* amazingness

after all these years, it is still startlingly amazing that u.s.a. citizens can be baited into black-white (us-them, democrat-republican, fox-msnbc) mindsets that (due to confirmation bias) do not allow for objectivity.

people can watch the exact same 'masters' (debating), yet see two completely different results... reinforced by their biased tv personalities (who, truth be told, care about the click and not the truth).

* no more lost & found

"we're soooo sorry, ma'am, but that department's been shut down.

at this point in time, there is no more lost & found." 

b75 (2.26-1.2015): "losing your virginity" (is a misnomer)

‘losing’ your virginity (is a misnomer) [i]
by l. ostinspace

mary was a virgin (right?)
so, unto this day
people use ‘virginity’ in self-obsessing ways
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• to ‘lose’ your virginity assumes that there was something to be "lost."  

let's find out. :)

• what if we thought of it outside of the biblical ‘loss’ framework, and defined it as a gaining of experience, on this, the planet earth? 

• yes, it’s another ‘snow day’ in north carolina.  that being said, it’s a given that i’d end up watching videos and reading articles that i’d never, ever see on a normal day. 

• the ‘losing virginity’ piece interested me, because of the innate bias surrounding the idea that ‘virginity’ was something to be kept and valued. 

• as a male, i’ll state plainly that, when it comes to first-time sex with a woman, the last experience that you’d want is one with a virgin.  you’d want someone who was comfortable with sex, someone who was comfortable with her body, someone who was comfortable with sexploration, and yes, someone who was comfortable! 

• any girl/woman who has been brought up to believe that she’d be ‘losing’ a prized possession would most likely have some thoughts/ideas/anxiety about the situation. 

• if you’ve ever had good sex, you know that ‘anxiety’ was probably not high on the list of emotions that transpired during the experience. 

• someday, women will re-cognize that they’ve been fed a diet of bullshit by men (and women) of power who sought to control female sexuality. 

• don’t let them tell you that you are ‘losing’ your virginity.  instead, tell those old, dried-up, limp elders that you are intelligent, you are aware, you are in touch with your body, you are in charge of the situation, and that you decide what to do with what you’ve got. 

• ‘losing’ your virginity (is a misnomer).

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[i] martino, j. (2.26-1.2015). losing your virginity. book 75: lost & found. © 2015 by joal martino.