b113 (2.9-3.2023): duplexity

duplexity [i]
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let’s make it forever
what will be, will be
friends might say “oh never!  oh, what’s next?”:  duplexity
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·       i’ve always thought that the best cohabitation agreement would be the duplex:
   o   you get your side, and your stuff, and your bed, and
   o   s/he gets he/r side, and he/r stuff, and he/r pets.
 
why, you ask?
 
·       you both get to decide what you’d like to hang on the walls.
·       you both decide when to go to bed, and when you’d like to sleep.
·       you both decide how to wash and fold clothes before you both decide where and how the clothes are hung -- or not.
 
the romance can still be there:
 
·       you can still seduce each other.  

"dinner at my place, baby?"

·       you can still do what other cohabitants already do (sleep in separate beds), but it will be because you live in separate sides of the duplex.  you’ll sleep together when you want to! 
·       you can be “the odd couple” …yet not have to have each-others’ oddness in your face on a daily basis.
·       you don’t have to have the same tv or media habits.

…and on, and on, and on…
 
truth be told… separate houses might be an even better solution to the cohabitation challenge.  after all, who decided that people who love each other have to live together and sleep together?  the person who decided that... must have been in a honeymoon phase.
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[i] martino, j. (2.9-3.2023). duplexity. book 113: close shave. © 2023 by joal martino.
 
* the key to “duplexity” is that you are both inter-independent: making each-others’ lives better while not needing your beloved to behave in a way that suits your own, egoic needs.