b98 (1.28-1.2021): forGive & re-Member

forGive and re-Member ^[1]
by miss information
 
forGive and re-Member
let them live, but live
forGive and re-Member
re-Member (forGive)
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forGiveness is not a top-down pardon to person or process that hurt us. 
 
forGiveness is a gift to ourselves, as we purge the poison from our own veins and re-lease the negativity that coincides with shaming, blaming, vindictiveness, etc.
 

does this mean that we “forget”? 

no.

to forget would be stupid.

 
obviously, learning from the past and preventing future transgressions is important.
 
example: if i get mugged at 3 am -- in a back alley, south of charlotte, i’d better remember:
 
((3 am/back alley/charlotte/potentially bad idea.))
 
the forgiveness piece occurs when i can under-stand the mugger, when i can empathize and “put myself in his shoes.”  to re-Member is to re-Une.  it is the namaste’ of forGiveness.
 
further analysis can be conducted when discussing “punishment”:
·        how harmful was the intent of the transgression?
·        how many times did the transgression occur? 
·        how long ago did it occur?  days?  weeks?  months?  years?  decades?
·        is the perpetrator committing the same transgressions, at present?  is this a pattern?
·        did the victim play a role in the transgression?
·        does the victim share some responsibility for the transgression?
·        is the perpetrator sane?  does he/she have the mental capacity to cease the behavior? 
·        can he/she be rehabilitated?  can he/she presently contribute, and live in society?
·        will the punishment prevent future transgressions -- without inciting others?
 
in any event, we need to drop the “forgive and forget” mantra.  a suggestion is to replace the old mantra with its modern version (maybe use it in the title of a thoem).
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[1] martino, j. (1.28-1.2021). forGive and re-Member. book 98: januflection.  © 2021 by wellnesseducation.us

*can we allow those who've wronged us to live, and can we live with ourselves for those who we have wronged?