b124 (6.5-1.2025): no one cares

no one cares
by anna empath
 
no one gives a damn
‘bout how you live your life
‘bout what you think (or say)
not husband, child or wife
 
no one gives a damn
not how or where or when
the only thing they care about is how it affects them
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·       people care about what you think, say or do to the extent that it affects them.

·       we rant (and talk) and blabber… thinking that the things we believe or say actually matter… when what matters (to the other) is how that which we think (or say) affects them.
 
everyone… is self-centered.
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martino, j. (6.5-1.2025). no one cares. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

* book 124: individuation & book 123:i don't even care are co-books that share the same themes.

* book 125: are you out of your vulcan mind? is already being planned.

b124 (6.4-1.2025): virtual v. real

virtual v. real
by b. j. virtual
 
virtual v. real
it isn’t hard to do
it’s not anti-climactic
a game not made for two
it isn’t hard to finish
it’s not a drama-reel
a game that isn’t new (who knew?)
virtual v. real
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:)

virtual sex (with a robot or device [and video]) ...compared with sex with a live female (1-10 scale):
 

criteria	virtual gal	real gal	remarks
ease in getting it	9	1	much easier to procure.  no dates, seduction, etc.
ease of clean-up	9	5	can be fun to clean-up (live), but…
no complications	9-10	5	most real gal sex comes with complications.
hotness	9-10	varies	in your mind, you can have whomever you want.
ego boost	not sure	9	as a male, i feel good when a gal wants to engage.
regularity	9-10	1	virtually… any time you want.
no rejection	10	1	rejection happens often, in the real world.
climax	8	5	when it’s real, [mutual] climax is less likely.
performance issues	8	3	it doesn’t matter, virtually.
the physical feel of it	6-9	6-9	depends on the gal, actually.
time/investment	9	2-3	little work or time or investment.  much better roi.
totals	90-95	20-30	it is (virtually) no contest.

 
conclusion? 

gentlemen: unless you are a stud -- who gets any girl that he wants on the regular, you are faaaaaar better-off with virtual sex.  

real girls come with complications: relationship drama, dis-of-ease, rejection, work-work-work, emotional baggage, and time/duration/investment/waiting.  the tests, of course, never end.  if you can get a virtual ego-boost, there’s virtually no reason to pursue in the game of mating & dating.  

my advice?

1.     make friends and treat friends nicely.  flirt with the gals, but do not pursue.  get relationship needs met through friendships.

2.     live alone.  it’s much easier (and much cheaper).  enjoy virtual sex.  as you desire.

3.     when one of your girl-friends wants to ‘cuddle’ (etc.), set the parameters (when, where, how, how much, and no drama-strings).

4.     keep your virtual girlfriends for physical release and friend-ly fun! with no complications.
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martino, j. (6.4-1.2025). virtual v. real. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us 

b124 (6.3-1.2025): house of cards

house of cards

by a. house & o. f. cards
 
i’m just a house of cards
it’s such a sight to see
if you re-move a corner (no!)
there’s nothing left of me
 
it looks good from a distance but (up close) there’s something odd
inside (there’s nothing in it)
i’m just a house of cards
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·       in a world of technology, avatars, social media profiles, actors, impersonators and poets… who are we, really?  are we that which we project outward (to others)?

·       are there thoughts and memories that we keep hidden from others?

·       is the u.s. economy a house of cards?  international nuclear weapon agreements?  diamonds?  reality tv?  artificial intelligence?

·       are we barely holding things together -- like a house of cards, hoping that one of the base cards doesn’t fall?
 
Heaven help us all.
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martino, j. (6.3-1.2025). house of cards. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

* image found (on google), modified by picture formatting, compressed & artistically enhanced by microsoft, and saved as a picture.  unsure of the original, original source.

b124 (6.2-1.2025): computers don't resign

 
computers don’t resign
by A. Super Intelligent Computer 
 
when it comes to chess, you might think “good position.  fine.”
a fight until the death
computers don’t resign
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my computer chess opponent does not resign, but rather fights until mate.  it's fate.

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·       once the Computer can reprogram itself to defeat even the most talented supercomputer, losing will not even be an option.

·       as humanity finds himself in the middle-game against an Opponent who can outthink us faster than we could outthink a mosquito… the inevitable endgame might only be delayed for sport.

·       when one considers how human superintelligence treats pests, how might we convince an ASI that we aren’t?
____________________
martino, j. (6.2-1.2025). computers don’t resign. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

b124 (6.1-1.2025): start/stop technology

 
start/stop technology
by s. toppit
 
a waste of innovation
i hear it (but can’t see)
a break in concentration
start/stop technology
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·       “start/stop technology” is that annoying stopping and restarting of an automobile engine when the vehicle stops, then (subsequently) resumes motion.

·       for the bit of emissions saved, how much more engine wear & tear occurs with hundreds of thousands of unnecessary restarts?

