and sages
stories told by word-of-mouth (by men) throughout the ages
men of power win (and then they write the his-stories)
take a look within:
it’s just fish stories
______________________
 
·       men exaggerated the fish stories, and (in some cases) just made them up!

·       like santa claus in winter… men just made them up!

·       …but… somewhere along the line, men of power found that they could garner even more power by getting the masses to believe.

·       believers are easily led, don’t question authority, and take sundays off.
 
you can tell a whopper of a story... and your culted followers will find a way to make-up their-stories (e.g. excuses) for how the story is, in fact, true.
 
  watch politicians.
    watch the super-rich.
      follow the money-trail.
 
in the end, it’s all just fish stories.
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martino, j. (12.3-1.2022). f[h]is[h]stories. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.  

parents lie to kids

parents lie to kids

by a. kidd

 

“santa’s gonna punish you for naughty things you did!”

“god is on our side”

parents lie to kids

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·         it is nothing short of child abuse… when parents download their cult-ic software onto their kids’ hard drives: open, receptive, captivated, unassuming hard drives.

 

·         dressing your kid in your college colors is one thing, but…

 
old, white-bearded white-men who patrol the skies and see you – even when you’re sleeping?
…and… if you don’t believe… you’ll spend eternity in a fire-pit of torture with “the devil”?
 

·         most of the problems in this world can be boiled-down to two things: culted parents. 

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martino.j (11.2.1-1.2022). parents lie to kids. book 111: Love IS. © 2022. wellnesseducation.us.

b111 (12.1-1.2022): f[h]is[h]-story

f[h]is[h]-stories
by a. storytella
 
stories told (round campfires!)
by fishermen and sages
stories told by word of mouth (by men) throughout the ages
men of power win and then they write the his-stories
take a look within:
it’s just f[h]is[h]story
______________________
 
·       men told some fish stories.

·       then, men exaggerated the fish stories, and (in some cases) just made them up!
   o   like santa claus in winter… men just made them up!

·       then, men translated and edited the stories.
   o   they changed the stories!

·       …and… somewhere along the line, men of power found that they could garner even more power by getting the masses to believe.

·       believers are easily led: they don’t question authority, and they take sundays off.
 
you can tell a whopper of a story... and your culted followers will find a way to make-up their-stories (excuses) for how the story is, in fact, true.
 
watch politicians.
 
watch the super-rich.
 
watch those who want to control you.
 
follow the money-trail.
 
in the end, it’s all just fish stories.
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martino, j. (12.1-1.2022). f[h]is[h]story. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.