peaceful ocean moon

peaceful ocean moon [i]

by a. son
 
gentle ocean breeze (can’t get enough of you, too soon)
you put me at ease
peaceful ocean moon

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[i] martino, j. (1.4-1.2023). peaceful ocean moon.  book 112: happy new year. © 2023 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

 

b112 (1/3/2023): peaceful ocean moon

peaceful ocean moon [i]
by a. son

gentle ocean breeze (can’t get enough of you, too soon)
you put me at ease
peaceful ocean moon

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[i] martino, j. (1.3-1.2023). peaceful ocean moon.  book 112: happy new year. © 2023 by joal martino. 

* background page 5 (who/what is a thoet?)

who/what is a thoet? [i]
by a. thoet
 
a thoet is someone who wears his/her heart on his/her writing-sleeve. 
 
s/he writes and rhymes because s/he cannot not.
 
the “why” is simple: expression.
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[i] martino, j. (2.17-3.2023). who/what is a thoet? book 113: close shave. © 2023 by joal martino.
 
*every bird, every bee, every atom, every tree, everything that is alive, everything here in my life… is expression… (in action).

** here's the Truth: you might be One... yourSelf. :)

b111 (12.21-1.2022): security

security [i]
by s. e. cure
 
security is a thought… a feeling… an idea.  some might call it a lie (that we tell ourselves).  i believe that security is real, so much as we believe in it.
 
when my mother was dying, the medical system made numerous, huge errors.  they began by losing her glasses.  then they lost her teeth.  they (event-u-al-ly) paralyzed her, from the waist, down.  they inserted a breathing tube down her throat, and, when she pulled it out, they strapped her arms down to the hospital bed and shoved it back in.
 
josie was never, ever going to see hell in the afterlife, but the usa medical system put her through it… until death came as a relief.
 
all the while, she felt secure.  secure that her god would save her.  secure that her god would protect her.  secure that her god would do the right thing, by her.  secure that her god was all-loving, all-powerful, all-knowing.  she was secure in jesus, mary and joseph.
 
she was secure… during torture. 
 
strapped-down to a hospital bed, choking on a tube that was taped onto her mouth and down her throat, and unable to see clearly.  thank god for medications.  not.  
 
as a non-believer, i was not as secure as she.  i saw the process as horrifying.  to me, it was legal torture, by an inept american medical system… a system guided by money and greed and regulations -- designed by politicians and paid for by lobbyists who were paid for by those who use a completely different system of medical care. 
 
the fact is, while my experience of it was horror, hers was security… right up until the day that she died.
 
security makes people feel better.  the belief that good things are going to happen is powerful, and that belief probably manifests itself.  obviously, the opposite is true.
 
the secret may be to be secure, while not being a blind-believer.  trust that which has earned your trust.  if you have no choice, and no ability to change your fate, security might be a viable option.
 
relationship security, while similarly flawed, probably affords similar benefits.  it might lead to some better sex, better vacations, and better wedding parties.
 
the problem with blind trust, however, is that, once the house of cards suffers a breach, the whole thing can come crumbling down… leaving the believer feeling stupid, angry and vengeful.
 
the best course of action, for me, right now is:

1.     embrace security and optimism.

2.     simultaneously, embrace critical thinking and reasonable skepticism.

3.     embrace gratitude, for all of those millions of positive experiences (right down to tastes, pleasant scents, orgasmic pressure, elimination, inspirations, etc.).

4.     embrace appreciation, which is gratitude, in the present.

5.     when you have no choice (e.g. when the nuclear detonation is visible and there is nowhere to hide), lie to yourself… and smile at the idea of your own mythological afterlife is going to truly happen.
 
the end.  

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[i] martino, j. (12.21-1.2022). security. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

 

b111 (12.19-1.2022): bright shadows in my past

bright shadows in my past [i]
by a. rhino
 
bright shadows in my past
no way they’d ever last
except that they still do
whenever i think of you…

…and me

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·        it seems soooooo easy to forget the names and the games and the times that made us who we are today.
 
·        and while there are shadows in the past, each one was meant to last – showing me a brighter day.
 
·        it’s okay to get down and to shame and to blame but at the end of the day you’re still the same so maybe we can look back from where we came….
 
·        because every single moment and every single time and every single rhythm and every single rhyme and every single hug and every single kiss and every single everything brought us here to this…
 
·        so it doesn’t take much to shift the way that we look at those shadows, today, and maybe we just might just may… see them as brightness.