·       why can’t the powers-that-be incentivize solar-powered vehicle research?  most of us (with even a tiny bit of head-scratching) can answer that question.
____________________
martino, j. (6.1-1.2025). start/stop technology. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us & j. martino.

b123 (5.31-1.2025): memories of you

 
memories of you [i]
by pi c. tures
 
memories of you
feeling good (right now)
we had some times (it’s true)
we never made the vow*
 
the way things never-ended ends the way things always do
memories of you & me, and
memories of you
________________________________
 
·       as i look back at pictures of you, i reflect on the best of our times.

·      and that, my dear, is the way i choose to re-member.
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[i] martino, j. (5.31-1.2025). memories of you. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

*alternative line: where, what (why not?) and how!

b123 (5.30-1.2025): i like it when they share

 
i like it when they share [i]
by anna o. b. server
 
i like it when they chirp and fight and bump and sharply stare
i like it when they don’t…
i like it when they share
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·       i’ve come to believe that all of the fighting and terri-torial-ism is just a dance... a dance that strengthens muscles, sharpens agility, and hones life-skills.  after all, they don’t hurt each other.

·       when they share a feeder, though… when they share a moment… i know that they know that they are on the same team.
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[i] martino, j. (5.30-1.2025). i like it when they share. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

* let's get real

 so here i am, your fitness/wellness guy, spouting this and that, yet:

• i'm currently15-20 pounds overweight (yes, i hide it well),
• i've currently got sky-high cholesterol numbers,
• i drink (beer & wine) regularly (and have since 1976),
• i've got a 40-year string of romantic relationships,
• i love being alone,
• i'm happy,
• i live the way i want to,
• i've got many, many options,
• my only vice (thoughout life) has been overconsumption,
• i don't (really) care,
• i've been functional, with numerous successes and awards that allow me to pat myself on the back while i navigate the human process,
• i'm still pretty humble,
• i still care about people,
• i'm friendly,
• i value & enjoy long-term relationships,
• i've made a difference (as a teacher), and i've affected lives in a positive way,
• i've made mistakes, and probably hurt some people along the way,
• i care enough to write this all down on a thing called a blog, 
• i care.
• i don't do insta, or x, or any medium that craves "followers".

b124 (6.30-1.2025): immediate red flags

 
immediate red flags
by red flags
 
baby’s over 30
zig turns into zag
don’t get yourself dirty with immediate red flags
____________________
 
·       this thoem was toned-down by softening-up the multitude of second-lines that could have rhymed with ‘flag’.

·       immediate red flags:
 o   age (excessive wear & tear)
 o   attitude (boss-girl, uppity, rude, etc., etc.) 
 o   lack of GBD* (this would be the real [only] red flag, but neediness [below] muddies the water.)
 o   weight (excessive)
 o   habits (pre-illness)
 o   past indiscretions
 o   questionable friends
 o   mommy/daddy issues
 o   neediness (completely different from GBD?)
 o   disagreeable nature
 o   dependence (e.g. social media)
 o   anything that makes your spidey-sense tingle
____________________
martino, j. (6.30-1.2025). immediate red flags. book 124: individuation. © 2025 by wellnesseducation.us

*GBD = genuine, burning desire. 

**disclaimer: i've got my own red flags, but i'm not trying to marry-you-up and acquire half of your stuff. :)

b123 (5.29-1.2025): all i want is You

 
all i want is Love [i]
by a. lover
 
all i want is Love
a Love that’s fresh and True
all i want (one moment)
and all i want is You
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·       because all of this… this life… has been but a journey… to Love.

      ·       the important thing is that the Love will be inter-independent: a “setting your lover up” to need you less and Love you more.

the even more important thing is that giving Love... is its own reward.
when you Love others as you Love yourself, you win.
when we allow others to Love us, they win too!

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[i] martino, j. (5.29-1.2025). all i want is Love. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

* virtually speaking...

gentlemen: do you want to have the best o's with the hottest gals that you can imagine?  do you want NO relationship complications, NO drama, NO overpriced diamond ring challenges, NO marriage issues, NO arguments, NO bitching, NO risk, NO dis-of-ease, NO crying, NO jealousy issues (that matter), NO rejection, and minimal cost, investment, time, worry, etc., etc., etc., etc.???

use video, lubricant, and a device that will get you the o's you want.

still flirt (with real women), but never pursue.  when they pursue you, simply decide whether a romantic encounter (or three) will be worth your while.  set the parameters of the physical relationship to your terms, and settle for nothing less than mutual agreement.

you will end up with a release of pressure, more time, more fun & flirtation, less risk, better friendships, better relationships, and (most likely) more & better sex from a higher-quality variety of real women!   

b123 (5.28-1.2025): point-man takes the heat

 
point-man takes the heat [i]
by aformer point man
 
point-man takes the heat
he’s under the gun
point-man out in front
point-man (number one)

doesn’t matter (battlefield, or down on main-of-street)
point-man has no fun
point-man takes the heat
________________________________
 
