b81 (6.18-1.2018): true infidelity

true infidelity [1]
by i. n. fidel 
 
1.      the action or state of being unfaithful to a spouse or other sexual partner.
"her infidelity continued after her marriage" ·
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synonyms: unfaithfulness · adultery · unchastity · cuckoldry · extramarital relations ·
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2.      unbelief in a particular religion, especially Christianity.
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what is True infidelity?
 
“True” infidelity is the lie (one that we’ve told ourselves) that we can ‘own’ another person.  it’s the lie that we can control his/her thoughts, feelings, emotions, and passion.

it’s the lie that they can somehow ‘promise’ u ‘fidelity’ (our definition of it, of course) for a lifetime – and in some cases, beyond.
 
it’s the insidious lie that is preached to us by parents, friends, clergy and elders: the lie that portends that people need to ‘promise’ a certain form of ‘love’ to another person.  just think about y/our (True) Love relationships: they don’t need a contract or a promise.  Love = Love!
 
the problem, my friends, isn’t the infidel.  the problem begins with the lie – the lie that allows us to play ‘holier-than-thou;’ the lie that allows us to profess our own righteousness; the lie that allows us to incur ‘pain’ when another human being doesn’t behave in the way that we’d like them to behave. 

similar to the santa claus lie, it is told and sold (almost) universally.  unfortunately, many never grow out of the lie that is (in itself) ‘infidelity.’  it is born out of one of the most mind-controlling lies ever told: faith.
 
it’s a lie that is directed at women, who end up falling for it -- and trapping themselves into a lifetime of servitude to the very perpetrators of the lie.  when directed at men, it traps a man into a lifetime of guilt and regret.
 
true infidelity is lying to ourselves… and believing that things ‘should’ be the way that we want them to be.  in Truth, life Is.  feelings and emotions (especially those of others) are not things that we can control. 
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[1] martino, j. (6.18-1.18). true infidelity.  book 81: cult-i-vation. © 2018 by wellnesseducation.us.