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[i] martino, j. (12.19-1.2022). bright shadows in my past. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

  

b111 (12.17-1.2022): just cancel the aloft

just cancel the aloft [i]
by imapin k. r. hino
 
just cancel the aloft
just cancel the below
just cancel christmas, cancel plans and cancel the big show

just cancel fun, just cancel (one): as hard turns into soft
just cancel everything
just cancel the aloft
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·        somebody is going to hate me forever… but (this time) i’ll be ready for it. 
 

 

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[i] martino, j. (12.17-1.2022). just cancel the aloft. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

  

memorize the ac

memorize the acronym [i]
by Lenny
 
mean/yelling, belittling: you are better than that
CBS-O time
memorize the ac
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·        It is time to bring out CBS-O. again, and add an acronym before it. The goal is to never, ever be less than your best self (which means nothing less than a B+, even when angry) in your future.
·        Whether it is Sandi, or any other future angry situation, come back to center: MY-S[C]IB
   o   M (for mean). This is simple: don’t be mean (especially in writing).
   o   Y (for yelling, which really means “raising your voice”): Even though your definition of yelling differs from Sandi’s, she has communicated that “raising your voice” is a challenge for her.  It probably would be for others, too.  You can still be a man (maybe more of a man) by calmly being assertive and asking questions.  Even when she raises her voice.  Do not engage.  Practice Aikido.
   o   S (for sarcastic).  Especially in writing, do not be sarcastic.  Would you want others to be sarcastic to you?  Is it effective?  That answer is clearly “no.”
   o   C (for condescending). This one is a little more complex, because Sandi’s triggers may interpret condescension differently.  …but it shouldn’t matter.  Re-read “S” above, and apply.
   o   I/TO: I (for interrupting). I/TO (Interrupting, and talking-over).  This is for during conversation.  It is hard for you to listen quietly when someone is saying something that you vehemently disagree with.  This is just one of those cases where you are going to have to be a better man, and wait it out.  Take notes, if you wish, but Lenny, you really have to work on this.
   o   B (for belittling).  Lenny, be honest.  This is just your 2-year-old self, being ultra-defensive. You are mature, now.  See the harm that this causes.  
 
·        Re-read and re-memorize and practice CBS-O.
 
You want to be the best man that you can be.  It doesn’t matter if you & Sandi are meant for each other, or not.  See Sandi as an angel in this, helping you to become a better man.
 
Do it for Sandi, and do it for Josephine, and do it for yourself.  This is an important investment.  Begin now. 
 
Practice by going back to some of Sandi’s most hurtful texts, and read them out loud… as if she was yelling it at you.  Practice MY-SCIB (which can be thought of as "my sibling") actively.  Practice CBS-O.  You will become a better man through this practice.

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[i] martino, j. (12.17-1.2022). memorize the acronym. book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

  

b111 (12.16-1.2022): pink rhino didn't work

she hung-up on me (again) [i]
by ina mia image
 
pink rhino didn’t work
why do we pretend
she called me a jerk and she hung-up on me (again)
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·        in her defense, we were 1-1 on hang-ups.

·        relating to her is ultra-complicated.  making plans (or getting a dependable handle on what is going to happen in our future) depends upon multiple factors: pets, work, children, and well-being.  it doesn’t feel mutual, coordinated, synchronistic, or easy.
 
at times, it feels like we are attempting to fit a round peg in a square hole.  at other times, we fit like a glove.
 
the challenges (above), however, are not going away. 

 

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[i] martino, j. (12.16-1.2022). she hung-up on me (again). book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us. 

 

  

she hung-up on me (again)

she hung-up on me (again) [i]
by ima r. h. ino
 
pink rhino didn’t work
why do we pretend
she called me a jerk and she hung-up on me (again)
________________________
 
·        in her defense, we were 1-1 on hang-ups.

·        relating to sandi is ultra-complicated.  making plans (or getting a dependable handle on what is going to happen in our future) depends upon multiple factors: pets, work, children, and well-being.  it doesn’t feel mutual, coordinated, synchronistic, or easy.
 
at times, it feels like we are attempting to fit a round peg in a square hole.  at other times, we fit like a glove.
 
the challenges (above), however, are not going away. 

 

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[i] martino, j. (12.16-1.2022). she hung-up on me (again). book 111: Love IS. © 2022 by wellnesseducation.us.