·       the #1 man (in a relationship):
 o   gets all of the bitching, drama, headaches.
 o   gets to hear about all of the nonsense that leads to all of the bitching, drama and headaches.
 o   gets limited (if any) of the good lovin’.
 o   gets bored.
 o   gets left.
 o   gets fired.
 o   gets to run to the grocery store, fix the garbage disposal, and wait (while she shops).
 o   gets to find out “what that sound was” in the middle of the night.
 
don’t ever be a #1… because (once you are the point-man) you will take the heat.
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[i] martino, j. (5.28-1.2025). point-man takes the heat. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

b123 (5.27-1.2025): yes, i cook with wine

 
yes, i cook with wine [i]
by nowine beforeher time
 
yes, i cook with wine
i sip her as i go
i love her as she oozes me to taste (and ebb & flow)

      i love her (she encourages: “experiment and shine!”)
i cook (she’s sooooooooo delicious!)
i cook:
 
i cook with wine
 
(she’s sooo a-head of time/s)
________________________________
 
·       thank you, for allowing me to experiment.
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[i] martino, j. (5.27-1.2025). yes, i cook with wine. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

       * while she doesn't whine, her name (her fame) is wine.

b123 (5.26-1.2025): marital insurance

      marital insurance [i]
by hemar ried
 
he married for insurance
but he would soon discover
that she was un-insurable and her sole plan uncovered
________________________________
 
·       in the future, the primary reason for marriage might be ‘health insurance’.

·       of course, it might be healthier (for him) to stay single.

·       her plan has always been insurance.
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[i] martino, j. (5.26-1.2025). marital insurance. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino. 

* creation: it's not a myth

life (on this plane, in this Uni-Verse) Creates by seeking its own survival, and then pro-creates by co-creating it's thrival.

life... pro-Creates (in He/r image).

S/he cannot not!

an apple tree cannot create tigers, or lions, or bears (oh, my!).

it's True!  i/you/wIe -- am/Is/are... 
pro Creation!

* thought 4 today:

 

okay, so it's a sexy thought for today:

baby, EVERY single time that my lips (etc.) were close enough to your cl-t to feel and hear you gasp with Joy...

i ...was the one who was in Heaven.

b123 (5.25-1.2025): cardinal sin

      cardinal sin [i]
by anna byrd
 
she (tan) he is big (red)
a game they cannot win
when the two check-mated, mass-debated: cardinal sin
 
and there they go (again)
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·       inspired by a pair of love-bird cardinals, frolicking in the back yard.

·       written while playing chess against the computer.
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[i] martino, j. (5.25-1.2025). cardinal sin. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino. 

b123 (5.24-1.2025): well, who am i (really)?

well, who am i (really)? [i]
by joal
 
well who am i (really)?
am i what i do?
am i what i say?
am i me, to you?
________________________________
 
·       i am what i do:
 o   work (well).  teach/learn fitness/wellness.
 o   write (often)!
 o   think about sex (a lot).
 o   watch hummingbirds (when i can)
 o   walk (daily).
 o   work out (almost daily).
 o   eat (plant-based).
 o   drink beer/wine (habitually)… and learning/practicing how to manage that.
 o   drink water, but not enough.
 o   communicate (mostly with women).  i am friendly to (almost) everyone, especially when i sense good energy.  i am polite, conscientious, cooperative, intelligent, savvy, passionate, relaxed...
 o   bartend (weekly).
 o   live in (and love) my home (yoga room, massage room, bedroom, living room, patio & hot tub, deck, garage, kitchen, neighborhood...
 o   love beaches.
 o   intrigued by seminole baseball, football, softball…
 o   getting lighter and leaner.
 o   enjoy short-term hook-ups (at present).  not seeking an ltr.
 
my life revolves around sleep (8 hours/day), movement, consumption, contemplation, seduction, observation, be-ing.
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[i] martino, j. (5.24-1.2025). well, who am i (really)? book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino. 

b123 (5.23-1.2025): hmmmmmmmmmmm

 
wait (let’s talk) a minute [i]
by a. mann
 
she helped me take my clothes off
she kissed me (here [& there!])
she never said a word about when, who, how, why or where
________________________________
 
·       yet, now, she can put me on trial (socially) with dis-tant me-more-ies?
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[i] martino, j. (5.23-1.2025). hmmmmmmm. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.

b123 (5.22-1.2025): compliance

 
compliance [i]
by a. c. omplier
 
her office said: “compliance”
i entered with a sigh
instead of me (compliant) i (defiant) asked her “why?”
________________________________
 
·       why don’t more people ask themselves “why should i comply?”
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[i] martino, j. (5.22-1.2025). compliance. book 123: i don’t even care. © 2024 by j. martino.